Did you think it is a good idea for couples to discuss how many kids they want before marriage?

[Davidbrooks]

[AviatorTom]

Once a couple is serious and considering marriage, it's good to have a discussion about future family. Much of the time, the two people have different ideas about having kids... some may want 1 or 2, others may want 5 or 6. Having different opinions about kids shouldn't be a deal-breaker, just one of the many things in their relationship that a couple need to resolve... probably through compromise, which is a learned skill.

[Avicenna]

I think that is jumping the gun to do it beyond agreeing to have kids. You might decide after one that it's enough of a handful. Or maybe the experience with the first is so good you want more. Or maybe after having a special needs child, there isn't enough time to have more. You get the idea.

[Singing_Hollow]

I think the talk about having kids should happen before marriage, yes. I dont think one needs to decide how many as life is unpredictable and you might want 3 but be discouraged if you can't have any due to health reasons. Its best to plan as it comes.

[DizzyDesii]

Yes. I need to know if he even wants kids before i agree to be in a relationship with him

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes… Because I want to have children someday.

[jshm2]

No. As you have little knowledge or say in the matter. You could die tomorrow, you could have 3 miscarriages, you could break up in a month, one or both be infertile, etc etc.

It's rather stupid to stress on things you have little control over. Better instead to concentrate on making your relationship stronger for yourself, and any potential kids will reap the benefits.

Dimwits make all the plans, and then fuck up when things don't go according to "plan". Then the kids turn into crotch goblins and things go downhill from there.

[ArrowheadSW]

Yes it is important to discuss that. The lady who I was dating when I turned 40 wanted kids and I didn't. It ended up being a dealbreaker. At least it contributed to being a deal breaker.

[rocksongwriter]

Of course! What if one person wants three-to-four children and their partner wants zero? It would be bad to wait until after the wedding to find that out.

[Lowiu]

You of course should do that like you dont have to get to an exact number but like do you want many or few or none

[Anonymous]

Of course. Everythingshould be talked about before marriage.

[SolitarySolace]

Yes but a woman can easily go back on her word and get an abortion and the man couldn’t do Jack about it. Even after having the conversation ahead of time. Apparently that’s not considered misandry.

[Hardworkingguy]

Well it's probably not the best idea to talk about it during the first date but if the relationship keeps moving on and it's definitely something important to talk about because if you don't it will lead to many arguments

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Yeah, I think it is. Better to know if they want kids or not.

[Raaj4you]

No, you can do it later after the wedding. The First thing in your life is, do you love each other or not? Do you want to spend rest of the life with each other?

[Jazzy54]

Absolutely. It could end up being a dealbreaker for them.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, you need to be on the same page.

[Minahh]

It's essential!!! One of the first things you should be talking about actually. Why waste time with someone who doesn't share your goals?

[JesseP1nk]

I think its kinda obvious. Its good idea to be on the same page before getting married.

[lightbulb27]

no, I'd keep that general.

[thatshydork]

Yes, absolutely

[Astarlessnightsky]

yes, at least discuss wether you want kids or not

[Boomchakalaca]

Yes of course

[Jmmmfi4]

I WOULD IMAGINE SO

[gothbxtch]

yes, sounds good