Do some people honor sex after marriage?

[cth2188]

Why is it important to have sex before marriage? Why is it that some people can't respect that some people have religious beliefs/ views? I've made the vow not to deal with this generation due to oversexualization behavior. Sex is a beautiful thing when it's with the right person before God. I'd date anyone who doesn't believe in God or anyone who doesn't respect God's laws. If I'm good enough for sex then I should be good enough for marriage. I don't fornicate. There's too many people fornicating and temples aren't clean. Your temple belongs to your spouse, not the world.

[caring__1]

It is important to respect people's choices. That doesn't mean we need to choose people whose beliefs are contrary to ours, but how can we expect consideration for others if we don't give consideration to them? You seem to want people to conform to your belief rather than just accept the fact you are choosing to limit your opportunities to those who conform. It's not about telling others they should believe as you do; it's about choosing people who already believe as you do.

Not all people prioritize being married, so expecting them to want to marry is being insensitive. Not all people want to gamble with important aspects of a relationship. It's amazing how many people say "just trust me." Would you choose a partner without first knowing whether you are compatible financially or in the area of communication? Keeping people in the dark till they feel stuck is deceptive. How can anyone predict compatibility without experiencing that which you want to be compatible? While looking for tenants, I can't tell you how many people want to rent who say "I know my credit is bad, but I'm a Christian, so you can trust me." I'd rather deal with those who pay the rent rather than promise to pay the rent. I have tended to be too trusting, so I've been burned too many times by people who feel empty promises are good enough.

No one's saying you need to settle for someone who doesn't meet your expectations, but understand your expectations are limiting your opportunities. It's not about expecting others to be different, but accepting it is your choices that limit your opportunities. For instance, I choose to live on a farm in the country, even knowing that choice will remove a great number of women from my potential partner pool. I accept this is my choice rather than playing the victim and expect women to appreciate the challenges of country living. I want to know if a woman prefers urban living, but I have no desire to judge her choices or change her.

[cth2188]

I wouldn't date anyone regardless if you don't match I'm not dating an uneven or not yoked partner especially around religion exclusively now - wouldn't date anyone covid-19 vaccinated either

[cth2188]

If you don't match what I'm seeking I'm out

[cth2188]

There are certain beliefs I will not compromise on, like the vaccine status. My beliefs are already set in stone- way before I meet someone why I've been single since 2014 and I find I'm better alone because trying to find a partner who understands is extremely hard

[caring__1]

I'm confused. If you're choosing to not be with specific people, why are you so bothered by their choices? I respect the right of people to be gay, even though I wouldn't choose to be in an intimate, committed relationship with them. The choices of others aren't limiting you in any way... unless you expect them to change and be with you. We'll never get respect, consideration and understanding if we don't give respect, consideration and understanding. I've had 5 COVID vaccinations, and I'm healthier than most people I know. People are always cancelling their appointments with me due to being sick, yet I can't remember the last time I was sick. What if you thought someone was ideal for you, but he refused to divulge his religious beliefs till after marriage? I'm sure there are plenty of things you'd insist on knowing before you sign on the dotted line. You are free to choose what must be divulged before marriage, and so is everyone else.

[cth2188]

I'm not bothered by their choices their bothered by mines knowing they can't match or meet what I'm seeking. I don't change people, and I don't want anyone to try to change my beliefs. I'm still single until married. A lot of people have been lying to get with me. I'm simply not stupid and don't deal with fakes.

[cth2188]

I had a lot of men and women approach me knowing they took the covid-19 vaccine [ I date women ]

[caring__1]

Yes, just like everyone else, you're single till you're married. That makes sense. You pick and choose your beliefs, just like everyone else. If you go to a church that has 100 members, there will be 100 different belief systems. You don't want you or your partner to have had any sexual experiences prior to marriage, yet you're OK with dating women (something taboo in most Christian churches). My temple belongs to me, not my spouse. It's something I choose to share with a partner... not something I'm obligated to give. Who wants anything given out of obligation rather than desire?

No one's saying you need to be in a relationship or accept people you're not attracted to. People will show interest in you, even before they know your preferences. I don't judge or get upset with gay men or fat women who show interest in me. I just know that doesn't work for me. You say you're not bothered by the choices of others, yet your actions show you are. I don't come on this site and ask why gay men and fat women are showing interest in me, yet you do.

[cth2188]

I'm not Christian nor religious - so finding a partner in a church isn't an option. I don't follow religion , but believe in God.

[cth2188]

People think the can fornicate before marriage and I do what I mean by your temple belongs to your spouse. Until I'm married I don't have sex and since I know a lot of people can't wait until marriage for sex or even desire marriage it's pointless to date. Why I've been single 11 years - many people in the church took the covid-19 vaccines - once again I will not date you if you are vaccinated. Idc how many you took I simply won't date you

[caring__1]

You say you've been celibate for 11 years and your last relationship was 9 years ago. That implies you're not a virgin. I also haven't been intimate with anyone in that much time, yet that doesn't mean I wouldn't be open to being intimate with the right person. I'm open to the right person for me, but that doesn't mean I have any problem passing on opportunities that aren't right for me or judging those who aren't right for me.

