Do you still believe in marriage?

[smurfwrangler]

I don't.

[Rosexøxø]

You’re either part of it or not.

You either plan for it or you don’t.

You either uphold it, or you don’t.

There is no “belief.”

If you haven’t experienced it then you haven’t done it, and if you’re against it, then there is no such thing as marriage for you.

For those who do- do it- marriage is for them. They don’t believe in it or not.

You either do something or don’t.

You’re either part of one demographic or you’re not- and by another demographic instead.

The belief isn’t what makes it real or absent. The action or lack of it is what makes it- IT, or NOT.

I’m not* upset and apologies for any seeming hostility- was just trying to keep this basic.

As for myself I plan to marry and already on the course for that, so one day I will be married and part of a coupling bond with one other person and a part of a demographic known as married couples.

I don't know if this helps the question any, or not.

[Rosexøxø]

Will you one day get married? We don’t know. I don't know if this was a perception of yours for this phase of your life or if it will be a lifelong thing.

Maybe one day you will get married.

But maybe you won’t? 🤷‍♀️

You seem to dislike it and according to OTHER people’s previous marriages and the faults within those, I can see why you’d not like the idea/concept of marriage. 👍

[Rosexøxø]

Best to you! (I don't know about others either- on here).

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Yeah. I mean, my parents and all of my sisters are married, so who says marriage is extinct? Plus, I see happy married couples all of the time. Some have kids and others don't, but it doesn't matter because everyone's marriage is different and what they make of it. Whether marriage is right for me or not, I have no clue yet. It'd be nice to get married but it's also not a requirement.

[lightbulb27]

Why are you a blue girl?


Yes i got married after many years.


Some people are afraid or have bad experiences. Its not always sun and roses but currently we are enjoying the beach and life is very good and easy in all respects. Hopefully we can keep life going well together through the changes and challenges of life.

[HawkPerception]

I still do and definitely want to one day. Maybe I'm a little brainwashed by Disney, but I've envisioned the way I would propose and my wedding setting in my head more than most guys I'd assume.

I also believe in true love and I hope one day I can find a partner willing to sail through life with me.

[DishLady]

Sure, as long as both people are marrying for the right reason — genuine love and appreciation of each other — and not for something flimsy.


Too many people get married just to have kids or just for financial security, just for the social status/tax break or just to have someone on their arm… or just for sex.


It’s important to choose wisely and make sure you’re choosing your forever person, not your “just for now” person. Can you see forever with them? Can you see cleaning up a thousand messes and building a joint blooper reel you can both laugh at together? Can you appreciate and support each others’ gifts and talents? Can you see building a life together through compromise and understanding? If all the answers are sincerely YES in your heart of hearts — and in theirs — and you share a deep love for one another, are emotionally and physically compatible, etc., then absolutely get married.

[Vesuvius87]

I'm getting married next month. Even though I'm atheist (and so is he), I always wanted marriage.

[Rosexøxø]

Congratulations! 🎉 that’s so beautiful. Long years of life health and success to you both! 🍾

[Vesuvius87]

@Rosexøxø Thank you very much.

[Rosexøxø]

❤️ ❤️

[DrPepper12]

Congrats!!

[Vesuvius87]

@DrPepper12
Thank you

[AviatorTom]

Was married for 20 years before an amicable divorce. Now in 2nd marriage, 7 years and counting.

[OlderAndWiser]

I got married on April 27.

[DrPepper12]

Congrats!!

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone. Do I believe in marriage? Oh HELL nO!

As for me I have never been married & if truth be told I don’t want to get married & if I’m stupid enough to get married hopefully I’m smart enough to have her sign a prenup before doing so.

Nowadays if you say I DO say Goodbye To All Your Shit.

[Drackusdredge]

I believe strongly in marriage. It's just that culture had devalued it and there is more people these days who's behaviors are ill suited for it, so there is more people who do not treat it with the proper respect so more broken marriages as a result. I will only marry a woman who understands the importance of marriage vows and family.

[ZackBan]

I don't like the way many countries handle marriage law. But I do believe in the concept of a lifelong partner with whom you build a home and a family.

I wouldn't say it's high on my list of priorities at the moment but it's definitely not out of the question.

[TheLovelyIntrovert]

After being in a 17 year marriage that was abusive. I still would get remarried because that one person should not be allowed to ruin any future happiness I find.

If you plan on being with one person forever then why would you be against marriage?

[ariadneR]

Absolutely.

I used to think I'd know how I'd feel when I met the one who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, but it's completely different.

I'm at ease and content with hom and there isn't anyone else I could see myself with.

[DextroShade]

Yes, they just need to change the rules around it to stop incentivizing women to divorce. There should also be benefits that are only available to married couples; for instance single mothers should not be allowed to get any sort of state assistance but married mothers should.

[IslaTheWitch]

what in marriage is so special, that people should "believe in it"? people marry and then divorce... so what makes it so "special"?

[Drackusdredge]

Depends. these days people marry and divorce more flippantly so it is less special.

But Marriage that is special is a lifelong commitment, bound by vow to stick by eachother through thick and through thin, to have and raise a loving family together giving the gift of life to your children and doing everything you can to ensure they grow up to be healthy, functional, moral adults.

