Do educated women really struggle to find partners after 35?

Question

I’m 33. Is it all over? Should I marry soon or otherwise it’s never?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

No your age doesn’t have anything to do with it , it’s unfortunately the way this society is today , so many people have become selfish and that’s why it’s harder to find an actual partner , that actually wants to settle down with you. Sex is the new norm , and sex is easier to get over finding someone that actually loves you for you. Most people today only want what they feel is best for themselves and relationships do not form that way whatsoever. A relationship takes 2 people choosing each other always and prioritizing each other always , sadly most people Today do not know how to do that because they only truly care about themselves. I was married for 20 years to my ex that decided she no longer wanted to be tied down to me anymore once the kids’ got older , so now I am 48 entering back into this dating world and I feel so lost on how selfish people have become. I blame a lot of it on social media that we allowed to brainwash us into believing in nonsense , so I am no longer rushing into a relationship with anyone , until I really get to know them and see the big picture before I have my heart broken again , FWB’s with some strings attached seems to be my best option these days to give her and I time to really get to know each other before making the big decision of fully committing to each other , so the both of us don’t get hurt if one of us decides this isn’t what we really want. It takes time to really get to know someone , the sex is just an added bonus pretty much

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

The value of men and women flip as they age. Women seek men who have already made achievements, found success and showed they're capable in life. That usually comes with age. Whereas men seek women who are beautiful, kind, and can give them a family.

Let me be clear... women still have value and can find partners later on in life. They actually still have an easier time than men finding partners in their later years. But because they're used to getting so much attention when they were younger, it seems like a very small amount of attention to them when they get older.

You can definitely find more desperate men wanting to settle down later on in life, but it is just a fact you will not be as valuable in the dating market when you're older as a girl. Men have never cared for a girl's career or income.

Kelly6 · Accepted Answer

Correct answer will make most women upset here.

but yes some educated women have difficulty finding a partner.

Not because they are educated, mostly because they a too much focused on their education and career that they forget to think for their family life.

in which after getting successful in education and career, which is around age 35 yr old. At that age the window of finding a partner gets shorter, mostly the guys who are into building family with kids and not available.
it’s sad but brutal reality 🫤

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Apparently so. Time and again I’ve been told “you know what your problem is? You’re too smart… don’t tell people about your education.” And several pretty young women in my circle are constantly being told “why are you still in school? You’re wasting your best years. You’re too pretty for that.” As if being smart and being pretty/sexy are mutually exclusive things.

I guess some guys are just jellyfish so they can’t handle an educated woman. 🤷🏻‍♀️

HollyK21 · Answer

Educated, beautiful, rich, it doesn’t matter the caliber, any woman can either struggle or be successful with dating. You are educated, but it takes more to connect and form a relationship with someone than that.

AviatorTom · Answer

Not to worry. i recently attended a family wedding where the bride and groom were each 37 years old, first marriage for both of them. They had been dating for about a year before getting engaged.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I got married when I was 69 years old and my wife was 60 (she has a master's degree in computer science.) It is never too late to find love!

BCRanger10 · Answer

Not necessarily, but it depends on what you're looking for in a man and what you'll want and expect from him. And also, what you're willing to give to him, to bring to the table.

For what it's worth though, I know a woman who got married when she was 38 and had a baby. There's also a podcaster named Jedidiah Bila. She got married at 40 and had a baby as well, and from what I have gathered, the baby did turn out to be perfectly healthy.

My opinion is that it's not a lost cause, but if it's what you want, sooner will be better than later.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Answer me honestly. How many guys did you turn away from 18-35?

Because you were focused on your education. Because you thought you could do better? Because you were focused on your career?

Nothing wrong with any of those choices. But all choices come with consequences.

They lied when they told you you could have it all. On your own timeline.

Men have goals and objectives too. And they have choices to make. By their mid 30s they have either made those choices already or they are choosing younger women.

Like it. Don’t like it. That’s reality.

Mark_Est · Answer

Yes, it is most likely over.

2 reasons.

Firstly, you dont qualify for the men that you want. Traditional men only date traditional women. Those women are fit, feminine virgins. And 18-25 years olds in most cases.

Secondly, do you women think that good men/women just sit around and wait for the scrap to be done with their H phases and etc? To then date you? No, dream the f on. Good people got together already. Mostly scraps left in the market after 26, just worse odds with every year.

Sure, some men wait longer, but they aren't going to go for an old woman who has nothing to offer to them. These men want a family, and a good wife, they will go for a fit feminine virgin that is in her early 20s.

