Feel free to take this traditional vs non-traditional wedding survey?

[DizzyDesii]

If you don’t want to marry, you can answer hypothetically.

#1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everythings going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding?

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters?

#3 Would ya jump the broom?

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle?

#5 Marry in a church OR where?

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay?

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max?

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony?

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit?

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception?

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white?

#12 Do you think its wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only?

#13 Do you think its bad if the bride/groom see eachother before the wedding?

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do?

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married?

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake?

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties?

#18 While there, do you think its ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”?

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last?

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)?

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last?

#FeelFreeToList #21Questions

MY ANSWERS

#1 2-3 years #2 I rather they sit #3 ig #4 Mine won’t #5 outdoor waterfront venue #6 No #7 25k #8/9 No #10 Comfort/Alcohol-free #11 I prefer we all wear white #12 No #13 Yes #14 Rings or dog tags #15 Unsure #16 1 #17 Joint #18 No because they were not single while we were dating/engaged #19 Same; 3 days #20 Prefer no wedding party #21 3 hrs

[AimeeKyle]

#1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everythings going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding? 2 to 3 years.

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters? Yes.

#3 Would ya jump the broom? No.

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle? Yes

#5 Marry in a church OR where? Church but could be somewhere else too.

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay? Yes but could be open to other options.

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max? It would be a small intimate wedding with a big party / reception.

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony? Yes, opposite sides.

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit? No (white), pantsuit, definitely not my preference.

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception? Comfort food and open bar.

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white? No, but would think it’s a bit odd.

#12 Do you think its wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only? Yes.

#13 Do you think its bad if the bride/groom see eachother before the wedding? Yes, but not the end of the world.

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do? Rings

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married? No, but haven’t really kept track.

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake? 1 cake unless you both had distinctly different taste in cakes.

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties? Joint would be interesting and potentially more fun. I have been to many bachelor parties…. same old same old. I didn’t have one.

#18 While there, do you think its ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”? Lap dance out in the open. Ok, I guess.

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last? I would start it two days after. The day after, hang with friends and family and rest. Honeymoon, a week to 10 days.

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)? I would think you would want a best man and maid of honor at the bare minimum. If it’s your second outing, whatever you want to do.

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last? Ceremony, short and sweet. Reception/party, 2-4 hours.

[DizzyDesii]

#2/#4 any particular reason aside from tradition? #7 but whats your price point #11 i personally think everyone would look radiant in pictures #20 not anymore lol

[AimeeKyle]

#2 & #4 are just traditional. If the bride to be didn’t want that I could let those slide.
#7 I’m kinda skewed…. the first outing was 30k. A second outing would be a big party with food and open bar…. wouldn’t cost anywhere near that.
#11 Maybe for a group photo…. I don’t think I had one except for the wedding party and close family members.
#20 it’s been a long time since I have attended a wedding…. 😁

[DizzyDesii]

See how good this looks

[AimeeKyle]

That would probably be ok if everyone did it. I was thinking just a few people in the overall group.

[DizzyDesii]

No im referring to everyone including guests

[AimeeKyle]

If it was everyone, then that would be ok.

[TrillXHippy]

1. 4 years

2. Either that or they can stand after we kiss or both

3. If we talked about jumping the jump while we were dating and before we played our wedding then yes I would love that

4. Yes but no

5. We could marry in a church or have our wedding at your dream wedding location. I don't know my dream wedding location.

6. No

7. Not sure

8. Not mandatory

9. Not weird at all

10. Half formal and half comfort food. No alcohol and no open bar

11. Nope because of they get dirty they’ll be upset

12. I won’t suggest it

13. Yes but it could be an emergency where we’ll need to see each other

14. Rings will do

15. I truly don’t remember

16. 1 bride cake and 1 groom cake

17. Joint

18. No just like it wouldn’t be okay if I ended up getting angry

19. Not sure

20. Yes it would be odd if there were no bridesmaids/groomsmen or best man/maid of honor

21. Like 2 hours

[DizzyDesii]