In the west, traditionally and religiously this was the "Ideal" so some people had and have a "belief" in it. Like all "ideals" it was never uniformly or perfectly practiced, and then in time it became more free-wheeling and do whatever which is why some people feel a sense of "belief" in it fading.

There has been a recent further increase in negativity over marriage because of men being left and screwed over by wives more and feeling separated from kids and ruined and betrayed, so you see more men these days saying marriage is a scam or men should avoid marriage. That also contributes to the decline in "belief" for some.

[IslaTheWitch]

@Drackusdredge the thing is we don't need vows to commit into relationship we value... so the marriage more seem to me like a forced commitment, especially that earlier it was parents role to look for the best match for their children... so something had to keep two strangers together...

[Drackusdredge]

I suppose it depends on your view of what makes people value things. For me duty and obligation is a higher form of love then merely just emotional passion. Passion can be fickle, fade, but love that if from the will - love that persists beyond whether your happy or angry at your spouse at the moment - that is the best kind in my view. Vows seem like a good way to solemnize such sense of obligation and commitment.

That being said, sure, in practice sometimes people just stay together for kids or because of legal and social pressures in past, though there is some stability benefits from that it's not really "ideal", though sometimes it could result in people working on fixing or dealing with issues rather then bailing early - other times people just stayed / tolerated longer without fixing things.

[IslaTheWitch]

@Drackusdredge duty and obligation are parts of every relationship (romantic, friendship, business, etc) between mature people... they don't need vows or legalization... if only marriage can ensure them in romantic relationship something is really wrong...

[SixFootSexy]

Legally, I believe marriage is systemically broken. There aren't incentives (and more importantly, disincentives) for men and women to get and stay married. Institutionally, I think marriage is the best format for having and raising children.

[Nikki1989]

Absolutely. 10 years married next week, and we couldn't be happier.

[Kelley1]

Of course, I believe in marriage. In fact I am putting out a lot of effort to get married. Hopefully, I will be married by age 22 and before my sexual market value drops much more.

[Peridot25]

How’s that going so far? Any suitable men yet?

[Kelley1]

@Peridot25 Lots of guys age 30 and above want to marry me but my standard is guys within 3 years of my age and includes these guys that I am dating or have have dated.

[BetaBucks]

For me, yes. For a lot of people, no. You can't be selfish or broken and expect to maintain a marriage. Marriage counseling doesn't fix this. Personal growth does.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Absolutely.

But then my experience of it from seeing my grandparents and parents has been nothing but positive!

Therefore, with that amount of propitiousness, why wouldn't I?

[Elliegirl]

Absolutely! I’m married, so it would be extremely hypocritical of me if I didn’t believe in marriage.

[genericname85]

No. The only point of marriage was to protect women from being fucked over by years of unemployment through being a stay at the mother in case of a separation. Since the single breadwinner model is in the past, so it's the reason for marriage.

[ChiTown33]

Of course I do! I just think only a small segment of today's population is capable of a lifetime commitment. So you have to really take your time and vet that person properly.

[Unit1]

Marriage: bonus pay for the government and businesses.

Divorce: premium surcharge for the government and lawyers.

Its a whole commercialized business.

[DrPepper12]

As an economic partnership and paradigm to raise children yes, absolutely! Monogamy? No. Its unnatural.

[Sugar100]

No I never got married nor a boyfriend. That means no one likes or loves me no one wants be inside my life and have future

[marish01]

I do and losers can never make me lose my faith in marriage

[SixFootSexy]

I think you really hate men. You have one ideal man in your head that doesn't exist, and you despise all the "losers" that aren't that guy.

[marish01]

@SixFootSexy I have one ideal man in my head that migh not exist, and I feel 0 sexual attraction all the men that aren't that guy.
Corrected for you

[marish01]

Might*

[scott04sa22]

Marriage is only a Piece of paper telling government worlds your married

[StyngRay]

Sure. It’s the only way to have a stable family and even experience the world. It was ordained by nature. 😊

[msc545]

I don't believe in marriage either - women have weaponized and monetized it, and courts have supported them in this.

[msc545]

Capitalism and the resulting lust for more and more money ruin many things, and Marriage is just one of them.

[Crazzyyworld]

I believe in marriage is between the pimp and the whore

[Rosexøxø]

Wow.. and then I read your name and read it aloud like some subliminal message “crazy world..” 😂

[OhLongJohnsoning]

I mean, while I do see successful marriages like my parents, happen. I myself, don't want marriage

[amritkaur]

Yes
Marriage is where we take responsibility for each other. it is best for our mental health also. you just need to find the right partner.

[luvstoned4him]

Until the very end...

[serious]

No. I never did

[paledreams]

I don't think I do 😄

[Mad836362738]

If it's a really hot wife situation

[Twalli]

That's why I proposed to my girlfriend.

[noohair]

Marriage is good for some, not for all.

[Rosexøxø]

Agreed. 👍

[LiamJHayden]

Not under current laws.

[SweetDripp]

Yes.

[Account]

I never did.

[Laciejordan]

Yes, I do.

[LazerBean]

Of course

[Agape93]

Nope. Never did

[Phoenix98]

I do.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Indeed so

[Boulemakh]

yes sure

[clampfan101]

Always.

[animesenpai]

Ehhhhhh maybe

[In_Trance]

No i don't