Boyfriend didn't invite me to his graduation

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is in the military and he just finished a month long course. He graduates today and come to find out there's a ceremony and the other guys invited their families. My boyfriends family is in New York so I'm the closest thing he has here. But he didn't invite me or even tell me about the ceremony until it was too late. He knows I'm off work and everything today anyway. I'm very hurt that he'd rather have no one there instead of having me there.

Is there any other way of seeing this? Because honestly I can't see it and its just infuriating

[martyfellow]

Maybe he doesn't think this is such a big deal. It's not college graduation, after all, just a mnth long course.

[Asker]

Yeah I get that but surely if everyone else will have their family there he'd want someone there

[martyfellow]

Maybe he didn't want you feel obligated to sacrifice a couple of days just for this short observance after a one month course! He may just be a mdoest sort of guy who doesn't celebrate himself so much..

[Asker]

I live only 5 minutes from his base and I'm off work anyway today, which he knew since Sunday

[martyfellow]

Still, some of us don't like to toot our own horn, if if other people are doing that. Give him a break, here!

[Asker]

I'm trying but something about it is off you know? I just have a weird feeling, not the crazy "oh he's clearly cheating on me" girl feeling we irrationally get if he forgets what our favorite ice cream is. But a serious feeling something is up, like he didn't want me to go for a reason other than modesty

[martyfellow]

A guy off in the military, there's certainly the possibility he's got something he wants to hide..yes..!

Just ask him without sounding too angry about it, see what he says!

[Anonymous]

How long have you been going out? Less than 3 months?

[Asker]

Yes but it's as if we've been together a lot longer, and I know some of his coworkers already so it wouldn't be awkward on that count

[Opinion Owner]

That wasn't why I was asking. It's not about who you know or whether it would be awkward.

Less than 3 months... How typical.

[Asker]

Why typical?

[Opinion Owner]

You just are...

[Asker]

I mean technically we've been going out almost exactly three months(July 2). But I'm not sure why that makes me typical.

[Opinion Owner]

Your reaction to this non-event is exactly the sort of reaction you'd expect from a girl at the 3 months stage of going out. You're like a walking text book of relationship issues.

That's what I mean by typical.

[Anonymous]

That sounds very strange. Maybe its not really a big deal for him.

[Anonymous]

He just doesn't think it is important or that you would like to go

[Deft_maiden]

Talk to him. See what his perspective is. Keep calm though

[dommage]

well talk to him and then decide, he might not wanted anyone there for a reason