#2 yea that would be cuter #4 huh? #10 i agree #11 i still prefer everyone in white #17 i agree #20 i dont trust a lot of people now so i dont have any anymore. The ones who would have been are no allowed to be my guests but nothing more

[TrillXHippy]

#4 I’ll prefer if the veil covers her face but it’s okay if it doesn’t #20 that’s fair enough

[DizzyDesii]

#4 the reason i said mine won't is vecause i want my hair in q bun and i just feel the veil would cover it/get in the way

[TrillXHippy]

Can’t help but think how beautiful you’ll look

[DizzyDesii]

Awww :D

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everythings going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding? - 1-2 years

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters? - I wouldn’t want have any guests other than maybe two people who are witnesses. They can be strangers.

#3 Would ya jump the broom? - What does that mean?

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle? - Either way is okay.

#5 Marry in a church OR where? - Marry in church would be nice. Just me, him and two strangers who can be the witnesses

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay? - We pay for everything ourselves.

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max? - It wouldn’t cost much. My ideal wedding is on an island, just me and my future husband, just vowing each other that we’ll be there. Weddings don’t need to have hundreds of people. That’s an intimate ceremony in my opinion, a moment I wouldn’t like to share with the whole world. I would like to make it our own adventure. Instead of wasting money on feeding guests, we’d have a crazy holiday, the best memory of our lives.

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony? - If I invite them, they can sit together.

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit? - Nope, love is pure. If you marry someone your love to them is pure and you start with a new blank page.

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception? - We could first get married on a beach or in the church and then the two of us would grab beers.

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white? - Yes!!! I am the princess that day, noone else.

#12 Do you think its wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only? - Whatever they want.

#13 Do you think its bad if the bride/groom see eachother before the wedding? - I don’t think so. But I would like to see him at the site where we are getting married so he sees me there for the first time.

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do? - rings would be nice cause girls always notice when a man is married. Potential threats are eliminated.

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married? - Never paid attention.

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake? - I wouldn’t want any cakes.

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties? - separate, of course!!!

#18 While there, do you think its ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”? - Yeah. I would also like to get one from a sexy male stripper. That would be my last time though. Why not.

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last? - I would like to get married while traveling, so yeah, that’s already a honeymoon.

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)? - Nothing is weird.

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last? - We would hurry to get married and then make love next to the cliff by the ocean.

[DizzyDesii]

#6 i agree
#7 this sounds soooo beautiful
#8 i really just want 5 of my fam members there (my mom, sis, grandparents and 1 cousin). I just feel kinda guilty if i dont invite my dad, 3 bros, aunt, other grandparents, uncle and other 2 cousins but i really dc to have them there. At least its no longer the 173 people that were on my side lol. And bow that i cut off 9 of my former best friends, i dont have to worry about them either
#14 sadly a lot of girls come on to the guy even stronger when they learn he's taken
#16 oh wow what in place of it?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

8. Yep, I feel you. I am also very close to my family.

For our families we would have a small family party when we’d be back from our island trip. 😇

#16 haha I love cakes, it just doesn’t fit the scenario I described above, maybe we can have ice creams? Haha. Or a small cake. Don’t know. Have never thought a lot about weddings haha

[DizzyDesii]

#8 oh my plan was to shut them out completely. I dont wanna celebrate with them at all lmao. Just the 5

[SamIam96]

#1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everythings going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding?

2 years...

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters?

Hell ya! She's the BRIDE

#3 Would ya jump the broom?

I wouldn't.

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle?

Yes. Tradition!

#5 Marry in a church OR where?

Church.

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay?

Fv¢k tradition. Loosely split costs between families. Unless one is significantly richer than the other.

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max?

6 months pay

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony?

see #4

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit?

The bride should wear a beautiful white dress regardless of her virginity.

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception?

Open bar and a special meal. Something you wouldn't normally have at home.

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white?

That'd be a little strange.

#12 Do you think its wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only?

It's a bit presumptuous. Don't do it. If someone asks the parents what the couple needs, they can take that opportunity to suggest.

#13 Do you think its bad if the bride/groom see eachother before the wedding?

OMG, yes. Don't risk pissing off fate.

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do?

