My Partner I been w/ for 4 years said he don't believe in marriage because he scared of the big commitment but I want to be married what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[lightbulb27]

explore the fear and assess if it can be overcome. there's all sorts of obstacles in life. People are going to have fears.

I know for me I had them in spades. Once I committed to my girlfriend now wife, I committed, we worked out some things and it's really good. I put my fears aside and I took the chance.

It's kinda like jumping off the ledge into the water. There's no way around it if one has been raised with fear.

not believing in marriage is another deal though. This is a hard boundary for you... either he commits to address this, or you move on. The pain of loss or the opportunity ahead, may entice him. Then your job is to make it easy so he doesn't back out:)

[Anonymous]

You could try takin g to him about it. Find out why? What’s going on? If he still doesn’t want marriage. Leave. If he doesn’t want that then you need to respect his feelings. It’s always an issue when it comes to women’s needs or wants in a relationship but men are just supposed to go along w it. If that’s what you want then you find someone who wants the same.

[Anonymous]

scared of commitment yet has stayed in a committed relationship for 4 long years... his reasoning is bullshit.

[Gent207-2]

Break up and run

If he agrees it's just to please you abd after that he'll resent you till he cheats, disorder divorces you.

Seriously RUN

[UniquelyBasic]

Is marriage that important to you or do you feel pressure from family, friends and other external sources to get married?

[LazerBean]

Should have left 4 years ago.

[Anemone978]

Go your separate ways..

[riverrat3]

Move on