Is getting married a mistake?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

No it’s only a mistake if you marry the wrong person , a person that’s selfish and only thinks about themselves

McSteamy · Accepted Answer

In the past no.. these days yes.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It is a mistake to get married if you don't want to get married, if you are not ready for marriage, or if you are with the wrong partner. It is not a mistake if you want to be married, you are prepared for commitment and the work required to keep a marriage strong, and if you have found the right partner.

AviatorTom · Answer

It can be, but most marriages are good, at least for a while. It's unfortunate that most marriages end in divorce, but that doesn't mean the marriage was a mistake.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

My parents marriage was a total mistake. His family disowned me and my sister. Her side my dad wouldn't allow us to see them. Plus my father being in the military I've barely been around any relatives my entire life. My dad wouldn't let me my sister or my mom have any friends. So I have terrible social skills. They fight constantly and always have. I developed all kinds of anxiety issues from hearing them fight. I used to pull my hair out when I was little due to the stress and anxiety. I used to suck my bottom lip to the point it was severely chapped. My father has serious anger management issues and my mom has serious OCD. Neither one cared about my mental health issues my whole life. Their whole solution to my issues caused by them is pills and expecting my therapists fixing me. They should have gotten divorced decades ago. My dad hasn't worked since 2007. My mom worked to support them both and worked herself to a heart attack. My father once told me he doesn't love my mom and only stayed so I don't grow up without a father. I'd been better off without a father.

Shehnaz · Answer

For people who answered this question after being married for more than fifteen years yes agreed fifteen years back it was not a mistake. Getting married now is not the sacred wedlock that was an outcome of love, commitment and loyalty even after disagreements and quarrels. It is not the same NOW, instead of an everlasting bond it has now become a different ballgame of give and take and what benefits do I have for staying married and keeping options available and switching to them at slightest disagreement. So YES getting married is not just a mistake it is a strict no no NOW. The generation expecting to get married some day and stay married will have to work extremely hard to change the mentality of benefits.

dwreborn · Answer

I think rushing into marriage isn't smart you want to know for sure move in 2gether make sure its a good fit me and my wife were 2gether 8 years before we got married been great for years no complaints but DO NOT take each other for granted talk your issues out if you don't communicate and address any issues big or small over time feeling could change and may be to late to fix I know from personal experience good luck to anyone getting married its a great thing just plan on still working hard on it and maybe it last forever

aaron13547 · Answer

Yes and no. It is what you make it. And depends how you look at it. I got married young and it was terrible. Im Not married to my girlfriend now but I love her in ways that younger me couldn't have imagined love was. So is it a mistake I got married to the first person or that I haven't married my girlfriend now? I kinda feel like the expectations and limits of marriage ruined my first one. My relationship now is good because how we grow together because life just works for us both best together. I feel way more "married" to my girlfriend now then the women I actually married young. So I see it as an idea. I don't need anyone else to see me marry her to prove I want to be with this one forever. she knows that and feels the same. and that's marriage to me. It's an idea not a mistake. Make it a good idea 😉

Keyboardkat · Answer

No, it is NOT a mistake! The primary thing is, you have to learn to stop thinking of yourself as "me," and realize that you are now "we." Some people have trouble doing that. If you really love the other person, that makes it easier, because you want to do that.

Miristheiss · Answer

No. Marriage is the correct way to live and is good for chilren and society.

Marrying the wrong person is, not vetting each other and making sure you have the same value system, life goals, views on religion, money, sex, kids.

Picking low character people or BEING a low character person yourself can ruin a marriage.

gangster123 · Answer

No.. not a mistake. But chose wisely the community or family which has history of respecting marriages.. if you chose your partners from such family, highly likely that you did not make mistake. But there are exceptions everywhere, take help of opinion parents, family, friends if you are confused..