Rings on the left ring finger. That's why it's the "ring finger". lol.

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married?

Nope

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake?

One cake

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties?

Definitely. That's why it's a bachelor/ette party. No mixing. You've got the rest of your lives together to mix.

#18 While there, do you think its ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”?

It's ok as long as he doesn't do anything he'd do while pleasuring his girlfriend/wife-to-be.

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last?

Yes start within a day and last at least a week. Two would be better.

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)?

A little odd, but worse things could happen

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last?

Ceremony: 30 minutes. Reception 3 hours.

[DizzyDesii]

#1 niiice #2 haha but its hard to see over the taller people #4 ahh so you’re traditional when it comes to weddings #6 or maybe you're not traditional lmao #8 okay make up your mind haha #11 i thunk it would look nice in photos #21 sounds ideal

[SamIam96]

Ok, Desii, we're close enough... Marry me.

Damn the 2 year thing

[DizzyDesii]

Hahaha I do

[SamIam96]

- 😘

[DizzyDesii]

💋💋💋

[Anpu23]

If you don’t want to marry, you can answer hypothetically.

#1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everythings going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding? at least1 year until egagement and another 6 months until the wedding

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters? Yes

#3 Would ya jump the broom? No.

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle? personal choice

#5 Marry in a church OR where? Private reception hall

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay? Yes

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max? Eh, it comes down to savings and income but certainly I would look at $5,000 to $10,000

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony? Yes

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit? No not in todays society

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception? Yes for alcohol, and I prefer a formal meal

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white? A little

#12 Do you think its wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only? Yes

#13 Do you think its bad if the bride/groom see eachother before the wedding? It's tradition, so yes

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do? My wife and I do not wear rings, but it is a nice jesture.

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married? Yes

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake? No a single cake

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties? Separate, come on it's supposed to be a last fling

#18 While there, do you think its ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”? Yes.

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last? Same/next day and a week or so would be nice

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)? A little

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last? No more then 3 hours, a half hour for the wedding, an hour for food, and an hour and a half of dancing and drinking.

[DizzyDesii]

#1 sounds ideal
#2 but its hard to see over others
#14 do you wear anything instead?
#17 fling of what? Its just supposed to be not seeing eachother before the wedding

[Anpu23]

yes, but it's always been your friends pulling you out to have a last time as a single person.

[DizzyDesii]

And thats part of why they are cut off now

[Titanic1912]

#1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everythings going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding? About 12-18 months.

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters? Yes

#3 Would ya jump the broom? What the hell does that mean?

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle? Only if she wants to.

#5 Marry in a church OR where? Definitely a church

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay? We should pay for our own

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max? No more than $4,000

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony? No. They should sit together.

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit? No

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception? Whatever food is fine but I will be the only one who won't drink any alcohol.

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white? Yes. Only the bride should wear white.

#12 Do you think its wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only? I don’t know

#13 Do you think its bad if the bride/groom see eachother before the wedding? No. That’s just a myth.

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do? The left ring finger should always be covered with a ring.

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married? No

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake? No. We should have one so we can cut it together.

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties? Separate

#18 While there, do you think its ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”? HELL NO!

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last? Start the same day and it should last a week.

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)? There should be one.

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last? However long we want!

[DizzyDesii]

#3 several meanings depending on the culture
#10 i dont drink so i dont want anyone else to at my wedding

[magiusX26]

i plan to never marry (hell even date again)

#1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everythings going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding?

gonna have to modify the age part of this seeing as am past being double that 21 listed. dating at least 3 years before even an inkling of proposing and at least a year after proposal till wedding.

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters?

that would be more of a bride's decision.

#3 Would ya jump the broom?

no. barely even know of this and always found it quite silly.

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle?

maybe as i have not given it any real thought.

#5 Marry in a church OR where?

realisticlly, sonewhere such as a park. dream wise, a very lavish mythical location such as a castle in the sky.

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay?

realistic, small wedding where both families chip in and the "gifts" are the other wedding guests also chipping in towards the costs as well as both of us (bride and groom) put towards the costs.

