3 months is way to early to be asking someone to attend a huge event where theyd be meeting his family and all his friends and watching his friends special day, he might be in wedding photos and won't want a date he potentially may not end up with long to be forever in those pictures along with his friend (groom).
Also weddings invites from a boyfriend/girlfriend can give off the wrong idea and send them running for the hills thinking oh this is way to fast bringing me to important events when we've barely been together long enough, it may also encourage a few girls (not saying this is you) who will then drop hints all through the wedding about how she can't wait to get married, does he ever want marriage, could he see it with her? etc etc and make the guy feel really uncomfortable
Also he may not even be allowed to invite a guest, the bride and groom or their parents have to order the meals so will only have a set number unless they make huge buffets so won't invite 201 people when they have 200 meals ordered. if the invitations went out months ago they won't have known youd date him and won't have invited you
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If you only got together three months ago, he probably hadn't stated a +1 on the RSVP...
Just ask him. It's kinda awkward, but you can just say, "hey, how come you're not taking me as a date?" and just be chilled out about his answer.
wow at your update, he REALLY didn't want you to go with him :(
how did you find out he went when he told you he wasn't going? have you asked him why he lied to you and avoided you?
3 months only, it means you two aren't that close yet, and it probably is, since its just 3 months. the fact that he didn't ask you to go isn't on you, he might not like the wedding and would be leaving asap for drinks or something, and doesn't want you to be all dressed up for that, or he's not ready to show you to his friends yet, either way, take it as experience that you two still have work to be done, not sulk about how he doesn't want you going to a single wedding, when there could potentially be 100s of them in the future for the two of you when you both are ready.
especially considering that you two both got invitations it seems like that absolves him of a responsibility to invite you. As far as I know when two people get invitations then the whole +1 becomes irrelevant.
did you ever talk to him about it?
I highly doubt there is anything wrong. try not to read more into than a simple miscomunication between you two and like you said to someone else an unfamiliarity with the whole wedding in vite stuff
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He probably doesn't realize it's important to you.
Most guys don't see the big deal. I don't see the big deal. I probably wouldn't invite my girlfriend if I didn't know it was important to her. Events like that are boring.He proved his point. You didn't want to go because you knew most people there. You wanted to go because he was going. Once he said he wasn't you had no problem f***ing over your friends and wasting a dinner.
He went. Had a good time. People know you cancelled at the last minute for no reason.
Lovely.You are only together 3 months! When did the invitations go out? If he didn't get an invite for himself plus one, he can't just come along on the day with an extra person!
Don't you know anything about how weddings operate?
You can't just sit yourself down somewhere and order a dinner.
Don't be so stupid and insecure.Are you sure he had an invite plus one? Because he may not have. That's really the call of the people throwing the wedding.
Now if he HAD a guest and took someone else. . .He's a liar. Congratulations on knowing it now. Ditch him and don't waste another moment.
well, if you both got invitations then he obviously knew you'd be going too...?
Ask him. Be honest, don't assume and stay calm.
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