Is it normal to ask for no wedding?

Question

Nowadays Globally weddings are so expensive and time consuming and raise a lot of problems and mainly about "feeding people" who will find a reason to talk about it after that
So I decided that the only reason i will get married if i find someone who is like me against wedding ceremony
Marriage is about be with someone I love and i will be happy with
So what is your opinion?

NalleBabyBoysss · Accepted Answer

I always thought marriage was bullshit after watching a documentary about how wedding rings and diamonds became a thing. Normal weddings use to be with a band tying over each others arms or something simple depending on the culture and the diamond company created all this expensive things you see today   So i say fuck the ring and cake you invite your loved ones and that's the only thing that should matter if you love someone right? Shouldn't have anything to do with money

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

not any more. The costs have gone out of sight. For what a lot of people spend on a wedding you could put a nice down payment on a house.

Tephra · Accepted Answer

I've seen a couple who had no reception. Just the ceremony. Although I agree that weddings are very expensive and doubt I will ever pay for one! Just the ceremony part and the rest will be spent on a lovely honeymoon. Why waste all that money for 1 day? Seems a bit outrageous!

Might be untraditional, but if people start pointing the finger at traditions, the father of the bride is meant to pay a sum for the wedding.

Overall, not worth it! Id only have the ceremony

Bethany22 · Accepted Answer

It is not important to me to have a wedding. Just signing the papers is romantic.

RingOfFire · Answer

Of course you can choose as you wish. But remember that there are other people to whom your wedding might be a meaningful and joyful occasion. Your loved ones and friends and especially your close family can see the more formal ceremony as a milestone in their relationship with you and feel hurt or disrespected if you don't offer that gift to them.

As a man, the ceremony of formally giving my little girl away to live her own life and have her own family is a deeply profound and meaningful milestone that could help me deal with the anxiety of that change.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

My opinion is the same, I hate weddings.

Why the hell does the day I get married have to be smothered in girly shit, overpriced food and clothing, and other people that I'm not marrying?

It's a stupid tradition, I'd rather just get the marriage license, and go home and spend time with the wife (assuming I ever find one).

Unit1 · Answer

Fascinating! But why being a pink anonymous about it? Makes it less believable this way but I digress. We have reached a stage in which wedding costs became literally unpayable. This is good practical thinking!

DextroShade · Answer

My wife and I just had a very low-key wedding at my in-laws house that only cost a few thousand. We kept the guest list small, got the food from Costco to make a crostini bar, and my wife made her own playlists. Many family members still said it was the best wedding they have been to.

DB1973 · Answer

Totally get it. 1st Wedding was way too proper and sibling wanted it to be perfect. My mom drove 800 miles back home alone the day before the wedding because my sibling wanted it to be so perfect and her kid made the mistake of chewing the gum my mom gave her…and the list goes on…. by the way I am not rich or wealthy…. Sibling spent way too much on “helping” us.
Weddings and funerals-Bring out the worst and the best in people.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Sorry; that's a deal-breaker.
A wedding is a public proclamation of your love and devotion and commitment to your romantic partner. If she doesn't want a wedding, that's a huge red flag.

(It doesn't have to be expensive, though. You can have a wedding literally for free if you just utilize your network. As long as you have people who genuinely care about you and aren't just in your life in order to use you.)

Nifrayu · Answer

Weddings don't have to be expensive. I never understood the people who are willing to spend preposterous amounts of money on a wedding. However there is nothing wrong with not having a wedding. It's not something that exists in nature. It's just a ritual humans invented.

Personally I do want a wedding, but that's just me.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Do it whatever way you want. People will always have a huge mouth and critiques other. At the end of the day People do not pay our bills. As long as you married the love of your life its what matters.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

We didn't have a wedding. We had just a small ceremony in the register office with our closest family and friends and then a dinner with them. We didn't want any wedding.

sheikalana · Answer

Yes! It's your wedding you have to the right to do and choose whatever you want. My husband and I got married and didn't have a ceremony we didn't tell anyone and only told our friends and family when we were already married.

Anonymous · Answer

You can have a small wedding ceremony it doesn’t have to be extravagant and pricey. Everyone’s different but depends how big someone’s family is. I have aunts, uncles, cousins, family friends that I’ve known for decades so out of respect I would invite them.

exitseven · Answer

I get it. I just went to a wedding where it seemed like the bride and groom tried to figure out the best way to inconvenience the most people. It was horror show. It was probably 50K to put this whole thing on.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

It is not unusual to not want a wedding. It is a lot of stress and planning, and of course money. I've known people who just opted for a simple ceremony with just family members present.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think it's a good choice, or go for an outdoor wedding to cut down on costs. No point in going into the relationship and 1000's in debt before you even start the relationship.

Pyxel · Answer

Of course, totally normal. You have a family to feed. Not a community to impress.

Hungryghostwriter · Answer

I agree 100%. I'm hoping I meet a woman who is okay with a court wedding. Also, I have anxiety and I really don't want to be in the spotlight for so many hours.

Besides, we can use the huge wedding budget for a 6 month honeymoon (That's gonna be my sales pitch lol)

lanabug · Answer

I think most people decide to have a wedding but they're getting more and more expensive so it would be smarter to have a cheap, small wedding, courthouse wedding, or no wedding.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Practically: if we don't spend money on our parents' funeral later on, the overall saving will justify a small celebration with the closest friends. What is normal?

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Just doing your own thing for a wedding that doesn’t remotely involve expunging over $9,000 does sound pretty radical. If my maiden offered a ring pop and that was it, I would take it.

MustafaAl · Answer

You people just be yourself and be authentic our clocks never turn backwards so make the most of it

OddBeMe · Answer

I think younger Gens are influenced by less economic opportunities, so lots of things like jewelry, fancy cars, big homes and weddings are becoming more rare.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

You can get married by a judge. No guests or ceremony.

pickles77 · Answer

That’s literally what I want, just a small ceremony and then maby have a family get together somewhere inexpensive.

ÖyleBirGeçer · Answer

not any more.  The costs have gone out of sight.  For what a lot of people spend on a wedding you could put a nice down payment on a house.

Rlopes1a · Answer

I say buckle me up in the backseat real tight. Handcuff my hands behind my back. Tie my legs and feet. Blindfold me. You can feed or me drink something ultra nasty.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Dude just go to the court house or a chapel

Mcluven08 · Answer

What you just posted is how I feel. Plus Im socially awkward. Weddings cost to much.

Sunflower766 · Answer

I feel the same lol i marry someone to be with them not for a big party

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Where i come from it's not option 😂😂we want big wedding 😂😂

BrownSugar00 · Answer

It should be. Especially nowadays.

Staximus · Answer

Weddings don't have to be expensive

Blueeyes81 · Answer

That sounds ideal.

SunnyRS · Answer

I also don't find weddings completely necessary.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Wedding is fine but marriage is a big no

Carina0 · Answer

Yeah and I think it so much more sense

Harmony1010 · Answer

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