Meatballs · Answer

Nowadays yes most marriages don't even last 5 years times have changed people have changed and marriage is not always the answer anymore people find themselves growing apart from their spouses and their mates I've seen too many loveless marriages in my lifetime you know the old the older generation did that because they they stayed together but times have changed and people are realized you're not happy you move on

Screenwriter · Answer

It's according to who you're getting married to and the reasons you're choosing to get married. Could be a mistake if it's the wrong person.

Anonymous · Answer

No. But there are very few women worthy of marriage today. Unless a man finds one of them women getting married is foolhardy. A man should be VERY patient, very selective, and should take as much time as his need to make this decision. Never let ANY woman rush him on this decision.

lightbulb27 · Answer

It's been a real blessing for me. I know that's true for others. Sometimes, it's not or results in additioal challenges which can be great, or too great.

DamianSTG · Answer

Depends, if you was looking for the right person, looking for the right signals, then no, it's not a mistake.

If you never went through chaos and terror with her/him, you won't ever know what will happen if such a bad day comes.

So if it have been years, you both went through pain, arguments, discussions and you always chooses love over being upset and had resolved all of them at the end then you should go for the marriage.

slatyb · Answer

It is for some. It's easy to do, and harder to undo. But usually the big mistake is choosing the wrong person to be a parent of your children. That's impossible to undo.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not if you choose wisely. I've been with my husband for more than 16 years, married for over 15, and it's been wonderful.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It doesn't have to be. A lot of people make the decision to get married very emotionally and impulsively though... and THAT is a huge mistake. Marriage should be a logical decision.

janemarie15 · Answer

No!! Marriage is a wonderful life experience! Not all relationship ends to a marriage, so be thankful. And love your partners. Be faithful and Loyal. Make your partners happy and contended everyday :)

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Biggest mistake a man can ever make, outside of cleaning a loaded gun maybe.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I don't feel that way.  For many others, I suspect it is.

Anonymous · Answer

Worst mistake a man can make. It has no benefits for men either. Women lie and cheat, are not virgins and men lock themselves down to one woman who has no problem cheating with his friends and coworkers. Marriage should be outlawed.

Anonymous · Answer

It could be. Depending on whether you find the right partner or not. Most of the time it’s always an L for men. Men tend to get screwed in divorces.

lorenzomichael · Answer

It could be, so take your time and choose wisely because the choice you choose might end up being the most fucking worst choice you’ve ever made in your life.

Greek_goddess_Iris · Answer

It was for me. But at least I got a wonderful daughter out of it.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Not at all as long as it is the right person at the right time and you love each other and the sexual chemistry is good.

Fireguy17 · Answer

With the wrong person yes. With the right person no.

exitseven · Answer

It could be, There are many marriages that end up huge shipwrecks.

Kelly6 · Answer

@mrshooiser Getting married fast is mistake.

WonderingManII · Answer

Not if you really love and trust the person and they prove that they're trustworthy..

Summeroflove · Answer

Depends on who you marry

WellBye · Answer

No. Choosing a wrong person is a mistake.

northerngal · Answer

If its to the right person... never.

Gwendoline · Answer

Only if you marry the wrong person

BCRanger10 · Answer

No, it is not.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I think it really depends on why you do it.

katiesmuff · Answer

I certainly don't think so!

LazerBean · Answer

It is not for marriage quality people.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

For men, definitely.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Only if you marry the wrong person.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Dep nds on your reasons & motives

RHK36 · Answer

Nowadays it usually is

linka_pat307 · Answer

If only you aren't ready

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on who you’re getting married to.

Staximus · Answer

That depends on who you marry

jahaims · Answer

Only if you are immature

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Marrying the wrong man or woman sure is.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Nope, if it's a real marriage!

msc545 · Answer

For men, it is a terrible mistake.

robocop666 · Answer

Well yeah most end in divorce.

TrimmedTip · Answer

It isn’t.

loveyouoak · Answer

Absolutely

Kenkebuttery · Answer

Probably

SoccerPlayer99 · Answer

Depends on the day.

stayorgo · Answer

Nowadays absolutely

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

nope.

qwerty2469 · Answer

In America. Yes.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Yes and no

Slim57 · Answer

To the wrong person

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