How does a job holder woman manage her food cooking?

[Anonymous]

I believe that girls should be as equal as guys in their jobs as well as careers. But according to the society standards, society expects a girl to become a housewife looking household duties after she gets married and that she should be a homemaker instead of doing a job. But according to this generation, now girls are competing with guys equally in their jobs and getting settled in their jobs. When a guy does a job and is married to a girl, he expects a girl to cook for him, wash his clothes, clean the house, look after home, etc. But how does a girl manages her work schedule if she is continuously working throughout the day with her job? How should she manage her cooking, clothes, home cleaning duties? If she gets married to a guy who also does a job and works continuosly throughout the day, if both of them do the job, who will cook for them, wash their clothes, clean their home, etc? How should that couple manage this?

[melanieeeB]

Get a man who is supporting and can cook and clean.
I manage to cook after work but I can't clean everyday and I don't cook daily, I meal prep every 2-3 days but I'm single for now.

But I don't date a man who can't cook and clean, that's one of the first things I ask and if he can't do that he is out.
For example my ex would help me out and thankfully also see it as obvious that he has to do the same shit as me. If he wouldn't have that mindset, I wouldn't have waisted one more min with him.

[Anonymous]

Both have to put equal effort into the relationship. Often you see couples that aren't 50/50 in terms of money don't share equal housework but ultimately housework is easy especially if there's only two people. The washing machine does the washing, the dish washer washes the dishes, wipe down kitchen surfaces, vacuum and mop floors. All takes 30-60 mins after work. Basically just adult stuff.

My wife for instance works a 9-3pm job and usually has most of the housework done and dinner made before I get home at 5.30pm and I don't just plonk myself down every evening and crack open a beer, I've stuff to do to and spend time with the kids. Then I've all the outside work and home maintenance stuff to do. I also help out with the cooking. We are very dependent on my wage and I have to keep the job

[Effably]

I don't think anyone reasonable expects their wife to be both chasing a career and doing ALL the household chores. That's silly and unfair.

As a person expecting her to pursue a career I also fully expect we do half the chores each with the understanding that I will likely spend more time on my half. I would never expect her to do everything unless...

She and I decide she'll stay at home. If I am the sole provider of the family, I do expect her to in turn ensure near all household tasks are handled. Which I feel is perfectly fair.

I believe that most men, whether stuck in the 1950s or living in the present, fall into one of those two camps. So you should never have to worry about doing 100% of each while living with someone.

[Kori1236]

Ideally they'd switch off or they'd cook and clean together. If I’m seeing a guy and we’re both working and career driven and he expects me to clean up after him and cook for him then I’d be sending him back to his parents because he’s not done being raised. The alternative would be discussing it with him and if I see no improvement I’ll clean up after myself and cook for myself and he can do the same for himself. Fortunately there are loads of guys out there that take on equal work and responsibility in a relationship.

[spartan55]

When I was married my ex came up with a plan for all that. We discussed which household duties each of us would be responsible for and it worked pretty well. The only curveball was the swimming pool, and neither of us knew how much work that would be. As far as cooking: two nights I cooked, two nights she cooked, the other three nights were go out to eat, leftovers, etc. We both worked full time jobs.

[spartan55]

*my ex and I

[AydenHazor]

You should be dividing up responsibilities between you at home as well. I would never expect a partner to do all the cooking and cleaning, etc, because I cute then as a partner and we each do our share

[Apple1996]

Doesn't matter if a woman works or stays home. A grown man needs to care for his own responsibilities like cooking/cleaning for himself

[MountAverage]

Don't be with a guy who's not willing to share the chores. Isn't that obvious?

[Jamie05rhs]

You have two options in this case:

1. Hire a maid.

or

2. Share the work.

[Anonymous]

If both have careers it's life on takeout food or hiring staff

[serious_miss419]

Society is no one’s Boss or Lord.

[serious_miss419]

And in regards to that direction of a question, I would suggest not having a man and then you’ll find everything to be easier without the pressure

[Asker]

Yeah

[jimmy2]

On days off I cook mostly one day a month freeze it up then minutes to food hot