Should a housewife spend money without her husband's permission?
I don't think that is a good idea, women do tend to go on spending sprees buying crap that they do not need or wasting money on fashionable rubbish or designer gear. They also have a habit of shopping as a form f retail therapy or to punish their husband after an argument.
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In a marriage, there is her money and our money. She can spend her money any way she wants. Spending our money should be a joint effort.
Yes and no. She is welcome to spend her personal funds however she wishes as is the man. However the joint money requires communication. My wife and I have 3 accounts her personal account, my personal account, and a joint account. I provide the funds for all of them but the way it works is anything that involves both of us or our kids come from the joint account unless it is meant to be a surprise (gifts can come from personal) anything that doesn't involve both of us for example her artwork or my books, movies, etc. Comes from personal. This way neither of us end up feeling guilty about spending on things we want or like.
I did. All the time. But we always discussed the big purchases and I communicated what I needed in the budget to manage my department (i. e. "Hon, I'm sorry, but $25 dollars for household expenses isn't going to cut it"). But we were a team and communicated our needs and expectations. We also shared a common vision for the legacy we wanted, and that made a big difference.
I can tell you that if a housewife had to discuss every detail of her spending with her husband on a daily basis, it would drive him mad. "Oh, hold on, boss. My wife just texted me for permission to buy the kids some Pepto Bismol because they have the stomach flu...".
But I'm not sure why a guy would legally bind himself to someone he didn't trust to make reasonable financial decisions without his oversight. I would think he would have had many conversations about money, economics and finance with her before it got to that point.
She should be able to buy things without getting "permission". So should he.
But they should consult each other on larger expenditures. I mean, he shouldn't be able to buy whatever he wants without discussing it with her.
A couple is supposed to communicate. It's not about asking for permission. It's about talking about things and making mutual decisions that effect them both.No one in a relationship should make medium to large purchases without consulting the spouse.
This does not mean either can't to buy a coffee, or an outfit etc unless it's some huge name brand type purchase.
If she's buying $1000 outfits and accessories or getting $600 hair and or mani, pedi visits then she absolutely should clear that with her husband. There is a huge difference from buying a $100 outfit and going on a $10000 spending spree.
Not if its their family budget. If its her own money then she can buy whatever she wants. The way my parents organized is that each gets their own allowance every month and everything else is in a shared family pool for family stuff they both agree on like food, repairs, new items for the family, etc. They have been married for over 40 years and I never heard them fight over finances. So its a working system.
It depends on who's more responsible with money. A married lady I used to work with said her husband was the irresponsible spender. She had to keep him reigned in and control the money. For some couples it's the other way around.
If the couple is married then all money is shared and they should fully trust each other to be responsible and spend money without asking for permission
By the time we get married, my wife and I would be very thorough and onboard with finances. Also I am terrible with math and money.
I would probably trust my wife's judgement on how we spend our money. In fact it would be my preference, even if I'm the one working, for my wife to be in charge of the flow of our money.
Of course why not it is her money also. If it is a large purchase like a car or something expensive perhaps it should be best to be a joint decision
Yeah, she doesn’t need permission to spend THEIR money. Momey coming into the household are both of their money, not just his. Withthat being said, of course they should talk to each other before making expensive purchases.
My ex and I had a rule that any purchase $150 or greater MUST be discussed by both of us. We never fought about money.
She should be given an allowance each month, but not have access to his bank/checking account or credit card accounts.
Yes. The man is expecting a hot meal on the the table right?
Extravagant spending might be worth checking out, but regular shopping and spending doesn’t need someone’s permission
Of course she should. Why shouldn't a woman, married or not, be able to conduct herself as she pleases?
Of course!! Permission in a partnership presumes a power imbalance and lack of respect for her.
They're supposed to be a team why would she spend any of their money without his permission? That's like if he went and used the money for gambling and beer.
If its her money sure. Our money. No.
For me it boils down to respect for each other
- It's a agreement of tow parties.
- I permits to my girlfriend.
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