You may be mad at men, feminism or social media, but you made your own choices, you are the one to blame for such outcomes.

Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

Even w out the education at your age that door is slowly closing. I’m not saying it’s impossible to meet someone, your chances are just slimmer at this age. Women tend to want taller men, a man w status, money, etc. Men usually want younger women. As far as the education part, it can lower your chances even more decoding on how you carry it, how you use it. A lot of women who are educated tend to throw that in men’s faces like we really care about her education. Some men do. But the difference there is her acting like she’s high n mighty. It’s sort of like when women get power over men, they don’t know how to use it productively. They tend to look down on the man, abuse their powers. Would you say you’re pretty? I’m just wondering how come you have not met someone all this time? Married by now or have a child? Maybe you do. Were you too concentrated in your education?

Anonymous · Answer

It is still possible to find a partner over the age of 35, if you are willing to settle or lower your standards. Nowadays, it is not uncommon to see 36 to 40 yr olds have babies. But if you are looking for a high value, tall, accomplished, rich, good looking dude, you might not be able to score him. You would probably have plenty of men in their late 40s and 50s leering at you.

Men's value decreases as they get older too. It's not like the average 50 yr old man can attract the young 25 yr olds he is craving.

Staximus · Answer

It’s better to not get married than to rush into a marriage. There’s no such thing as the perfect person but there is such thing as good enough. Look for good enough, not perfection. Mr. Right, not Mr. Right Now. It’s not the 1800’s, you don’t need to have kids so you have free farm laborers anymore. Nevermind that “the clock is ticking” bullshit. Not having kids doesn’t make you a failure as a woman. You better live with a guy for at least a year first to make sure he’s but an undercover shit bag. Plus what if he leaves the cap off the toothpaste until you hit him in the head with a frying pan?

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Sadly it's not just educated women who struggle after 35. The saying is "men age like wine and women age like milk", which is partly true. Time is not on your side. Perhaps it can be harder for highly educated women who have a high paying job, because women almost always still want a man to earn more, so that severely limits her potential "husband material". Just gotta say that men don't care about a woman's paycheck or degree, generally speaking, so that's a female concern that you can try to ignore for greater selection of partners. But I know that has to be hard since women almost never "marry down" like men do.

Marshast · Answer

I would say don’t rush anything. Forget about society’s pressure, make sure you’re secure and safe with yourself, and with anyone you’re going to take that decision with. Don’t be dependent on people’s opinions, and don’t let their opinions decide your future. At 35 we should know better..!

browsingthroughthe · Answer

Lol it's not the end of the world 😭 or people should seek a licensed therapist / support professionally.

Back to the question - like the cover photo example on the wall posts - I guess all people prefer someone healthy and "of breeding age" aka 20s early 30s prime - as said the T850 in Terminator Rise of the Machines

BadApple69 · Answer

I am talking in general here… men want children and a late 30s early 40s girl has greatly lessened the possibility of children.
That’s why “educated women” have more of a struggle finding a man…. And it’s not because they are educated it’s because of their age. If a man wants children he wants a 20 something to have those children with.

ericJackson · Answer

Not at all Being educated and knowing what you want just shrinks the pool of bad options, not good ones. Don't rush into marriage out of fear the right person will value your intelligence and success regardless of age. Just be careful not to let past hurt make you overly guarded, because sometimes people get so hyper-vigilant trying to protect themselves that they end up taking the right person for granted when they finally show up

sawno · Answer

You can find partners either way, its the amount of options that makes the difference. You will only be able to get an older guy or someone who can't get younger. Fertility wise it makes more sense to get with someone young so you don't have to rush children, so guys will prefer to date younger so the relationship doesn't turn into a rush.

Anonymous · Answer

I think most women do, it's because men are looking for something who wants to experience for the first time, who isn't annoying or commanding.
It's not like men hate strong women it's just the needs.
Women forget that men are humans with there own emotions, goals and personality.
Also we tend to be childish around the people we adore.
Women after 30's have a very high body count, nothing is new and exciting for them, complaining, nagging, no fun times.
Even if you ignore the obvious reasons, they never give the person who is interested in them a chance, and give everything to a person who is going to just sleep with them and use them.
And that keeps repeating for most women. All around the world.
And then complain to someone who used to be interested in them romantically.
After that complaining starts it's too late for you I am afraid.

Miristheiss · Answer

Only a fool would try to marry a 33 year old.