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max?

see #6

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony?

some members yes, but most should intergrate seeing as afterwards it should all be one family.

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit?

white being virginal is a bit silly to me. as for the pantsuit part i would have to be more traditional and insist on something more overtly feminine as in a dress.

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception?

i would preffer little to no alcohol involved. food would be a mix of formal and comfort.

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white?

not at all.

#12 Do you think its wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only?

see #6

#13 Do you think its bad if the bride/groom see eachother before the wedding?

neutral on this one. as in we can do this teadotion or not.

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do?

either is fine for at 1st but eventually we would move this "marking" into something more permanent than even a tatoo.

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married?

nope

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake?

would say separate cakes if wedding cakes usually didn't taste bad because otherwise it would mean more cake in the end. they taste bad because the more traditional icing on these types of cakes are made more with asthetics in mind than flavor as well as durability for things like shipping said cake to wedding venue. so only one small cake instead.

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties?

would rather skip these entirely

#18 While there, do you think its ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”?

if we do tgese parties, am fine with lap dances being a part of it but would preffer to forego recieving a lapdance myself. the one time i tried getting a lapdance, it just plain hurt as the stripper's ass cheek was nearing ripping my flacid dick off as she went a bit fast into that part of it and i have a lot of self control over that (easier when its a stripper because though they may be pretty/beatiful/sexy, its much less exiting because i know they are not coming home to please me bit instead are only teasing for pay. on top of that, lets say she did try coming home with me afterwards, i would question if it was for money only and/or how many others she was willing to go home with like that which both are huge turn offs) . and now you have part of the idea of why i preffer not to even do these parties.

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last?

same day. at least a week long event.

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)?

really little care about this tradition

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last?

ceremony, and 20 mins. reception, maybe sn hour or 2 unless the guests are fine partying without the bride and groom who i would think are already gone to start the honeymoon by the end of that hour or 2 timeframe.

[DizzyDesii]

#1 lol im sure none of us are 21 thats why its hypothetical. #6 that would be sweet but i never wana feel like i owe anyone #7 is solely based on you, not your girl nor your fam. So what would that answer be? #10 i agree #17 that would be kinda good #21 fully agree

[magiusX26]

i would not be even hypothetically getting married at 21 though. ah yes, forgot the max part of #7. that would be about 2k reality, infinity fantasy. and as for separate or not, if we are doing them, separate because if not, seeing anything even slightly off on her side of things i will go on a rampage, likely wind up in prison, and ending the wedding ideas right then and there, as well (considering some of the traits of an ideal mate would have) would expect roughly the same coming from her should anything even slightly looking off occured on my side of these parties. when i say anything off looking, that could even include one of the other party goers trying to suggest either she or i take things further than we should. on #21, thinking about a few things i didn't consider as time factors now, that 1 to 2 hours was mostly for the traditional dances like the bridexs father and the bride to take place, except i dont dance at all (even for my own wedding) some of those traditional dances just plain would not be happening. so 1 to 2 hours is overly generous.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats why im asking if you met them at 21 how many years do you think it would take from that age before marrying

[DizzyDesii]

I love dancing but not in front of everyone so yea i want a short reception too

[magiusX26]

ah. met them at 21, ok. tge question came across as meeting them before and marrying by/at 21. oddly that was my hayday of actually giving a damn about dating and when i found most of those i once thought worthy (they were not though)

[LiamJHayden]

Purely hypothetically:

#1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everything's going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding? At least two

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters? Yes

#3 Would ya jump the broom? If she wanted to

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle? Yes

#5 Marry in a church OR where? Somewhere open

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay? No

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max? $100K

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony? Not in my case, as I have no living family

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit? White is fine, but no pantsuit please

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception? Formal and I was anticipating open bar when I can the dollar limit.

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white? No

#12 Do you think its wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only? Tacky

#13 Do you think its bad if the bride/groom see each other before the wedding? No, but prefer to not do so

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do? Rings

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married? No

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake? one

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties? Joint

#18 While there, do you think its ok to get lap dances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”? No. I wouldn't even do that if I were just dating.

