Is “happily married” a myth? Are most married people unhappy?

[KezHarris]

Yes most are unhappy

Most married couples are happy

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4 mo

I’ve seen a lot of married men cheat etc. and couples I’ve seen who are miserable together.

[Anonymous]

NO! Some people just make a mockery of the institution of marriage. Some people are simply too selfish and should NEVER have even considered getting married. If you don't go into marriage with the intent of FOREVER, then you have no business, even considering marriage. All relationships (even the best ones) still require work (on bothe sides). And this will be true if you're married year 1 or year 50. a lot of people make the mistake of thinking people won't change after they're married. Think about it, YOU'RE not the same person you were 10, 5 or even a year ago. Why do you think that wouldn't be just because you got married. That's why staying connected is OH SO IMPORTANT. Life invades you have kids and responsibilities. So many things will impede your time. Which is why date nights are important. You always have to remember and keep burning what brought you together.

I've seen it many times with married friends. They raise a family, all thier energy goes into that (which isn't a bad thing in intent) but they become focused on that to the point they stop being lovers. And when they're kids move out and they have an empty nest, they don't even know their partner anymore. They've aged 20 years. And they're roommates that don't even remember how thier story began.

I have 4 sisters. All are married. And most important all have STAYED married. I feel like I get a very good example of successful marriages being able to observe them. Which is interesting because they're all so different and so are thier partners so I get to see 4 successful marriages in 4 different dynamics.

[HawkPerception]

It's not a myth, but there's a reason why divorce rates are so high nowadays. Many people's relationships are toxic. A big factor is due to social media and dating apps. Having everyone so accessible to you. And having such high expectations from your partner is another thing.

Happily married people just do better at communicating and building trust and filtering people in the first place. They don't focus on money but rather, the important aspects of relationships. Most women nowadays can't think past "I want a financially successful husband that takes care of me, takes me out for lots of cute dates and shows effort in that regard and provides me with a family."

I find that people that need gifts as a show of love; have gift giving as one of their main love languages tend to fail more. They're more materialistic and tend to equate love to the amount you give them.

[LazerBean]

I know many people who are both happily married and unhappily married. The determining factor is the quality of the couple as human beings. I will say that there are more unhappily married people, but that is simply because there are more low quality people and they wouldn't have been happy single either.

[IloveWinters]

This is very interesting response, I will think more deep on this thought, nice

[AutumnSerenity]

I think married couples who don’t give each other enough space might become unhappy. Too much of anything isn’t good for you. Marriage shouldn’t consume your entire life. It’s something you must respect at all times, but it’s not the primary source of happiness.

[Unit1]

With *only* a 50% divorce rate suggesting at least 50% are unhappily married.

Now imagine on top of that those, who keep staying unhappily married. I know a few. Living like they're roommates. Fighting. Not sleeping in the same bed if not for practical reasons.

What a gamble marriage is. Makes it think about risk-to-reward.

[KezHarris]

Yeah!! Exactly!

[OddBeMe]

While I’m very statistics minded, and go by the bell curve of averages, it’s harder to gauge happiness or feelings.

Divorces are 50%-ish, but I see that as a good thing. We don’t want people in unhappy marriages. So I would say most marriages are happy.

[VIVANT]

Even if Many or most were unhappy it doesn’t make happiness a myth.. if uncommon it can still be real.

[VIVANT]

But 😂 I do think many’s re unhappy he over many single people can be unhappy, I think life is tough and no matter what it won’t be all happiness. There can still be meaning tho and there is satisfaction in that if not “happiness”

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, sadly most are unhappy, but I want to say for myself I want to be a happy man and love the woman that I'm married to and the kids I had to that woman. This is just an example for now I am single, but I could get married age 65 and be happily married and age is just a number. I'm age 55 now, so anything can happen.

[Thestupidusername]

Actual married people who believe in tradition and the true meaning of marriage are usually happy. The one that do it for looks and attention not so much.

[NathanDavis]

most couples I know, are happily married... but it's not all of them, no

that just happens to be the case around me and the people I actually know, of others... I would not know, lol

[syncheart]

I think marriage tends to start out happy, and then it cools down some. You settle in an OK state. But it takes work to keep it from falling apart.

[molonski2]

Most are unhappy , thats simply a proven fact , " happily married " is a bigger fantasy than Santa Claus.

But , I accidently ticked the wrong box , so take off that vote and change it to " unhappy " .

[Nikki1989]

We are 8 years strong and happier than ever, and other married couples we know also seem very happy.

[AmeerX]

Happiness is independent of marriage in a lot of ways. If you think marriage will make you happy then be prepared for utter disappointment

[AmeerX]

As for cheating, in modern society with love marriages a thing, cheating should ideally be nonexistent. Why? Because you choose the person and if you find them unsuitable due to betrayal you should consider divorce instead of cheat

[Minahh]

Exactly but a lot of people's egos get boosted by not divorcing/splitting up before they cheat. They like to see you suffer.

[AmeerX]

@Minahh then they have a special place in hell if they do it deliberately

[IloveWinters]

Mostly are unhappy because of the compromises, responsibility and all other matured areas where a person has to grow after marriage is lacking in them. It is tough to maintain happiness in marriage, it all comes down to how the couple takes care of it

[Lara_Croft]

There are many happily married Godly people out there. You see the reverse because the world is full of the reverse.

[aceleon]

time is the killer of everything good, it is a poision.

[Nice222]

I can’t say I’m unhappy but I also can’t imagine my life otherwise. I would say my wife and I saved each other when we met. Honestly I don’t think I would be alive today without her.

[TheSpaceGnome]

it's not a myth, but in the US its rarer for younger people because of their own impatience and their willingness to settle for the wrong person.

[Minahh]

Marriage is what you make it and is determined by what people are entering it. If one or both are terrible people, don't expect it to last.

[AmeerX]

Lol, if one is an endurer then it can last years before seperation

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Not necessarily a myth. Only the people within that marriage know the answer to that question if they are or aren't.

[clampfan101]

I don’t know about the majority, but it’s no myth.

[Jmmmfi4]

CONSIDERING THE DIVORCE RATES IN THIS COUNTRY IT COULD BE

[CindyRuns]

Being happily married is very possible... I am !!!