Would you get mad/offended if your rich SO offered a prenup?

[marish01]

Yes

No

[hIopinionated_]

For the most part, yes. But only because it seems he’s saying we won’t last, we will divorce at some point, and “you’re only with me for my money”. And knowing myself, that’s offensive since that’s not me


Another thing, if my SO offered a prenup yet expects me to be some submissive housewife, he’s obviously setting me up for failure. It’s saying “be my and our kid’s servant so I can be able make money easily since taking care of kids is time consuming and you’ll be doing that. He would obviously have a lot of free time to make money since the mother will be the servant taking care of the home and kid and he can just be able to come home to a clean disinfectant home and well taken care of child. He would be living as a king. He wouldn’t have to cook, clean, maybe even wouldn’t have to change a diaper, etc. Because oh wait, just so he can leave me broke and take our kid because, you know ill be poor because of the prenup that says you don’t want any stability


The only way I wouldn’t be offended is if he signed a prenup as well, he wouldn’t expect me to be the only one giving time to caring for the home/children (as I could be making money during half that time. For, If I stay home, he’ll be making that money and I’ll be more prone to being broke in the relationship he believe will fail in the end). We would also have to have separate bank account and split time and everything needed for the relationship to work down the middle. Just so I’ll be fair and I’ll have my opportunity to make money (just as he does) that will help me in the future that my boyfriend believe is doomed


Anyone wants to live like that? Not me. Splitting everything? Paying close attention to what’s fair and what isn’t just to ensure I’ll have a future after he dumps me and leave me with nothing even though I cleaned his house and babysit our kid (and which he would most likely take our kid since I’ll be poor after being a housewife servant? Relationships should feel natural and flow well so making decisions like that with an assumption of future. . I’ll rather just be offended and not even bother with a guy like that

[Aerissa_Jade]

No, I would not as it protects me as much as him. I do believe that anything I have got before getting together is mine and same for him, no reason he should be able to go after my assets that I acquired before even meeting him. If the worst happens.

I call it hoping for the best and planning for the worst.

[SteveSmith1985]

Call me weird, but I would actually prefer a prenup in this case.

My thinking goes: There is nothing sadder to me than two people who don't love each other, but stay married for practical reasons. For the kids, or because you don't want to deal with an ugly divorce, the richer partner doesn't want their ex to get a bunch of their money in a divorce, etc.

That is an actual nightmare-scenario for me.

I want my wife to be with me because she loves me. I want to be the case for the entire course of my marriage. If for whatever reason she no longer loves me and wants to be with me; I WANT her to feel able to walk-away. If that's what she decides she wants to do.

I hate the idea of "trapping" my wife in a marriage she'd rather not be in.

I can appreciate how the richer partner might not be so happy about having to lose a bunch of THEIR money in a divorce situation. That's right and fair in some particular situations. But it's really not right or fair in many situations.

Since I'm not marrying her for her money. I'm not going to try and take any of it should either of us decide they no longer want to continue in the marriage. I don't want it. If you're leaving the marriage, I don't want your money. That's never what this was about.

So, I am not going to claim to speak "for guys" here. I'm pretty sure I'm an odd-duck when it comes to this particular question.

But I don't see a prenup as an indication that she doesn't have faith in the future of our marriage. I don't take it to be a statement on any lack of commitment/love etc on her part. I don't have any money. So I can be pretty damn sure she's marrying me for love.

The last thing I want, is for my wife to lose that love at some future point, but pretend and continue on in a fake-marriage because she doesn't want me to take half her money. If ever she wants to leave me. She should feel free to do so. Stay with me because that's what you WANT. Not "for the money."

For me. Bring on the prenup. Hell, I'll bring it up if you don't.

[Fireguy17]

Before we were married, we did one.
There is a large income disparity between my wife and myself.
This way if something were to happen, this is both our second marriage, we were both protected.
We have a separate household account that we both put an equal amount in every month that covers our monthly household bills.
Otherwise, she is free to spend what she wants as well as I and we have our own accounts.