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last? Leave that night. Three weeks seems right

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)? Yes

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last? Depends upon how many attendees. Two to three hours

[DizzyDesii]

#7 dang are you marrying a celeb 🤣 Why you trying to spend so much 😭
#8 im really sorry to hear that. You could someday have a new family whether it just be with the girl or with inlaws and so on.
#18 good
#17 ooooh nice to hear
#21 ideally i’d like 10-20

[Jamie05rhs]

#1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everything's going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding?

I would like a minimum of 2 years dating before we get married.

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters?

Probably. It seems like the polite thing to do.

#3 Would ya jump the broom?

Huh? I don't know what that means.

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle?

Doesn't matter. Either way is fine.

I kinda like it, though!

#5 Marry in a church OR where?

In a church.

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay?

Pay for what? Regardless, no; I don't think they're obligated to pay for anything.

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max?

$500.

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony?

Doesn't matter.

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit?

I do personally believe it's dishonest.

…A pantsuit? Lol. Wow. That's not very feminine. I don't think I would be in favor of that.

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception?

I don't believe in "formal" food.

However, there will be no alcohol. I don't believe in alcohol. I normally don't care what people do; but this is MY wedding, and I want to make a statement.

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white?

They can wear whatever they want.

#12 Do you think it's wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only?

Not wrong, but kinda petty.

#13 Do you think it's bad if the bride/groom see each other before the wedding?

This is one tradition that I kind of like, so I would prefer to follow it.

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do?

I think the rings are important.

#15 Do you know someone who caught the bride's bouquet/garter but hasn’t married?

Me. Lol

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake?

Hell no! A SINGLE cake!! Marriage is a UNION!

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties?

Separate, obviously. (Who the f has a joint party?)

#18 While there, do you think it's ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”?

NO, IT IS NOT OK!!

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last?

The honeymoon trip should start the same day. We want to get the hell out of town. (Just my opinion.)

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)?

Why would there not be?

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last?

The ceremony should take as long as it needs to take. To drive home the point that we are getting MARRIED! No cutting corners here.

The reception should be about 3 hours, I think. I want to give people plenty of time to have fun and enjoy themselves. It's a party!! I want it to be a memorable event for everyone.

[DizzyDesii]

#6 i agree
#9 I've seen gorgeous white pantsuits tthat many modern brides wear
#10 fully agree about the alcohol
#17 a lot of modern day couples including me
#19 i agree. Some people said on my old post that they go months later like what
#20 because i no longer want them in my wedding, not on my side anyways
#21 i want my reception short cause people piss me off after about 2 hrs of being around em

[Jamie05rhs]

#9. Sorry; I can't get on board with that ever. Lol. I ain't tryin' to marry a butch lesbian.

#10. Thanks

#17. You want to have a joint bachelor party? Why? Don't you want to have that private time alone with your friends before you're going to be stuck to this other person forever?

#20. You don't? Why not?

#21. Lol. Okay

[DizzyDesii]

#9 its not butch what im referring to. Anyways…
#17 i had the type of friends who would likely encourage things that shouldn't be encouraged. Part of why most are cut off now

[Jamie05rhs]

@DizzyDesii So you just need better friends. 😇

[DizzyDesii]

I just need myself and God

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol okay.

[Rudon00]

1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everythings going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding? 2years

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters? They don't need to but according to tradition.

#3 Would ya jump the broom? Nope!

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle? according to tradition but don't have to do so.

#5 Marry in a church OR where? In a church or if she may desire something in mind.

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay? Its between the bride and the bridegroom

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max?$15000

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony? Choice is up to them

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit? Not at all

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception? No alcohol at my my wedding. I prefer a very simple and comfortable wedding

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white? Nope!

#12 Do you think its wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only? yeah I will not feel too comfortable with that.

#13 Do you think its bad if the bride/groom see eachother before the wedding? Not at all

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do? Let tradition have its way.

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married? Nope never been to wedding.

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake? Yes

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties? Not my thing. but if she wants it. its no problem.

#18 While there, do you think its ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”? No! Its not okay

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last? A week.

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)? No! Not at all

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last? 2 hours most.

[DizzyDesii]

So 1 or 2 cakes?

