Why do some people seem to take marrying too lightly?

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This is one of the most important decisions a person can make. You're really only "supposed" to marry once (unless your spouse dies or you're abandoned/betrayed)... you're swearing an oath for life. A person's word should mean something. If you aren't as sure as you possibly can be.. don't marry that person. It's better to be alone than to make such a catastrophically bad mistake.

Quigly · Accepted Answer

I Think the question should be: Why do people Marry people that don't take Marriage or Relationships seriously?

I honestly think a lot of women don't take marriage seriously since they know they will simply be filling for divorce after the child is born and collect Child support while shacking up with a new guy for a place to live. Maybe a lot of guys don't take it seriously since they just want to have a kid and have no problem just paying child support and moving on to someone else also.

Marriage is a dying institution if you actually consider marriage having something to do with family, tradition and Religion. If you don't care about the traditional family then it's just a ridiculous contract that can be broken at anytime, no big deal. Just pop the kid out and move on.

Marriage never really had anything to do with Love. You can read examples of marriage in the Bible. One man trades four goats for another mans daughter to Marry. Do you honestly think Sparks were flying for each other in this Marriage? It was a very inglamorous institution just to have a kid, nothing more. So where did this idea about Marriage being about Love come from? Our Government and Banks Glamorize the institution by telling people it's about love since marriage is tied at the hip with selling Real Estate and Consumerism. It's not about Love for another person, It's about greed and Greed and Love do not share the same bed space.

You might have fond memories of your childhood and parents being married and want to pass that along to another generation. But, Marriage wasn't really that great back in the day either. People just didn't file divorce as much since Divorce was so stigmatized.

It's sad, realizing Marriage really has nothing to do with love is no different than realizing Santa Clause doesn't exist. But, It's a part of growing up.

MisterWack · Accepted Answer

This is the emotional aspect & traditional aspect of marriage, I am going to focus on logical.

Marriage is a legally binding thing and to get out of it can be financially hefty & hold some baggage so, my advice is make sure you find the right man / woman before making such a big commitment. Make sure you’ve known each other a long time and have dated a long time so, that you are able to navigate any issue that comes your way and always bounce back while also feeling a deep rich intimate love with this person that will definitely carry on.

Make the choice that works best for you two and yourself, don’t make any dumb mistakes because it is hard to undo. Make sure you are marrying for the right reasons and their priorities, character, intention, etc. are all in order along with yours. Marriage is a big step so, treat it like a big step. That is all, may love flourish.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

The media often portrays marriage as a fairy tale, leading people to believe that it will solve all their problems. This can lead to unrealistic expectations and disappointment.  I wonder about that too with some marriages.

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

I don't know all I know is if you and your fiancee want to throw a big wedding please please MAKE SURE THE GUEST CHILDREN ARE ALSO INCLUDED! I HATE IT WHEN SELFISH COUPES OLAN CHILD FREE WEDDINGS OTS NOT OK!

mobiusforniner · Answer

Because in all honesty, you can’t truly prepare for it. I dove in young, thinking it was real love. Boy was I in for a surprise. Marriage is a lot of work. It’s compromising. It’s communicating. It’s letting go of things I can’t control or change. For someone to go from a single sovereign life to being committed to a whole other person- and then add kids to the mix- marriage is a huge task that I don’t think anyone can really prepare for because all people are vastly unique and different.

After the honeymoon phase and explosive sex life wears off the reality sets in that married life isn’t all perfect. You both WILL make mistakes. You both WILL not get along. It’s how you work through these differences which determines the marriages fate.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I think people that try to lift heavy weights should take it more seriously too. they get hurt, tear muscles, get injured... blow discs. requires a lot of training, prep and being really serious.

Same goes for marriage. I think people get zero training and education, preparation... often choose questionably... then when it gets tough and the pain starts, they go smacking the bailout button in various ways.

I'm sure we could be more successful if we put our minds to it and we wanted better outcomes. Just look at the social media, movies, and what is pushed on us. it is not helpful.

can't blame media... we have to take responsibility. But yes, we should be trained and educated more, better prepared... that help. then make commitment based upon skills and abilities...

Anonymous · Answer

They might have not any good examples of marriage in thier life, thier family. So this is the NORMAL to them.

Take Jayda Pinkett Smith. From what I understand is open marriage is normal in her family. So Will Smith made a colossal bad choice when he chose her. Because you cannot right this ship. She will NEVER be committed to him. Now he has two choices. Neither of them good. He can stay in a toxic marriage where his wife doesn't love him. Or he can divorce. And it would appear he's chosen the former rather than the latter.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Mainly because it's a lot easier to get a divorce now than it was decades ago. That combined with horrible formation of young men and women, skepticism of marriage, viewing marriage as nothing more than a simple contract, and a handful of other issues equals people not taking marriage seriously.

NewWaves · Answer

They weren't taught its true meaning and importance and what actually goes into it.
I think not only is it what makes some take it lightly, but it also explains why most marriages don't last; the truth of marriage wasn't given to them.

michalpl00 · Answer

I don’t know, but it is just liberal thinking I think because yes, marrying means that she will spend the rest of your life with this person no matter what I guess. The only possible thing is cheating then I understand why you would want to get divorced yeah some of these liberals justdon’t think about family they think about individual freedom which is just bullshit to me because family is everything and family stay together in a matter what

BetaBucks · Answer

Because you can start and end a marriage easily. I imagine if we got rid of no fault divorce and made it a hurdle to get married then people would marry less and take it more seriously. But do we really want to lower marriage rates?

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

It's socially accepted to get divorced or even annulments. Also lust and infatuation is really really strong.

It can take awhile before reality truly sets in over actual compatibility versus attraction and even longer before people face it.

paledreams · Answer

As someone told me in 2014, as they said to someone else in my earshot, and I agree and still agree with the sentiment behind it

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

I agree with you, everyone takes everything for granted.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Society no longer applies pressure to stay married. In fact in many instances the laws work counter to keeping marriages together.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Don’t be too serous… that’s why people get fools arounds. Live your life to the fullest that’s all prevent that happens. U not saving nobody

KrakenAttackin · Answer

To women, marriage is a safety net while they wait/search for the man they really want to be with.

In_Trance · Answer

Because some people aren't as brainwashed as others

Anonymous · Answer

Marriage is only a piece of paper 📃

jahaims · Answer

Immaturity

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

bc its pointless

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