Does anyone find it wrong if a married man calls a married woman beautiful?

[Anonymous]

It doesn't make sense to me is all. I just find it odd that my husband isn't attracted to anyone but me and someone else husband finds me beautiful. But my husband also dosent tell me I'm beautiful all that much. It's been years since he has.

[Anonymous]

Trust me your husband finds other women beautiful. He just isn’t stupid enough to tell you that because he knows it would hurt your confidence. Make you question if you’re still good enough for him. A million things will go through your mind if he told you that he finds other women beautiful. It may be weird if he’s constantly telling another girl she’s beautiful. But if she’s having a bad day, maybe broke up w her man he may try to boost her ego.

[Asker]

My husband doesn't do that though at least from what he tells me. Then again I dont know. But another woman husband finds me beautiful also. So I'm already being called beautiful but another married man.

[Opinion Owner]

So does he do it all the time calling you beautiful?
I think your husband is just smart enough to not say such things to you as far as other beautiful women.

[Asker]

No the other guy just said it once so far. I dont care if he does think that. I'm nothing special to be married to. Plus I'm unhappy with him.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry to hear that. Why are you unhappy w him? So does that other man who tells you you’re beautiful park your interest or make you feel good by saying that?

[Asker]

My husband lacks a lot of things. And yes because the other man has already had my attention when I first meant him.

[Opinion Owner]

May I ask what he lacks? How long have you two been married?

[Asker]

Romance, affection, attention, sex at times, just not always being there, plus his angry side scares me.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry to hear that. Have you tried talking to him about it. Sometimes I feel like a lot of us men lack that. Not so much the sex, cause most of us still want sex.

[Asker]

I have and nothing has changed.

[Opinion Owner]

How long you two been together? You have kids w him? Why do you say you’re nothing special to be married to?

[Asker]

7 years together, 3 years married, one kid, because I can't do anything right in his eyes. Plus he could find someone better than me more successful, knows how to cook and clean etc.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you think so low of yourself?

[Asker]

Because I have been this way since i was a teenager. Never thought of myself as attractive woman because I didn't have very many guys tell me I'm beautiful, not many boyfriends, or crushes or anything.. plus I never learned how to cook and clean and all that stuff.

[Opinion Owner]

We’re most of the relationships you had long ones or short? You can always still learn to cook. It’s not that hard, rather easy actually.

[Asker]

Very short. Less than 5 months.

[Opinion Owner]

Would you mind describing what you look like?

[Asker]

Yeah I do mind. I'm just downright ugly.

[Opinion Owner]

Well I wish you wouldn’t feel that way about yourself. I can’t change how you feel about yourself. You sound like a nice person. Just sound as though you’ve had a somewhat rough life. Maybe I’m wrong

[Asker]

Maybe a little bit rough but I survived.

[Opinion Owner]

So tell me a little about yourself

[Asker]

Why? Lol

[Opinion Owner]

Just making conversation. Seem like a nice person. Nice to meet someone new.

[Asker]

There's not much tell about myself. I enjoy reading, music and watching movies and TV shows, shopping of course, and traveling.

[Opinion Owner]

Interesting. I like to travel a lot. Don’t much like reading so I listen to audio books. What’s a favorite movie of yours? I like a lot of movies I don’t think I could pick just one. I spent 10 years in the military.

[Asker]

I'm 80s movie freak. So like the breakfast club, uncle buck, sixteen candles, etc. But I also like movies like the fugitive, u. s. marshals, what lies beneath, I like different plots also. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

Those are some good movies. I love the breakfast club. Sixteen candles is one of my favorites. I like military movies of course. One girly movie that I really like is Last Christmas. What kind of food do you like? Where have you traveled?

[Asker]

Mostly I prefer pizza, or a nice steak dinner at a restaurant cause I dont cook food that great. Not many places just states mostly around me never been out of the country.

[Opinion Owner]

I see. Well I love pizza that’s for sure. When I was up in New York City I tried as much pizza as I could. Also love steak for sure. I traveled a lot in the military as well as a civilian. Japan, South Korea, Italy as well as manny other places. So why did you not learn to cook? Just wasn’t interested?

[Asker]

No I just never really had anyone teach me. I didn't think at my age I would be married with a kid already I always thought I would be alone for the rest of my life. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

So let me ask. Does your self-esteem come from when you were younger or something? Do you live in the states? I live in Arizona.

