Tell her what you just told us…
If she loves you chances are she’ll regret hurting you and frustrating you.
Because it seems like you love her and who cares about the price of the ring?
Just talk to her about being hurt… Honestly.
Give her a chance to realize her mistake.
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My response would be are you with me because you love me or is having an expensive ring more important to you, because I took the time to buy a ring from my heart and you wanna nitpick at it and tell me where I should be buying the ring from.
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I'll be honest, bro. I think she is.
I'll start by making it clear that I'm not saying you should go in there all guns blazing and telling her she's spoiled and ungrateful. That's just my assessment. Nor do I want to convince you to be angry or indignant. Again, I'm just giving my assessment.
The first thing I noticed here - beyond her... complaints - was your response: short one or two-word replies. That tells me that this is not as unusual as you imply. It also tells me that you're used to it and trying to keep the peace, keeping in mind, of course, that arguing or complaining through text messages is always a recipe for disaster. Now you obviously know this young woman better than I do and you're closer to the situation than I am; you've been with her five years and this is only a snapshot, so I could be wrong. That's still the impression I get of the relationship itself.
Now as for this more immediate situation, "ingratitude" and "vanity" are written all over it. Full disclosure, if a man has the means to buy his woman the most beautiful and expensive engagement ring, then yes, he should do it. I don't know what you do for work, but if what you've shared about your life situations and circumstances is true and she knows such, and if you'd saved the money to buy her the best ring that you were able to, then she ought to appreciate it. She clearly doesn't.
Plus, something else very important to think about. If this is how she reacts to an engagement ring, what are you expecting with the wedding band?
It's your life, so you do what you want to do. If you love this woman, you want to marry her, and you did the best that you possibly could, and if her reaction to this gift upsets you, then yes, calmly and confidently discuss it with her. She's not the only one in this relationship and she needs to understand that.
Lol you need to kick her ass to the curb. Straight up gold digger. If she knows her worth then she knows she can make her own bank, she can get her own ring. Is she w you for the money or for love? So what happens if a man comes along w more money, flashes it in front of her face? Is she going to be loyal to you? I always thought it was the thought that counts, but I guess not. If she’s embarrassed that means she’s embarrassed about you as well. Be a man bro, stand up for yourself. I’m not saying act like a dick to her, but have some self respect. To me this indicates that she’s just going to run all over you in a relationship. Sounds as though you’re more beta, no real balls. Am I wrong? Maybe I am. But no girl who would love a man would talk to him this way as a matter of respect. Just as I wouldn’t expect him to talk to her that way either if he loved her. This sounds more like I want my girlfriends to be jealous. So let’s say you do stay w her. How’s the wedding going to go? You going to spend $10,000 to which she will complain she wanted something bigger, like a $30,000 wedding? She’s showing her true colors. Hopefully you make the right choice. I guarantee you if you told her how you really felt she wouldn’t like it, she’s cry, say you’re an asshole, how could you be so mean. Women want the truth only if it’s their truth. Be a man bro you have a long life ahead of you. Don’t let people run all over you. Have some balls man.
hmm, i get both sides.
it's her who's gotta wear it. so if she's wanting quality or a specific in mind, that is her prerogative.
you probably should have held off proposing if you felt pressure to do it.Well... She is not ready for relationships. And I doubt she ever will. To me this looks like she is actually more focused and concerned about the ring (like gollum) rather that actual step into a different new, serious and responsible life. That is a childish behavior. Seems like she doesn't even realise what's going to happen. It looks like it's a game to her. Why is that so important what others say about the ring? WTF kind of attitude is that? Serious talk needed with her.
WOW... and to tell this all over text and not in person... wow... i'm happy with ANY ring. of ANY price. you shouldn't marry her. she is in it for status and to show off to her friends. there's a reason why this engagement kept getting pushed back. listen...
Dude, cut your losses and cut her loose. Look at it this way... she has done you a favor by showing her true colors before you actually married her. This behavior is indicative of her character, and she's not a woman you want to be married to. I gurantee this will not be the last time she behaves this way.
dude get rid of the fucking whore she's a god damn gold digger and is going to make your life a living hell. GET RID OF HER before you get in way over your head with that gold-digging piece of shit
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