Who benefits the most when people get married?

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For simplicity let us assume it's the most common ordinary male and female marriage, not same sex marriage or transgender marriage.

Investigator · Accepted Answer

In order of importance:
1) The state, because people have to register for a marriage license--otherwise, the marriage is considered invalid and/or diminished to common law, where you get all the prima facie benefits of "being together" such as people recognize you as a couple instead of just two single people, but none of the state-sanctioned benefits like seeing your spouse in hospital
2) The children, because A) they have a "normal household", i. e. and won't be judged as "different" by their peers (all else being equal), and B) there is a pretense of permanent-ness, that one of the parents won't just walk away because they feel like it
3) The woman, because in the event of divorce, she gets custody of any kids of more than 50% of the time and alimony for some unspecified amount of time
4) The guy, because sex and you dont have to worry about finding someone anymore... unless your spouse gets bored. But, like, what are the odds of that happening?

So, in summary, if you are anti-government, anti-natal, not interested in trying to wade through the cesspool that is modern dating and are fine being alone with a dog in the outback, I guess there aren't any? Make no mistake, the guy benefits the least in marriage, bar none. Because of "no-fault divorce", having a "proper" (according to most religions) sex partner is like the only benefit.

Any objections?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Women get with marriage someone to help and support them with additional income. That women somehow suffer for this help is entirely because they have made the arrangement toxic with expectations. Men in general ask and want very little of the women.

So as many people now define marriage a kind of toxic friendship there are very high costs and few benefits mostly just for children on the account of its lingering aspects of its original definition.

As Marriage was originally defined it was a source of security for everyone including the children. A way for women to afford to have and raise a family focusing the necessary time and resources to do so well.

The institution lost most of that when we lost the security of the institution with no-fault divorce. The institution became Toxic (as anything would be) when we added additional requirements of an external locus of control responsible for somehow continued infatuation now redefined as 'love'.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Men get mostly all of the benefits. If you look at stats married men are happier, have better health and end up more wealthy than single men.

Married women get the opposite worse health, less happy and less wealthy then when they first married. This sadly happens because the wife will support her husband with his career, make him go to the doc, feed him healthy, do things to make him happy but the husband does not do these in return. Probably the reason why so many women file for divorce. In a healthy marriage ideally both people would benefit tho. That's just more rare.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

It depends on which kind of people You are talking about. There are two kinds of people who marry: people who marriage is meant for, and people who marriage is not meant for. Marriage is only meant for people above a certain quality, so when such people get married they both benefit equally. When two people below that quality get married, then typically the ban benefits most as long as they do not get a divorce. The woman typically only benefits if they do end up divorcing.

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

Well... I might have rushed my vote for "those that make money from their marriages", but there was no better option to pick anyway, and assuming what we mean by "marriage" is the "state-sanctioned parody of marriage", this option is correct anyway. And if we go deep enough to include the lawyers, let's make sure we include the divorce lawyers, given the high divorce rates. At least one out of every two marriages will lead to at least two divorce lawyers getting a client in the future. The biggest winner might be the state itself, however, as it's given next-to-full control over the life of yet another family.

Now, I absolutely disagree with any claims of children benefitting from this state-sanctioned parody of marriage. Given the high risk of divorce, the children are basically hostages, taken by both of their parents to blackmail the other spouse, and once the tensions rise and the war is unfurled, children are the first one to lose. Up to that point, every single one of their moments of joy is poisoned by the fact that it was not brought to them by their parents due to pure parental love, but in a bid to win their support over in case of a divorce. Nothing to call a "benefit", really.

The state-sanctioned parody of marriage is also an absolute loss for the man. While roaming free, he had many more options in his life, including the immoral ones, like sleeping around (at least he was equal to the woman in this regard). Once shackled, he does not have such freedom anymore and he's forced to bear all the economic difficulties, as he's considered responsible for the family's living conditions by the society. That would be fine, but he can be easily tricked into paying for the upbringing of children that are not his own, as he's defaulted as the father and only has a limited time to deny that responsibility. Once the time is up, his wife could tell him outright that the kid is not his own and he'd still be responsible for said kid's well-being. Basically... He only gets more restrictions and responsibilities, but he's still alone with any problems he might find on his way through life. And if he wants to bail out... Well, that's will be a huge one-time fee plus a potentially lifelong subscription fee. Of course, it's the worst-case scenario, but this scenario has about a 0.5 (50%) probability of coming true. Yeah, cool, yet another game of Russian roulette. And even if the man was to win that game of Russian roulette, he will never know about that fact, so the stress will remain with him until his (potentially untimely) demise.