[Rudon00]

Oh yes. One cake is good unless she wants us to have 2 cakes

[Tim-loves-it]

#1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everythings going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding? 2

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters? yes

#3 Would ya jump the broom? No idea what thats about..

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle? Sure

#5 Marry in a church OR where? church is fine, otherwise a manicured open area in the woods

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay? Tradition says that.. but not so much

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max? never thought of it

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony? yes

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit? not weird

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception? comfort food, open bar for wedding party.

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white? no

#12 Do you think its wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only? no

#13 Do you think its bad if the bride/groom see each other before the wedding? no

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do? either/or

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married? no

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake? joint cake

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties?

This -> bachelor, bachlorette and joint party (three total)

#18 While there, do you think its ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”? yes

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last? next day

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)? no

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last? hour, 3-4 hours

[RavVid]

Hypothetical only.

#1 maybe two years.

#2. Yes

#3 don't understand this one.

#4 Yes I want the works.

#5 Park.

#6 Blood oath.

#7 It will be a small wedding then. finger food only. Don't know how cheap I can get it.

#8. Yes but can't remember who is left who is right.

#9. Pansuit.

#10. finger food. There should be an open keg and a couple of open wine casks of plonk.

#11. I'll leave that for the bride to be upset about.

#12. Compromise with no gifts and damn all food unless the park has a BBQ.

#13. No.

#14. You have got buckley's of getting away without buying the bride jewelry. Buckley's is Australian for a snowflake's.

#15. Neither way.

#16. Your married and should share at this point.

#17. Probably joint.

#18. Done that already.

#19. Maybe the day after next day to allow for hangovers

#20 No. Sounds cheaper. Cool.

#21. I've run AGMs in 5 minutes. About the same is all that is needed for the ceremony. I'd allow for a couple of hours of drinking.

[DizzyDesii]

#6 thats what that means?
#7 lmao
#9 oh yay you’d be cool witht this?
#12 im laughing so hard

[RavVid]

#6. blood oath means too bloody right means absolutely they should
#9. Torn really. If she wears a pant suit I won't think she is taking it very seriously - so maybe I should rethink. On the other hand it does sound much cheaper.

[DizzyDesii]

#6 i rather pay for my own so that they dont feel i ever owe them because i have the tupe parents who feel you owe them for them creating you

[RavVid]

I saw some stats before you asked this Q that the average amount spent was $35k in Australia and most couples went over budget. It's a deposit on a house! That is a silly amount in my view. If I was a bride's parent I'd be thinking that's a damned good holiday I could have instead and what's wrong with a cheap white hippy dress and flowers in your hair. And NO I am not paying for that 10k creation you want.

It's all a huge rort.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats why im payin for my own. I don't know what the guy would put it in but im putting in 15-20k on it

[RavVid]

I was beginning to think an alternative career as a cut price wedding planner might be a go. But then if a couple were interested in my version then they wouldn't want to pay me much either would they? This looking a lot like my other business plans. :)

But what is genuinely wrong with a picnic wedding reception I ask?

[DizzyDesii]

Nothings wrong with budgeting. I just want to have my dream wedding but still keep it small and intimate

[RavVid]

That's the way to do it.

[DizzyDesii]

But its still 20k for me

[RavVid]

It is a lot of $. What constitutes your dream wedding though? A stupendous wedding cake dress you'll never wear again. You've published the menu. Is it that important to pay a really high price for a mac and cheese that isn't as good a home made one? The main thing is to celebrate your marriage with friends and family isn't it?

AHA! A progressive dinner... there you go.

[DizzyDesii]

Nope its not exactly a dress and it will definitely be worn again. Certain wedding venues here won't allow you to bring homemade food. It has to be cooked by their caterers and thats what makes costs high. Venues themselves are 2k-8k. My outfit is 1-2k. Food is 2-4k. Cakes unfortunately chage per person anywhere $1-6 per slice. Thats not even including the design and 4 tier i want so my cake could be anywhere from $800-2k. Tent rental is $2-5k. Im not even including the price of flowers yet which is costly. So yea im lookin at 20-25k. And no the main things isn't to celebrate with friends and fam. The main thing is to marry the guy of my dreams and have the wedding of my dreams. If it were up to guests, 176 of them would be attending just on my side alone. But i dont like most of those people and chopped it down to about 5-10 people on my side and hopefully no more than 20-50 guests total. If it was all about celebrating with guests, the wedding reception would last 3-5 hours. Its not about the people at all. Its about us and i want the event no more than 2-3 hours total (ceremony included).

