Your hypothetical Son is 29, a medical doctor doing an orthopedic surgical residency, and is on a fast track to wealth and prestige. You worked hard to put him through all of his school. Which woman below would you choose for him to marry. WHY?
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I mean all of them have some problems I guess are problematic. most importantly is that he should choose.
First one seems ok. The problems can mean anything from totally fine to really problematic.
Second one: Seems to have fun in life which is important. Morals are ok. Dont like smoking but that can be ok. Drinking depends on the ammount. Friends with her ex could be a problem.
Third one: Seems boring and church is kinda a problem. Also quite young. She could decide to want something else every minute. (at least I would want to) as she is close with her family this could all be forced by her parents. All of this together seems at least weird. I dont want weird inlaws that would probably effect me personally the most. Could be no problem but you never know. Fine if my son would want to start a family otherwise I dont want him to get one when he doesn't want one.
Fourth one: Not sure thats an actual partner for marriage. Seems more like a side fling.
I guess the second one would be my best fit. If it wasn't for the "friends" with an ex.
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None cause I wouldn’t be choosing the spouse of my son that is a grown ass man. 3/4 options are unappealing. Not as a whole but there are deal breakers mixed in but you already knew that. And the other option is just weird. I’d hope if I had a 29 yr old son he wasn’t trying to pursue a 21 yr old virgin as a wife. I’d question his motives. Is he too mentally/emotionally immature for a women around his age? I also think anyone that doesn’t have themselves figured out should be getting married and no 21 yr old gots themselves figured out regardless of how mature they are. people getting married too young to me is like couples that think it’s a good idea to get eachothers names tattooed cause they think its forever. Naive
LOL, the only one of those four women who is dateable is the 21-year-old. No budding doctor would date any of the other three. Nor would I.
easy answer second to last. None of the others are worth more than a pump and dump.
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None of them. I would expect my son, who as I come from a family littered with medical professionals will be a specialist like his mother is in pharmacy, to marry someone who is educated and able to contribute value to the household.
By value I don't mean income but being able to contribute to interesting discussions, be able to understand at least some of what he is talking about without having an idiot expression on their face, able to homeschool the children even given public schooling is garbage, etc.
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The only half decent one - 21 virgin - is likely uneducated and not world travelled and would literally bore him to tears within the first hour of meeting.
I'd want my son to have a good girl, who will care for him I like have. One who respects him, cherishes him, cooks, clean, has good morals, sympathetic, empathize with him etc.
But I also raised my son to respect women, help them out, provide and protect. I raised him right so he would choose a girl who was also raised properly so that their children one day will also succeed in life.I'd advise him to stay single, they're all problematic and he's way out of their league. The last one is probably the lesser of all the evils. I'm not even a MGTOW type, I think it's good to date. But just picking someone for the simple reason of not being alone is a bad decision.
Obviously #3, the 21 year old innocent, is best. But more importantly, let's rank them:
WORST: #2, The self-proclaimed feminist (Gender Marxist, Femicommunist). Mistakes can be made and perhaps even salvaged, but ideologies cannot.SECOND BEST: #4, perhaps will wise up with age, does not have other men's children.
SECOND WORST: #1, one baby daddy is a mistake, b ut two indicates not wising up, and just plain too much baggage.
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However, when there's no children what is she doing? They're not going to have kids immediately - he's going to be doing long hard hours, etc. in residency unless he expects to be more a failure than success and barely have time to touch his toes.
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He can marry her
This girl is 21, a virgin, is a violinist for a small local symphony, works part time as a church secretary. Her only social media is private and the only men are close family members. She doesn't drink, smoke,. or do drugs. She wants to start a family and stay home with the kids.
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#3
But can she cook?
Can she clean?
Can she speak any other language?
Can she play any other instrument?
Can she paint, how about photography?
Does she have any knowledge on child care?
Can she tutor the children or do they need to spend money?
Does she have any opinions for herself or does she repeat what she's told?
Does she have any education above high school?
Does she have any knowledge about medical or advanced careers?My brother's a doctor, neurosurgery, and while he says #3 is the best most families with sons as doctors or any high paying professional career would expect much better.
Somone who can contribute to his life & not simply be a gold digger.
#3 and it isn't much of a contest. Really the only "downside" to her is that she's a bit on the young side for a 29-year old, but that doesn't come close to outweighing the baggage (or insufferable attitude) of the other three, with the information given.
So you list three very sketchy women. and the 4th one is almost a nun, and then you ask this obvious question? Seriously?
A history of bad and lasting decisions with multiple men leading to children and no marriage.
A narcissistic feminist who would likely resent our boy and/or convert him to get Marxist religion.
A discreet and level headed girl with no known bad history.
Or an only fans, club girl with multiple men held at arms length for occasional use only.
You're not making it hard for us are you?
this reminds me of the 2017 NBA draft where 3 out of the 4 players turned out to be busts. only 1 of the 4 became a legit superstar
100% the third one. Ultimately it would be my hypothetical son’s choice on who he marries, but objective thinking clearly shows the 3rd one to be the best option based on life choices.
Haha, the 4%/6% are the ones who thought that was their resume you posted.
pros and cons with all of them just as everyone has pros and cons
It's a slightly bias set of options. 3 profiles with red flags so the only one is #3, but even that had potential yellow flag.
Personally I'd be telling my boy to keep working and wait for someone else to come along.If my son's are still single by 29 then they are probably just losers that shouldn't date. They will waste the girls time in my opinion. Now if my son was younger I'd just go with whichever one matched his age. I don't believe in age gaps due to the failure rate of them
The obvious Virgin cause the rest are untrustworthy at all and have abuncha issues that would lead to divorce and those women taking his money and becoming the biggest headache to his life.
I would definitely teach my son that son don't trust holes be a fuckboy n njoy life.
Make money. Spend money.none, but would be okay with the 21 had she been older. its weird for a 21 and a 29 to date
Third one seems more likely but they may not have much in common either
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