What do you bring to the table for marraige?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

"Bring to the table" is an expression from negotiation and I hate the idea that a relationship is something which requires bargaining. Additionally, the traits listed in your meme - mature, gentleman, loyal, family man, soft spoken, taller than me, respectful, protective - those are things that YOU prioritize but not all girls want the same thing.

If I want you - and maybe I don't - what I "bring to the table" is me, candidly revealed for your review; if you want me, great and, if you don't, life keeps moving and my world won't end.

How would you feel if a guy, on your second or third date, asked you, "So, what's so great about you that I should want to keep seeing you?" What you are asking is not that explicit, not that crass. . . but that is the gist of what you are asking.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Let’s see. A paid off house. A truck as well as a car. Good at cooking, love gardening, that’s where we get a good amount of our vegetables. Family oriented. Handyman as far as fixing things. I maintain our lawn, the trees, work a lot especially OT. I’m not going to say honesty, loyalty, etc, etc. Those are standards that I believe every person should have as a person. So when all these women say loyalty, caring, loving, etc, etc, you should already be all those things. To me that’s a given. Those are the things I bring to my marriage of 22 years.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I am loyal and good at communicating. I love deeply. And I seek to understand and support my partner, in a deep and fundamental way, but expect the same back. I acknowledge my flaws and am willing to work through them. I am currently studying, but should have a pretty stable job once I hand in my master's thesis. And I'm just generally good at making a house feel like a home and offer a lot of warmth. I feel like men aren't too picky and just want to be loved, respected and satisfied.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

“I don't know what you want. … I don't have money, but what I do have are a very particular set of skills, skills I have acquired over a very long career…”

kmg9150 · Answer

Nothing. I dont believe in marriage. Its purpose began for the elite/royals to flaunt their status and wealth for a ceremony that creates an ownership in eyes of law/government. It actually weakens the relationship by creating obligations to stay with someone rather than pure choice.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

I bring emotional clarity, loyalty, and a calm home. I’m not perfect but I communicate, I try and I show up when it matters. The rest, we build together.

DJB72 · Answer

If you want what's on the left you need to figure out what you need to bring as a wife. "Me" doesn't work.

If I ever marry again I'll be looking for a girl who wants to be a wife, not a girl who wants a husband. Because I want to be a husband, I don't just want a wife.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

NOTHING! The marriage table isn’t for me especially nowadays, I’m not stupid.

serious · Answer

A lot of things. However, it is also true that I have standards and I am very strict so my expectations are also in place.

That being said, I have my own reasons for not getting married. I never want to marry.

bubbles328 · Answer

11 guinea pigs  4 cats  1 dog 1 tortoise 2 teenagers  1 house 1 car 1 high income  5 vacations a year No drama  He’s 10 years younger and came with a small suitcase…. That was all

boundless · Answer

What I see in that picture is a list of expectations for a man with no reciprocation by the woman. She expects to do whatever the fuck she wants and suits her. That's call narcissism. The list should be the same on both people.

loveslongnails · Answer

Not getting married, but we've been together over 10 years so it's kinda the same thing. We bring a lot of what each other wants and needs, and that's different for everyone, especially in an open relationship.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I'm loyal, I am a gentleman, trustworthy for the most part, decent looking, taller than 99% of women, I'm a good listener, and not so bad of a communicator.. I also have a calm demeanor..

sage2021 · Answer

What do you mean BRING to the table... I AM THE TABLE!!!

YourExLover69 · Answer

I'm loyal, open minded, life time commitment, traditional, friendly, communicate, never leave or ghost, rest depends on mutual respect and understanding. 😊

Alex-Snow · Answer

I'm not even close to being married, but I will bring to the table honesty, fun, trust, be a good dad, good convo and obviously hopefully some fun with sex.

loveyouoak · Answer

I don't bring anything to the table. I prefer to snack on the kitchen counter.

Tamera952 · Answer

Nothing…. maybe, except a general distain for the institution? …Hahahah

RavVid · Answer

I liked the joke I saw that what women bring to the table are complaints about the table.

Bricealan · Answer

@gwendoline A home, maturity, sense of humor, adventurous, financial security.

msc545 · Answer

Sanity, in fact so much sanity that the table representing marriage is the last table I'm ever going to go to for any reason whatsoever. I know better, and I've learned better.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not much. Financially great, and I am fun, but I am also temperamental and very judgmental in romances. Much better friend than partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Getting a PhD in university is easier than getting a girl or woman to say, yes, I like you, I’ll marry you. So I stopped caring trying to impress women.

DrPepper12 · Answer

I bring the table runner. It's not a decent table for the queen til I accessorize it.

fivebyfour · Answer

Honesty, loyalty, and a strong work ethic,,,

Iron_Man · Answer

a nice house all paid off plus my greatness

AnonGrape · Answer

I brought a metaphorical tablecloth to the table. Nobody saw it coming. That's because I also brought a chandelier to shed light on his dank life and we fkn partied

Anonymous · Answer

I'm loyal and a gentleman, and I'm respectful. Usually soft spoken, don't have to be protective because I like dominant girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Most Women see Guys who can be exactly that everyday yet they are the Guys you are intially not attracted to so you ignore them or at least disqualify them.

imfreeze95 · Answer

Loyalty, family values, gentlemanly behavior and religious devotion.

Guanfei · Answer

Myself, which is not much. Hence why I'm not married.

Anonymous · Answer

If she can't figure that out then she really doesn't deserve it.

Anonymous · Answer

A number of those have been discouraged and even ridiculed by modern feminism.

Jennz6 · Answer

Everyone is taller than me

exitseven · Answer

i was loyal and kind and a hard worker.

itsannalee · Answer

Loyalty, my talent, my gen and money.

Keyboardkat · Answer

Um, dishes and utensils, LOL?

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i offer absolutely nothing. thank you

HighValue · Answer

A prenuptial agreement.

slatyb · Answer

Today I brought pan-fried fish.

Staximus · Answer

Soft spoken is a feminine trait

Ariesman81 · Answer

Chaos, drama and emotional turmoil

Grond21 · Answer

Thankfully, I'm happily married.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing new. The same I am anytime.

dudeinohio · Answer

Loyalty, stability, no drama.

Deserter3 · Answer

Good looks, a massive penis

AdamMad · Answer

How tall are you?

Anonymous · Answer

I am the table... I'm the fucking high table

ABC1x1x · Answer

The Table

Anonymous · Answer

A dog or cat

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