You have been having sex since 16-19...15 or more years of letting men that are not your husband in you, you are set in your ways now, getting wrinkles, most of your prime reproductive, family building years are gone.

That isn't wife material.

RingOfFire · Answer

I wouldn't say that. I had a Great Aunt who was married 6 times. Her last marriage was in her 80s. She was widowed 5 times.

There will still be chances for marriage later in life.

However, what is in jeopardy is your chance of having children. From your age on your ability to do that declines rapidly. So if that is your desire, you should start giving serious thought to making finding a husband a top priority.

Pohjolan · Answer

Some do. There's obviously way more factors that go into this like location and looks.

Also some of the perceived lesser desire is just that, perceived.

The men you have rejected IRL or on dating apps before are already out of the picture which means less suitors but not a lesser desirability by itself.

Anonymous · Answer

"Educated"? Are you suggesting she's very judgmental? Because, yeah she'll probably going to struggle then since her greatest asset is beginning to fade. But no, being educated shouldn't affect her ability to find a partner if she truly is a good woman. Who's truly looking for a PARTNER. But this does beg the question. If she's such a good woman, why has she found a man by now?🤔

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SamIam96 · Answer

It isn't age. The most available and desirable partners get taken first. Why do you focus on education as the cause? There are many reasons that women (and guys) don't meet their mates.

slatyb · Answer

If they want to marry a man with a college degree, they may because more women are getting degrees than men, and many of the degreed men marry in their 20's.

MrChinaski · Answer

Women's dating capital peaks at 21 years old. That's reality. Sorry. But I'm inferring you want one partner, not to be chased by many suitors. Yes, that can happen at any age.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

If marriage was a priority you're already late. If I'm late getting to the shops all I see is a few stale loaves. You are in stale loaf territory now.

molonski2 · Answer

33 is nothing.. no issue. Both my daughters are older 34 and 37 , neither is married  Never rush it , that's how mistakes happen.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Only clueless idiots (anons) would think that. You can find a partner at any age. Education and age have nothing to do with anything.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It has to do with fertility.  If you notice women around that age are mostly desired by men who don’t care for having kids or already have had kids

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

33 means you're pushing the limits, but no specific age means you're over because love can be found at any age!

jazzy34 · Answer

Yes. The more educated you are, the more you aren’t willing to deal with foolishness.

_Jenny_ · Answer

@Nikki1989 you forgot this

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I know an educated woman that's about to turn 35 and she's had a great guy for nearly two years!!

Just_Ken · Answer

No but what they actually do is price themselves out of the market.

bear34 · Answer

In my opinion, this isn't about being educated; it's about one's social circle, beauty, and high level of femininity

jahaims · Answer

No, that is just a way women cope with not being picked. Guys want a feminine women. When you act masculine you only attract the feminine which you aren't into

Bricealan · Answer

No, of course not over at 33. That is a mistake to think that

Smileygirl2000 · Answer

You're desperate and insecure so yes it's all over for you. And I think it boils down to your looks

Alex-Snow · Answer

Do not let age determine when you should marry. It should be when you find a guy you love, are happy with emotionally and of course sexually.

foxsquirrell · Answer

Struggling to find a partner has nothing to do with education. If a hot and educated over 35 wants to find a partner she will find as many as she wants. So wtf are you talking about?

exitseven · Answer

I suspect it is not easy unless they find some old guy with a few bucks.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I am 31 and have dated female attorneys over 40. None of them seemed to struggle getting dates.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think so. There are a lot of well educated divorced men who want a partner their age on their level. Or so I’ve heard.

kaucky1 · Answer

Be ageless and become an lesbodian those guys are not made like me yet unless they the first ones of krytonia with multi dicks

Anonymous · Answer

It is the same for men. People your age will become less available as they get older.

dudeinohio · Answer

You can find a partner at any age... including old age.

TakeItDeep · Answer

I think its like same with men also. I mean its getting harder, but who knows, maybe so son you will meet someone special :)

Anonymous · Answer

never marry just to marry, greater women then you never had kids and it was ok. SO marry out of pure true love not out of false obligation to yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

No, you have plenty of time to get married.

MasterKS · Answer

because they keep their standard high, men are cheap.

Anonymous · Answer

Have a feeling your standards are a bit high. Trying opening your mind

Anonymous · Answer

It's not the education they're after...

canamlusciouslad73 · Answer

Yes, especially if they're plain.

Abbycado · Answer

I’ve got one

wkhan_87 · Answer

It's a good age, you should marry now.

Stormzy001 · Answer

not at all... love is unconditional

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