What’s your opinion on marriage? Do you believe in Marriage?

[Rapport]

Yes

No

Don’t really have an opinion on it

[lightbulb27]

Yes. I see a lot of marriage around me and my whole life.

Somtimes... it doesn't go well as people just don't know themselves or the other well enough. Often, people did better 2nd time around if the 1st didn't work. A few people never got married again.

I'm married, it's going well and I'm thankful as I was single a long time.

Someone once told me..."marraige... isn't waht you think". I didn't understand then but do now. And..."marriage is work". The funniest was..."marriage is a wonderful institution... as long as you don't mind being in an institution". Funny.

You really should date to know yourself and other personalities, see what you handle and what you can't. Everyone is different but there's some common threads in personalities, cultures and such. Your job, is to love the woman... it's a good job if you have the right mate!

Good luck to you!

[Jessica405]

Most of your opinion is irrelevant waffle. You do not mention pros and cons.

[lightbulb27]

@Jessica405 he didn't ask that. I said yes, I believe. if you want to know that, post the question and @ me and I'll answer it.

[Jessica405]

I have giveh my opinion AND given reasons for that opinion.

[midnightmoon05]

@Jessica405 want a sticker Jessica?

[Jessica405]

@midnightmoon05 Already got some, thanks!

[midnightmoon05]

@Jessica405 that’s good…now stop licking on others 😜

[Jessica405]

@midnightmoon05 Rofl!

[handsomelad70]

@Jessica405 But with the right partner. My parents enjoyed 53 years of wedded bliss.

[Jessica405]

@handsomelad70 Good for them! My guess is that couples have been together for just as long without being married. It just isn't necessary.

[Purpleronnie]

I see marriage as a social construct and never regarded it as in any way necessary or something to believe in. I have also never shyed away from it even though that may seem like a contradiction. I guess I mean that if it meant that much to the woman I was with then I would commit to the ceremony and wholeheartedly commit to the promises made. I don’t think there needs to be a marriage to be true to a partner though and don’t get me started on the amount of money that’s thrown into the celebrations from all angles. I’ve seen couples in financial ruin because of the money thrown in or start their life together in debt and well that’s just not what marriage need be about.

[RoseySarah]

When it works it's wonderful romantic and amazing!

Living together is the fastest way to break up!

Divorced are high cause we don't take the time to be together and share deeply. Everything is individual now in things and we rush to be together without opening the luggage and exploring it together. Ending communication or just being selfish when in marriage you have to be selfless!

[EmyyWolf]

It’s stupid. Just like religion. Pure mental illness.

We are not monogamous beings.
Neither men nor women. I see it proved to me , time after time, after time.

Same thing as Santa. Jesus is coming. Santa Clause is coming to town.

“ Better behave Junior cause Santa’s coming to town. “

” Better behave Adults, Jesus is coming “

[EmyyWolf]

@Rapport

[Jessica405]

No. Waste of time and more importantly, a wast of money.

Does it make you live longer? Probably not.
Does it make you much happier? I doubt it.
Does it make you richer? Not by much.
Does it give you security against chesting or divorce? Emphatic no!

[lightbulb27]

ever been married? do you have any good examples around you?
Most people I know are married.
There are benefits... can they be overcome in other ways... maybe.
I was alone til I was 50. It's much better being with my wife (after we worked through our issues). Enjoy dinner together, less stress, more fun, more adventures... life kinda renewed for me as new culture and environment. financially stronger and more secure.
Are there risks... of course there are. Is it going to change... of course it's going to change.
Pros: I have more time to think, enjoy life, learn. We work together well, so there is less work and more time for fun and more resources and so we travel and experience more than I did in prior 50 years. She is happier than ever, she has support for her children that did not exist before and thus the children are better and performing highly. Touch... I have someone to touch, talk with etc.. unlike any other... can't do with friends and forget friends with benefits.
Cons: had to make lot of change, have to say yes at times when I don't want to, work through differences of opinion, no guarantees as life makes changes.

biggest downside is I was too late to make kids and started too late. Or culture doesn't promote marriage in areas, just the disasters. it's unfortunate.

[Jessica405]

@lightbulb27 I can do all this with just living with my guy. We are together bedause we want to be. No external influences like peer pressure, family pressure, a piece of paper.

[lightbulb27]

You may be right about that. In my view it adds some value when the going gets tough and as way if saying ti the other… i am committed to honoring you first (in humans). If you can do that or maintain security without then so be it. I've seen long terms non married work. Generally the woman was desiring marriage but couldnt get the guy to commit. Some may be less comfortable with commitment.

[Seinna]

Waste or time, waste of money? I think you're equating marriage with a wedding and those are not the same thing :) Marriage is about vows that you and your partner intend to keep and a legal contract binding you into one unit. In fact, if you and your partner exchange vows without the legal aspect then you could still consider it marriage just like religious people do.

It does actually make men live longer, from personal experience I can say it makes you happier to have that sense of security, it makes you richer because in many countries you get tax exceptions and saving/building wealth is easier with another person and it does give you a little bit of security because divorce is such a horrible thing that nobody wants to go through it. If you're with someone, you invest emotions and money into that person and you want it to last. Marriage can help you achieve that if you're willing to work on it and not simply leave when it becomes inconvenient as is common for modern people.