[Asker]

Well yes and now even it hasn't changed much. I never been a noticeable woman to any guys all that much. Men these days mostly just want a body and a pretty face in woman even if they get treated like shit by them. I live in Indiana.

[Opinion Owner]

Was your mom the same way? Low self-esteem? So if you don’t think you look good why do you think your husband had been w you all this time as well as having had a child w you?

[Asker]

Nope. Just me. Honestly I don't know maybe to cope with being lonely or just dont want to be alone with 2 cats and a dog. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

I see. So what are your plans today? I just got off work.

[Asker]

Hopefully not doing anything. Trying to stay home today.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you say trying like you may be forced to go somewhere?
So tell me what’s your favorite kind of pizza? I like just about any pizza.

[Asker]

I'm not I'm just hoping i dont need anything today. I'm trying to relax. My favorite is pepperoni.

[Opinion Owner]

Pepperoni is good. I like a nice wood oven pizza w a crispy crust w mushrooms. But I like everything so doesn’t matter what’s on the pizza.
Do you work?

[Asker]

Yes just during the weekends though.

[Opinion Owner]

What does your husband do? So how long has it been since he ended up being the way he is now? Do you two ever really get intimate a lot?

[Asker]

And IT guy, been a while now, 5 years i would say, and not really. Hence is why I look for another man.

[Opinion Owner]

So what you be looking for in a man? Would you be willing to learn to cook?

[Opinion Owner]

How old is your child?

[Asker]

Someone who's affectionate, romantic, listens to me more than his phone, everything that I see in the other guy I like who is simply amazing he's just always surprises me with the things he does. And yes I can learn just depends on what I like to make food wise, and my son is 2.

[Opinion Owner]

I see. So is the other dude single? Ideally what would you like? I mean to be a wife, stay home, or to work? Tell me something random about you

[Asker]

No he's actually married. But he's very attracted to me. Lol well I enjoy being at home but I also love working because I can get away from my kid.

[Opinion Owner]

So why did you say your husband isn’t attracted to anyone but you but you let not happy w him? Would you flirt w the other dude if he flirted w you? Was your son planned?

[Asker]

Because he's not it's really strange. And yeah I'm not happy because the marriage in general is not great. And yes we kinda flirt a little bit. And no he wasn't planned.

[Opinion Owner]

So I take it your son was born before the two of you got married? Did you two get married because you had a son together or were you really in love w one another?
How could a man flirt w you to get
Your attention?

[Asker]

No I was just pregnant when we got married. Mostly cause we need to be married for health insurance reasons actually. Well the other man we already told each other how we feel about each other just won't act on it though.

[Opinion Owner]

So you didn’t even love him you just needed the insurance?
You sure you would never act on the flirting w this other man? I think if he really tried he could get you to act on it. It sounds as though you look somewhat descent looking. I mean you’ve gained another man’s attention. What color are your eyes?

[Asker]

No. I wasn't expecting a baby so soon either. And I dont act on it because I'm waiting for him to make the first move and the other guy I like is someone that would actually like me cause he's a cute nerdy guy. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

So if he did try to do something w you you would reciprocate it? You sound like a nice person to flirt w

[Asker]

Well yeah I would. Cause i like him a lot.

[Opinion Owner]

Even though he’s married? Lol

[Asker]

Well not my fault he's unhappy. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

Did he tell you he’s unhappy?

[Asker]

Yes. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

What a lucky man he much better.

[Asker]

Definitely. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

Now you’re making game I was him

[Opinion Owner]

So why don’t you initiate something?

[Jamie05rhs]

Slightly inappropriate at least.

[dustybiker]

So remind him. Men aren’t mind readers. If you want to hear it point it out, kindly.

Good men can find a way to tell a woman she is beautiful without implication.

[dustybiker]

Thank you for the mhg.

[Reddy4it]

I think people can find others attractive, sure…but expressing it is important…

[jshm2]

You're just making drama where there is none, kiddo.

Maybe ask your husband for a bit more attention?

[LimitedBenefits101]

So you want to be called beautiful all the time? get a life.

[Dk9rhybtbd]

Talk to husband or manipulate him into calling u sexy

[Anonymous]

Need more context, how did this happen?

[Asker]

How did what happen?

[Opinion Owner]

Did he just randomly say it front of you, or did you ask him if the women in question was beautiful.

[Asker]

Oh lol no not my husband but another woman husband told me I was beautiful.

[Opinion Owner]

Ohh, ok, thanks. He was probably just flirting.