I do not agree with her spending habits, she carries a monthly credit card balance, I do not, things like that but since it is not my money it is fine with me.
If I want to buy another motorcycle, car parts for my classic cars I do not have to run it through finance and planning.
We have never argued about money, which is one of the most common issues in a marriage.
I buy her all sorts of stuff, so it isn't like I don't spedn money on her.

[Summeroflove]

No I wouldn’t. It would depend on what’s on it. But if I was gonna marry someone…. She wouoe have to be someone I trusted and knew that she has my best interests in mind.


If not. We wouldn’t even be to that point

[marish01]

What trust have to do here? She will take your money if you get divorced

[Summeroflove]

I ain’t into women like that.

[Summeroflove]

What I said is. I wouldn’t marry someone I didn’t trust. Do you read what I said?

Many men marry low moral women because they sleep around and either get her pregnant or decides to get married because of sexual lust.

Same for women.

Sure there is bad people who play with good peoples hearts and seem good until later on.

But many times. When people are always in bad relationships. They’re part of the problem

[Walt832]

I don't mind 😁. I own a small business. Is best to have separate interests. Business depends losses and gains, expenses. A non prenup, If we break up for x reason, judge will go on the higher income, pay the other x amount. I honestly I wouldn't accept it, what she worked, she worked hard for it. Is the reason prenups are made to avoid that situation.

Marriage should only involve love not monetary.

Is hard to find a female that would accept prenups because they believe "what mine is his and what his is mine 🤷‍♂️"🤣.

But I swear if ever find a female and she brought it up. I won't hesitate signing it. Because first I felt in love they way she is not for the money.

Obviously, if y'all end up having kids. Then judge will go straight to child support which is inevitable.

[Moose304]

Regardless of their gender when a person gets married that brings a huge amount of property and wealth into the marriage it just makes good business sense to put that away so it is not fair game if the relationship goes south. There is considerable debate about the numbers but I choose to believe the 60% divorce rate stat. One point I would like to make though. Pre-nups are NOT ironclad. All across the US, they are being set aside. The largest reason is the damn fool uses something like legal zoom and screws up on a point of law. I saw one get tossed last year because the man had an affair, his then-wife divorced him and the first thing they did was ask the court to toss the prenup. It's gone now. Attorneys love prenups! They make a lot of money on both sides of them!

[HighValue]

People don't need to be rich to need a prenuptial agreement. Whatever their income and assets are, losing half of what they earned over many years can severely harm them financially and reduce their life satisfaction for MANY years. Any intelligent man should insist on a prenuptial agreement. Any hesitation on the woman's part and I'd end the relationship.

[Mandylynn]

Yes just because to me asking for a prenuptial is like them saying they don't expect the marriage to last or work out

Do I want their assets... no... but do I want to feel like they think we will work and last and don't need a prenup.. absolutely

[marish01]

So you deny the possibility of divorce? Lol

Would you not take half of his fortune if you get divorced?

[Anonymous]

No. I think both men as well as women should protect their assets if they’re going into a relationship w a lot of value. That isn’t an indication that you think the marriage will fail, but nowadays w the way the divorce rate is going there’s a good chance it could. Especially when women initiate about 80% of divorces. The way I look at it is if she’s so sure we’re going to be together for life than signing one shouldn’t be a big issue as it’ll never be exercised.

[Drumlin2001]

Wouldn't bother me. Would actually be good to set down arrangements for kids before we were married. I don't have a lot but earn enough for a home and to live so wouldn't want any/much of their wealth (would be nice if they'd clear the mortgage as a lot of wasted money on interest that could otherwise go to the kids)

[melanieeeB]

Nope, I would probably be the first to ask for a prenup lol

[Anonymous]

Half of marriages end in divorce and women initiate 80% of divorces, so despite what some users are saying here, prenups are for the protection of men far more than women.