Marriage is an institution that has worked for thousands of years and kept the society going... it still could, but people changed and many no longer deserve marriage.

Marriage is not about love (but you need it too). It's a common misconception.

It's a contract between two adults to bring children into a stable family. And it still works this way if you're not a child yourself and understand what you're getting yourself into. But we're not told that, we're told to follow our heart and just marry the person you love.

[Jessica405]

@Seinna I don't need vows or contracts in my life. I am happiest just living with my giuy because we want it that way. It isn't marriage that makes you live longer. It is simply being together. Same for happiness. Financially, not all countries give tax breaks. UK no longer has that for people born after 1935

[AviatorTom]

My parents were married for 41 years... until my father passed away.

I was married for 20+ years... until an amicable divorce.

I'll let you decide if I believe in marriage or not 🙉🙊🙈

[OlderAndWiser]

Do I believe in marriage? Of course I do. I've seen married people. They actually exist! I've even been to a few weddings. Yes, it's a real thing.

[coachTanthony]

marriage if for like minded people... not for people who are risk averse.

[Lynx122]

I don't believe in marriage. I believe it used to work and have a purpose but too much has been stripped from it now it's not fit for purpose anymore. When I was in India I think marriage still works there because the culture is still more traditional. But here it just doesn't work anymore. Marraiage is basically a contract but the social and economic evironment has changed so much since marriage started it just doesn't make sense anymore. If you find someone special you want to spend your life with just live together. You can make your own contract that if you break up this is how you want to split your assets.

I just won't do this to myself to put myself in a situation giving someone the power over my future. It took decades to build myself up to this point and I feel my future will only get better. But if I get married I open myself up to a huge risk that is completely unecessary that could set me back 10 or 20 years just because I didn't think it through.

[JacobJordan]

Marriage is great if both you and the person you are marrying see it as it was intended to be "to love and to hold in sickness and in health richer or poorer till death you part" most women do not see marriage that way anymore while simultaneously complaining that they want to get married. well until such time as women view marriage as a permanent bond between 2 people that love each other I advise most guys don't bother with the marriage. if you find a woman that views marriage as a marriage and not as a means for her to get 50% of your shit marry her and stay married to her. that is very few women in the west so you are likely better off going overseas

[SolitarySolace]

I believe marriage is only a benefit for women and a prison sentence for men that men feel obligated to lock themselves into. I’d rather not have to cater to a women and live under her boot for the rest of my life and if she decides to divorce me because I sneezed too loud she’d take my money and resources. Fuck marriage, man I’d personally rather die alone. All you other men can put yourselves in a shitty ass position and claim you’re happy. I’m not about that happy wife happy life bullshit lifestyle.

[PinkPrincessLC]

Of course! Marriage is a scared bond between who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives with each other. I want that for myself and I believe in it. There may be many people who divorce each other, but it doesn't mean there shouldn't be hope.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

It's a social contract that modern women have broken. Men committed to one woman in exchange for her being only his, never having been with other men, and he provided in exchange for being cared for and being given children. Nowadays, women have promiscuous sex, work outside the home, don't cook or take care of their husband or give him children.

[genericname85]

not in modern day society. marriage was an institution invented to cope with the unfair situation of women being forced to stay at home while men work so they can manage rising chidren and having a roof over the top and food on the table all at once.

in our emancipated society where women can already do that alone, marriage is pointless. in todays society, marriage is simply a tool to extort money from men with legal enforcement.

[Unit1]

From what I have seen what marriage does to both men and women most of the time is that they both look ruined and almost devoid of life and energy and it is visible, that some of them regret it. Therefore what should I think of it? It's like the marriage vampire preys upon them specifically.

[Nikki1989]

We are 9 years in and more in love than ever before, and almost everyone else I know are very happily married also. We are going to a party tomorrow for a couple celebrating their 20th.

[laly520]

I believe in it

a sacred bond, not talking about those who cheat n screw up

many others repsect that bond n give lot to it

[Quigly]

If you ask many people if marriage is an institution that makes your life easier you would get a lot of eye rolls and laughs in your face. A Relationship and Marriage doesn't make your life easier, it doesn't make your life better than someone else's in any way. The only reason to get married is to have children. If that's not your goal then stay far away, It is the road paved to hell and not worth the risks and sacrifices otherwise.

[Djaay]

Marriage only concedes and prospers as scripture emulates. It's a spiritual bonding of both a male and female who's spirits join as one with the Lordas a witness. mankind / womankind has corrupted the very essence of its spiritual nessesity to a festive arrangement of the flesh instead for various reasons other than its created purpose.

[SixFootSexy]

Believe in as an institution, yes.

As the current systemic legal system? Absolutely not.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Although I have never been married & never plan to be marriage to me is just a piece of paper that divorce lawyers love. Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone.

[Billlewis]

I view marriage the same way I view sex -- I'm interested in participating in it, but only if I'm capable of performing in a manner that both benefits and pleases her.

[PeachyPie93]

Im not really for it but I'm not against it either. People can have a wonderful marriage other times it can be a struggle.

[Joshydavid25]

I definitely do.. And I definitely want to get married one day.. My opinion is that it's a union of two people coming together to become one in sickness and in health.. For rich or for poor..