PS: my grandma passed away...she is now at peace with my grandpa.
My stepmother wants my grandmother's engagement ring. Help
PS: my grandma passed away...she is now at peace with my grandpa.
Keep it in the family at all costs. Your dad's girlfriend is NOT your stepmother by law and has no right to any family inheritance whatsoever. Those rings should be with your aunt/godmother for sure and then pass to you after that.
By law, your dad and aunt/godmother must split the inheritance 50/50 unless your grandmother left a will. So, after he and your aunt/godmother split whatever property your grandparents had, he can choose to give away whatever he wants of his share as gifts - including gifts to his girlfriend.
That's why it's important that you make sure that the rings go to your aunt/godmother in the split. Do whatever it takes. If your dad gets them, they're out of the family forever, for his girlfriend will certainly find a way to pick them off of him.
Also, you're right, the way your grandma hid the rings and told only her best friend is indicative of her fear that her son would gift them to his pushy girlfriend. Maybe it's best if you and your godmother never admit to knowing their whereabouts and that way avoid bitter, endless fighting with this "stepmother" character who is sure to leverage your dad in creating an intra-family war over these heirlooms.
Because the will was 50/50, she felt guilty she was hiding it from my dad. I would have stole them myself but I couldn't do that to my godmother.
Your Godmother deserves those rings. And then they should go to you. Your stepmoher has no claim of these rings. Passing down rings is family/blood type of thing. What if she left your father? Now she keeps the rings? It should be a situation where no matter what they stay within the family. No matter what you will always be related to your grandmother.
Yea, your Godmother deserves those rings, and then to pass them onto you. Your stepmom has no claim of these rings.
She already has a nice ring, and she's just being greedy. Why else would your Grandmother's friend come to you? Why else would the rings have been hidden? Obviously your grandma wanted for the family to have the rings and not the stepmom.
The only one that should get the engagement ring is one of the granddaughter. The grandson should get the wedding band for his future wife. I'm wearing my grandmother's wedding band and family ring.
Keep it in the family. She is not blood related therefore she should not have the right to have it.
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I definitely think the rings should go to your godmother and then you. I don't see how your stepmother has any claim over them at all, other than a story with no proof behind it. And then there's the fact that your grandmother hid them, which makes me suspect that she figured somebody in the family would try to steal them, and the fact that she sent her friend to you and your godmother instead of to your stepmother, tells me that your grandmother was hiding them from your stepmother.
if she get's them even for 2 seconds you should force her to write a contract stating you'll get them when you get married and or after she dies. how ever that works.
I don't think she should get them at all.
I agree with the other answerers. Your godmother should inherit them as she is the next female of kin to your grandmother.
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