[Justneedtokno]

I see you post these and I’ll be wanting to answer, but never have the time to go through the entire list but here we go

• 2 years
• Yes
• Yes of tradition
• yes
• It’s fine in church. well I would love a beach house/ small destination
• No more than 20,000 but I really 10,000 both parties are saving
• Traditionally, both sides, but I wouldn’t care if they sit together
• I don’t care I’m wearing white
• Upscale, comfort, food, an open bar and now they say those are expensive
• I would be absolutely livid if someone wore white to my wedding that’s disrespectful
• No, I don’t think it’s wrong just like College it’s a start
• No, I want to follow all the rules. I don’t want to see him before.
• Rings are the symbol
• Yes I do my cousin although there was this one guy we thought
• Instead of like cakes, maybe cupcakes or cookies for bride and groom, and then one giant, regular wedding cake
• Separate parties i don’t want him to see me in a certain light even though he would know
• yes it would be
• Next day honeymoon so we can recover
• no not really as long as the main people are there
• so in half hours for the whole thing, maybe less

[DizzyDesii]

10k each isn't bad at all. But i meant 20 on my own thought he can add in another 5-10 to make it 25-30k 🤣 I actually want everyone in white like the pics i posted to the guy below. Yea im doing cake with about 4-10 cupcakes surrounding the base of it

[Justneedtokno]

Yes I want it to be nice but not crazy. I prefer everyone were a matching color but not white.

[Mark987]

#1 Say you met your ideal guy/girl, are both 21, and everythings going great. How many years of dating before there would likely be a proposal/wedding? 2 years

#2 Should everyone stand when the bride enters? Yes

#3 Would ya jump the broom? No

#4 Should a veil cover the face when walking the aisle? doesn't matter

#5 Marry in a church OR where? doesn't matter

#6 Do you think the bride’s parents should pay? No

#7 If you decided to pay for your own wedding in full, what’s your $ max? 80-100k

#8 Should the bride/groom fam sit separately during the ceremony? Up to them

#9 Is it weird for a non-virgin to wear white OR for a bride to wear a pantsuit? White always

#10 Would you prefer formal or comfort food AND should there be alcohol/open bar at the reception? Formal... and yes open bar

#11 Would you be upset if guests wore white? no

#12 Do you think it's wrong for the bride/groom to suggest monetary gifts only? No

#13 Do you think it's bad if the bride/groom see eachother before the wedding? No

#14 Do you think married couples should wear rings or would other jewelry do? yes

#15 Do you know someone who caught the brides bouquet/garter but hasn’t married?

#16 Would you prefer there be 1 or 2— a bride AND a groom cake? Doesn't matter

#17 Would you prefer joint or separate bachelor/ette parties? Separate for sure

#18 While there, do you think it's ok to get lapdances from strippers since you’re technically still “single”? No

#19 Do you prefer the honeymoon start the same/next day AND for how long should it last? within a week

#20 Would you find it odd if there is no wedding party (bridesmaids/groomsmen, best man/maid of honor)? I think there should be

#21 How long do you think a ceremony/ reception should last? As long as people are partying

[DizzyDesii]

80-100k on a wedding? Thats nuts

[Redstang88]

I think weddings are pretty stupid so honestly if I was gonna get married we’ll sign the papers and tell everyone after. I’d want to live together for a year or so first.

[SunnyRS]

Weddings here are completely different here Desi so I don't understand a lot of the customs and their meaning of Christian wedding.
But if it were according to my tradition then I would like to have a non traditional wedding.

[Msputiton]

I refuse to ever date again, let alone get married.

Gonna have to set this out

[NostalgiaSenpi]

No idea. I can't even imagine any more.