So... Does the woman win? Not exactly. Her life will be easy no matter what happens, but it's not going to be exactly fulfilling. It's like playing a game on easy difficulty with cheats on - how would one unleash one's full potential under such circumstances? She will get bored. And getting bored in this game means... Divorce. A bonus cache of credits, that's for sure. Sweet, money for nothing, right? Not exactly. There is a penalty. It's not obvious at first, but every divorce gets You more heartbroken, more disillusioned about life, more cynical... A few rounds of this and You are barely human anymore. So... Living a most likely unfulfilling life and barely retaining any human traits in exchange for an almost absolute life security... A potentially tempting, but absolutely poisoned deal.

Now, in the true, traditional, purely Catholic (or otherwise religious) marriage, everyone but the divorce lawyers and totalitarian governments benefits. Trying to decide who benefits the most would defeat the point of this true marriage, though.

lightbulb27 · Answer

That's a tough call. I benefited a lot, have more free time with much lower stress and am getting new adventures that are fulfilling. I get to enjoy time with someone that I really enjoy being with, most of the time... sometimes she drives me nuts, but it's ok and we work it out. I have an amazing partner. I'm sure it can get even better and I'm iting to do more spiritually and that's on me to figure out. Life very good right now, I could complain in the back yard., but I doubt the coyotes would take much notice.

She got benefits as well as doesn't have to do a lot of things she doesn't enjoy that I take care of.

so I don't know...

HawkPerception · Answer

Definitely women.

For the women lucky enough to be housewives because their husbands make enough money for the both of them, they have a pretty easy life. No one will be able to convince me that cleaning, cooking, and handling the kids is harder than an actual job.

And for the majority of women that also have a job and split chores and cooking with their husbands, they still have power over sex and if things end in divorce, it usually ends with the guy getting the short end of the stick.

Guys as far as I know are usually unhappy and unfilled sexually in marriage. And the only reason they live more happily than men that aren't married is the social aspect and having kids. That's definitely better for happiness than living alone.

CheeseMonster · Answer

Who benefits more from  getting married ? I'd say men. Both men and women are expected to work nowadays whether they're married or not. But once married, men aren't expected to do nearly as much household labor or childcare/parenting as women are. Of course this doesn't mean that married men  don't  pull their weight in those areas, but in most average common marriages they have the option not to.

sawno · Answer

In a healthy lasting marriage there is no real difference. Its when the marriage doesn't go well that the women gained immense legal power, and can destroy a mans life. Its why men no longer are willing to marry.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Generally speaking, there's not many benefits for a man to be married unless they marry a traditional woman who is supportive. Otherwise, the sex goes away after the honeymoon and your money becomes hers and her money stays hers.

Cheapskate · Answer

I have never met a man who had his marriage all mapped out before having even met a woman. I have encountered the reverse quite a few times. This tells me marriage is the price men pay for a woman to agree to be theirs.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

The woman.. When for her convenience doesn't work out anymore, she will leave you Skint... no house, no car, no money, and the System is All in her favour, so...🤷‍♂️

Anonymous · Answer

Considering that 80% or higher of divorce are initiated by women. Granted yes, husband could have cheated on her, abused her, not worked/lazy. But many women marry just for a temp fix, tries to find a loophole with lawyers, divorce him and take half or more of his stuff. To any woman or girl reading this thinking that’s okay to ruin a good man’s life, you are a gutless coward and eventually God will punish you for the karma you deserve.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably the woman. I know the female gender is all about "girl power" and being "independent" today. But typically nearly all of them succumb to thier biological pull at some point. Which means meeting a man they can actually tolerate😆. This allows herself to finally let herself go at least somewhat. And then she stops hating men.

WhitneySnow · Answer

You both benefit. It should be something that makes you both happy. Otherwise why do it?

Anonymous · Answer

The man gets free bjs for the rest of his life or until they are no longer married. I call that a win for him.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Divorce Lawyers!

Knaia · Answer

No one it just same benefits vice versa, if some people think otherwise, there must be something wrong even before the marrige decision is made between both person.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

It’s a matter of give & take. Each derive something from the arrangement.

Xia1994 · Answer

I think both because both make vows to each other on that day.

clampfan101 · Answer

If they got married simply out of love and are good partners they benefit evenly.

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

for marriage specifically, I think it depends on who settled for who. Although will both benefit more being together than alone.

DrPepper12 · Answer

The kids if any. Better likelihood of stability, resources and wealth transfer.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Option 2 and 3 but option 3 are always the winners wether it's the husband or wife!

postaldudePL123 · Answer

None, to be honest. It's mutual destruction of each other's lives.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on who was rich before the marriage.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I voted Obviously it's the.

Massageman · Answer

The County Recorder's Office.

Anonymous · Answer

Children. That's it.

Rangers · Answer

The answer is obvious, women

Jennz6 · Answer

The children if they have any.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Assuming it's a good woman, the man does.

strateguy632 · Answer

lady

RebelinSteel · Answer

The kids

BarryLiverstone · Answer

The children

Anonymous · Answer

The illuminati

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