[caring__1]

You sound like President Clinton www.nbcnews.com/.../clinton-i-did-not-have-sexual-relations-with-that-woman-248273987946

You're like everyone else... picking and choosing whatever you wish. There is no problem with anyone picking from the menu. My concern is when people make an issue out of something that isn't an issue. Maybe this quote from Hamlet might help you understand what I am saying. "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."
nosweatshakespeare.com/.../

[cth2188]

I can choose who I want to date with I feel like it and if you don't match what I'm seeking adios. I domt settle nor waste my time with people who can't match what I'm seeking in a partner. I have a lot of beliefs and one of them isn't to date anyone who took a gene altering FIX which is the covid-19 vaccine so my dating pool has been knocked down. My partner would have to be God fearing and have faith in God clearly the people who took the shots don't nor do I want a partner whose been genetically modified. So trying to find a pure partner is slim - I've been fine single and accepted finding a partner who aligns may not ever happen and I'm ok with that. I have other beliefs that can be compromised a bit , but I'm finding the people who approach me can't respect that.

[cth2188]

I don't know why you felt the need o bring up politics as I'm not political the issue wity this country politics divide just like religions

[cth2188]

My beliefs are laid out. I won't even engage with you or take it to the next step if you took those shots. You're vaccine status will be mentioned so it's pointless to even approach me. Idc if you took 1 you're still disqualified as a dating partner for me

[cth2188]

I want a partner who's going to be around for the long haul, and I don't have to worry about them getting sick or dying suddenly due to an expiration date from an experimental vaccine

[cth2188]

My partner would have to be 100 pure not shots , no masks, amd no tests - I've come across many who regret it well I'm sorry the damage has been done and there's no coming back from those shots

[cth2188]

To* even mention politics

[cth2188]

Yes I respect everyone, but it doesn't mean I have to deal with you on a romantic level

[cth2188]

Vaccinated people need to date each other and those who aren't should date each other

[caring__1]

I have no problem with your choices in partners, but there's no reason to claim your beliefs are facts when it comes to others. People will generally accept and respect your choices if you are clear without throwing out judgements on them. Just say "I'm not interested." You don't need to explain yourself, as your explanations come across as being critical of anyone who doesn't agree with you.

One thing you mention, that always causes me to laugh when I hear it, is saying you want your partner to be "God fearing." It makes no sense to me when I hear people say how God is all loving, yet everyone is to fear him (or should I say her or them?). My dog is a lover. Do you think she'd want me to fear her? Would that make her more comfortable around me?

[cth2188]

Idc about vaccinated people respecting mines - I will not date you if you are vaccinated that's 80% of the world- 80% of the world vaccinated with 1 or more vaccines... so I have to weed through 80% of the world to find 20% of the dating pool... not including if you ar married and single , but don't want to date. I don't have a dating pool 😕.. if I want a genetically modified partner I'd be open to dating one , but I don't keep your spiked proteins to yourself from those vaccines

[cth2188]

I dont fear anyone vaccinated. I don't want your mrna shedding near me there is data confirming what these vaccines are doing to you it's been out 2 1/2 years

[Lliam]

I would NEVER marry anyone who wouldn't have sex before marriage. I would assume that they were lousy in bed. Sex is obviously unimportant to them. And with their strong-willed attitude, they wouldn't follow the man's lead and go with the flow during sex even after marriage.
A girl like that wouldn't be sensual, erogenous, or revel in sexuality. I can't imagine her swallowing cum or sucking my dick when it's covered with cream from being inside her. She might protest against certain positions. She would have to be in "the mood" before letting a man enjoy her. She probably only wants sex for procreation.
Who knows? That's the point. I wouldn't sign a life long contract without knowing what I was getting.

And frankly, I don't want someone who refuses to live life because of inhibitions about sex. I place zero value on virginity or "purity".

That's just me. I'm not judging anyone else's preferences or values.

[cth2188]

Well Lilam thank God I don't date men nor men like you why we should find partners who we vibe with

[cth2188]

And or compatible with - I only deal with like-minded partners who honor marriage and commitment

[Lliam]

I believe in marriage and commitment. I've been married now for over 26 years. But I don't believe that holding out on sex is the way to get commitment. Sex isn't a bargaining chip. And agreeing to sex after marriage won't guarantee a lifetime commitment.

I believe that not having sex is a waste of a person's life. It's a form of asceticism. How noble. LOL

I think religious views on celibacy are akin to requiring priests to be celibate. What's the point? That's not God's law.

[Paige90]

Do you think it's ok to do other things before marriage like handjobs or blowjobs?

[cth2188]

Fore play is fine I won't have sex until marriage

[cth2188]

Most people can't contain their flesh, even for marriage they immediately need sex

[PraviteliNahuiValite]

Sex is the marriage that binds people physically and spiritually.

[cth2188]

Having sex before marriage is fornicating

[PraviteliNahuiValite]

Then don't.

Much better to marry 50 times and divorce 50 times so you can fuck 50 people legally, than choosing your partner wisely and sticking with them?

[cth2188]

I've been celibate 11 years and don't sleep around