Is marriage without children happier?

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The_Shadow_Dweller · Accepted Answer

I ask this question to many girls. Their answer is, what is it that binds you two? Either by your choice or by reluctance due to some reaponsibility?

Children more or less act as a glue between parents. They sovle some problems the parents couldn't.

I also talked about this with my mom. She said, a child does not require anything but your attention for the first five years. After that, it is able to take care for itself.

Hence, she does not see any point in planning a child (but planning marriage is cool). Even when you are financially unstable. She speaks. Not I.

But, still, everything depends on the couple only. Some couples just don't want children. That is also fine. Just depends on the couple.

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

I know very few childless couples who are happy in the long term and don't have regrets about not having kids; in fact the only exceptions are couples who can't have kids for whatever reason, and most of them ended up adopting.

It's perfectly normal (and frankly probably a good thing to a degree) to not want kids at your age, but don't be surprised when your life outlook starts to change pretty dramatically in about 2-5 years or so, so I would advise not doing anything to screw yourself over in the near future.

Paulalove98 · Accepted Answer

Some people can be happy and content without kids but personally I like children and I’ve known I’ve always desired to be a mom whether it’s conceiving naturally or adopting. Kids aren’t easy to take care of obviously as they take a lot of patience, time, finances, etc but I wanna have my little best friend I can go on adventures with in the world and see them grow and accomplish their dreams and protect them:) I don't know but to me a beautiful child can spread the love in a marriage between two people that care and already love one another.

Subarugirl · Accepted Answer

The American Sociological Association recently conducted a study on this very topic and found that parents are more likely to be depressed than their childfree counterparts. In fact, people without kids were happier than any other group, including empty nesters.

so according to the research and the statistics, yes.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Most people who get married begin their mariage with no children, then they start having kids. I have met very few parents who expressed regret about having children. So I assume they are happier with children.

Guy13 · Answer

Probably not missing a great adventure. And you will want lineage one day. Some of my family are 48. Kids out the house-university and they are like teenagers…. It’s cute and probably be grandma/pa by 56…😎

Summeroflove · Answer

This totally depends on the married couple

mstbooblover · Answer

Usually, when two people marry, the logical result is having children. Some couples don't have or can't have children of their own, and then some go for adoption, and others, as my wife and I, just live that way. I think that the notion "happier" to be not very relevant, because happyness is a result of a life well balanced between realization of tendencies and obligations.

Every genuine way of life may result in being happy, with or without children. The notion "children" can also be extended, for instance to house animals, artistic productions, inventions, etc.

Pudsmucker · Answer

Marriage is a long haul with give and take from both sides. There's never 50/50 but it's 60/40 from both of you. Sometimes it's 100% taken care of your spouse. The other time it might be 100% helping you. Then along comes the children and you give 100% for each child. There's long sleepless nights with ill children. Putting up with back-mouthing teenagers. Putting your children through school. Then is there any time for you hell no. Not until the last child's out the door. By the time you take time with your companion and learn more about them, they may die.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Last week while putting my 3yo daughter to bed, she squeezed my arms and said "daddy you have big arms". Im not even that fit but hey ill take it. I told her my "buff arms" will always help her and stop anything that tries to hurt her. She snuggled up to my chest and said "daddy, i wuv you"

As a man, I've never cried so much. It wasn't a sad cry... its just the pure happiness which comes from that little moment. How my 3yo girl, who's life purpose revolves around smashing play-doh and drawing stick horses, despite only 40 months of her little life, she still knows what love is.

Nobody can take that away from me.

Yes, kids are a pain in the ass. But i wouldn't miss it for the world.

Aggon1998 · Answer

I don't want children and I've known this for my whole life. That's why I will have sterrilization when I marry and engage in sex with my partner.

For my life I have other plans, my wife will be the most important person and our life will be just with the two of us. I don't feel love for babies, I have no patience for them. I won't want to make time for them. I would be a wonderful and caring husband, but not a great father. So I shouldn't become one.

HighValue · Answer

The "studies" that show that are intentionally deceptive. They need to survey people in their 60s that never had kids to see if they stayed happy long term without kids, which would not be the case.

There is no point in marriage if you aren't having kids together.

libsaretards · Answer

Depends on the couple. For it to work, BOTH have to not want kids.

Personally, I want children when I am married so I am incompatible with a woman who wants to remain childless. This does not mean she has to birth the child, though that is my preference. Adoption is totally viable. Either way, having kids is one of my hard lines.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes why not Marriage can be happy without children yes
But I’ll make sure there is a good reason why I don’t want to have children and not because “the world is overpopulated” this can be a reason but very evil and karmic to say. Humans believe it’s year 2022 and we are modernized and overpopulated so who cares.. life is ruined from man made rules where the ozone layer cow farts soy milk and watermelon steak gets more priority.

Anonymous · Answer

@monica3i Your question is too abstract to answer.
However I'd say, It truly all depends on the couple.
Some people want kids and without them they will be less happy.
Some people want kids and can handle them.
Some people want kids and cannot handle them on top of the marriage and life.

SpokenTruth · Answer

Obviously those years have past me by however there would have been no way I would have married someone that didn't want children. Having to live a life without children in it sucks I can attest. However God watched ver me as I could have had my children stolen living under a overpass.

jayhams · Answer

That would depend on if they both wanted children or not. If people get what they want they will be happier. So if they both wanted kids it would be happier and if neither of then want kids and they don't have kids then they would be happy. People have different preferences so different things make different people happy.

Looksnicholas · Answer

I would totally say so, and if I ever was to get married, which I don't want to am not keen on, I'd never want kids. It's selfish bliss for me in that type of marriage. as much as I thrive being single :)

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Depends on the couple really. Some couples marry, knowing ahead of time that they do not want children. For other couples, marriage is precisely for the purpose of raising children and having a family.

USLegionary · Answer

Probably not. There are so many couples out there who couldn't have kids and are sad about it.

Lliam · Answer

My wife and I are happy to have never had kids. Don't need the drama, responsibility or expense.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I think it depends on the people. But I do think that the ones who don't use any form of protection and just start popping out babies right away have a more stressful life than those who plan their pregnancies.

maximumpower · Answer

Was much less complicated, that's for sure.
A real kicker - life without marriage is MUCH happier.
Poll everyone you know. You'll find that those who were never married or divorced are FAR less miserable than those who are still married.

Twalli · Answer

It can be because you can do what you want without having to worry about children. If you want to go to a sex party, then you can without your kid's friend's parents judging you. The only people who will care are those at the sex party with you.

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