Any man who gets married today without a prenup is a fool.

Any woman who gets offended by her fiancé requiring her to sign a prenup is either very naïve or very dishonest. If she refuses to sign it, she has done him a favor by showing her true colors before it's too late.

[marish01]

They want his money in case they get divorced. Of course they are against prenups

[DizzyDesii]

I want a prenup no matter which of us has the most money

[Red-Blaze]

I dont care how much they got
And got no issue with it
I got enguth on my own anyway to live, so if we break up going back to what was is not an issue for me
I completely get it, and its two sided anyway

[Apple1996]

I wouldn't marry anyone that wanted a prenup regardless if they were rich or poor

[marish01]

Would you take the half of his wealth if you got divorced?

[Apple1996]

Nah I'd take all of it 😂 really tho my husband is pretty chill and already said I can take everything if we ever split since I'd have the kids

[marish01]

That's why you don't want a prenup

[marish01]

But you better not get divorced. It will be hard to get a man when you're a single mom with 4 kids.

[Apple1996]

Not really. My mom got with my dad after having 5 kids and being divorced. Lots of guys are into single moms

[marish01]

Are into?
Lol
Why would they want to father another men's children?

[Apple1996]

Yes they are attracted to single moms cuz aren't trying to play games and are looking for actual companionship not just a boyfriend.

And some men just don't care about the biological thing. I've known men that never want their own yet adopt and foster kids. Same thing with becoming a step parent they don't mind caring for the woman's kids

[marish01]

This is the time I've heard men prefer single moms for serious relationships.
I heard many men use single moms as sex objects.

[Apple1996]

That could be true but from what I've seen most single moms end up remarried/in another serious realtionship within a few years of getting divorced. The ones that stay single are usually just doing that cuz they are happier single and being able to sleep around

[marish01]

But are those men high value men?

[Apple1996]

High value men aren't a thing lol

[marish01]

Low value men are a thing?

[Shamalien]

@Apple1996 you’re a bit out to lunch here. The men who date single moms generally do so out of necessity. Yeah there are benefits, especially for older more mature men who are sick of games, but biological programming causes us to shy away from supporting another man’s kids over our own. The guys I’ve known who dated single moms were obese and out of options. I wouldn’t treat your husband as disposable. While you may find a good man again it is a big dice roll

[Apple1996]

Nah not a thing either

[Apple1996]

@Shamalien eh not from what I've seen.. but could just be how I've lived around military culture and all that but I've know lots of guys that have traded their wives for single moms. Super common thing to happen around here. None of them are obese/unattractive.

And nah I would never trade my husband for another man. I'd def go for a woman if I was single again 😝

[douride2]

Not as long as he agreed to sign my prenup also.

[Anonymous]

Probably if it had a stipulations that they’d have to pay me a certain amount of money so I could have my own place if they wanted to divorce me so I wouldn’t be stranded, at least I wouldn’t want alimony, and could survive on my own. When married without a prenup, it seems like the woman gets alimony most times and the house or half yes it’s anyway that she probably didn’t even contribute to

[Agape93]

Yeah, as that implies they want something I won't do.

[marish01]

Why wouldn't you do?

[Agape93]

Get married

[OfMiceandMen]

Not at all. She's just trying to protect herself. I would never want to take anything that wasn't mine in the first place, anyways.

[Anonymous]

Helk yeah I'd be mad!
What's the point of marrying an old rich lady if I can't inherit all her money when she kicks the bucket in a few years?

[Gibbons44]

Definitely not.

I don't expect she's rich, am thinking I'd be financing both of our lives, future babies and retirement, maybe with some of her involvement - but I certainly would not want to be even a burden on my darling.

[Adaeva]

Of course not! It is his money so why should I object? If I believe I can do better in looks, status, money, or whatever, I will not marry the guy.

[genericname85]

well if they were rich, i wouldn't be offended. they got shit to lose. so it's fine.