Is it good to let your partner plan your wedding?

[Anonymous]

If you’d prefer a church wedding but you really don’t care that much and could be happy with anything, as long as you wed the right guy? But it’s important to him?

[OlderAndWiser]

I am in the midst of planning a wedding because my fiancée is from China and knows nothing about American weddings. I wish she could help me with the planning but she is clueless about what happens in weddings and receptions.

Ideally, a couple should work on planning a wedding together. It is a "sneak preview" of how they will work together as a married couple.

[musicbrain5]

Are there any Chinese wedding traditions she could bring to the table? Music, food, dances, decor, etc? My husband and I planned our wedding together and he brought Serbian traditions into the mix.

[OlderAndWiser]

@musicbrain5 I asked about that as soon as the planning began. Her response was, "I am American, we are in America, and my family is coming from China to see an American wedding. And people in China don't follow old traditions any more; everything is westernized."

However, I insisted that she and I recite some of our vows in both English and Mandarin. Her matron of honor will be her older sister, who does not speak English.

[madhatters4]

if you trust your partner to plan a wedding and don't feel like you need to contribute much then sure you can let the partner plan it

[ariadneR]

I'd gladly let him plan it if he wanted. He can have anything he wants, as long as I'm capable of providing it to him.

[ManOnFire]

Great! So I want ours to be on a beach with a whole barbecue and seafood banquet, and if we could have Selena Gomez as wedding singer I would love you even more. Can we, can we?😃

[ariadneR]

@ManOnFire sure! Getting Selena will be hard but I'll see what i can do 🤣

[ManOnFire]

I will NEVER divorce you!🥰

[musicbrain5]

I think it’s important to work together on it, to make sure you both get what you want out of the wedding ceremony.

[Deformate]

If your partner is the woman then yes, let them plan it. Men have 0 chance of getting it right. Women have that dream wedding from an early age. You won't touch the authenticity of the dream, even if ylu could read her mind. Just offer to help often, listen when she asks for opinions, speak softly, agree when she gets upset over a conflict and pray you make it to the wedding day withoit breaking up lol

[John_Doesnt]

Weddings are for women and gay people. No straight man wants to play dress up, spend thousands on flowers and make long term promises. I'll let the woman plan the wedding because it's basically all about her. I couldn't care less except for the legal incentives.

[Drumlin2001]

I think my OH will plan most of wedding. I don't really have opinion on most things, she has a ision of what she wants. We'll only argue if I get too involved

[crossdressingrihno]

This is your wedding.
Random people online can’t help you with this. You and your fiancé will have to work this out on your own.

[Anpu23]

These things are usually planned by the wife to be, her mother and friends. Guys usually don't have much say in it at all.

[Sasha0426]

I’m still wondering why men still engage with women 🤔

[Anpu23]

@Sasha0426 It makes them happy. Sometimes that's enough.

[FreyaRed]

If you want something should be made right you have to make by yourself

[sheikalana]

I believe both partners should be involved in planning the wedding.

[gothbxtch]

if your partner wants to and you don’t, and you agree on it, then yes, of course!

[TacosRAwesome]

If you're a getting married, then you should be able to plan a wedding somewhat together and compromise on things.

[XXblack88]

I don't know isn't that something you do together? 🤔

[exitseven]

Let the girl do most of the planning. They have lived their whole lives for this.

[Jamie05rhs]

You guys should both plan it together. You only get one wedding. Your voice should be taken into consideration.

[genericname85]

i think it would be stupid to choose not to be involved.

[REX_JSWL]

If I talk about my life
If she is happy then I am happy, because after watching her smile nothing else matters to me

[Anonymous]

I think it's good for both of you to do the planning together.

[boobliker]

if they feel ok with it let it be, happiness is what is needed

[Jazzy54]

A wedding should be planned by both people.

[Kelly6]

if he can manage well