Holiday Birthdays Are The Worst

[Anonymous]

If your birthday falls between November 21 through January 31, you know the pain of having a holiday season birthday.

1. Your birthday is never about you

If your birthday quite literally falls on an exact holiday every year, your birthday is never just about you no matter how hard people around you may try to give that illusion, and let's face it, many of them don't even try or acknowledge it's "your birthday." It's about Grandma Gene flying in, and needing to rent a crib for your new cousin, and last minute sales, and the frantic cooking of the turkey. Everyone is having a party or preparing for one, not just your special day.

2. Finals

There is nothing like having to take three final exams on your own birthday that you can't get out of every single year. Yup...you can try and party, but you run the risk of having to stumble into a final exam in the morning worth half your entire grade for the semester totally exhausted, or heaven forbid, hung over. And it's not like you can really invite people over for the weekend, because finals last 2-3 weeks, which means no one is available to help you celebrate until after they're over, and by the time they're over, everyone is off for their own vacations.

3. You can't go anywhere

Even if you just wanted to escape for a little vacation within the vacation season for your birthday, flights, hotels, rental cars, attractions, etc. are all super expensive because of the season. There is no way you can just last minute book anything unless you want to crap out a golden egg to pay for it.

4. No one can come

There are always two things aside from finals that keep people from coming to your birthday party, and that is the weather which is usually too cold or too snowy, or people already having to make travel plans to get there for the actual holiday. It's always, we're going to see you in 3 weeks or we just saw you at Christmas, that guarantees you'll be eating cake alone again this year.

5. Seasonal Everything

You cannot escape handmade turkey wreaths, New Years Streamers, or the thousands of Christmas decorations. It's a daily reminder that you are going to be the least important thing on your birthday because it's about all the rest of it. Add to that holiday theme birthdays if you're sooo not a fan.

6. Combo Gifts

Happy ThanksMerryNewBirthday To You! Yup, if you've ever heard the following phrases, you know the pain of it all. "This is your Christmas and birthday gift." "We're going to hold off until Christmas to get you a gift." "We figured since your birthday was so close, that we'd just get you the one gift." "You don't need two gifts." "I'm so glad your birthday is around Christmas, so we only have to get you the one gift." Or being gifted on your Christmas birthday with something so seasonal, like a Christmas sweater, that you can do nothing with after that day.

7. The best stuff is unavailable

January pool party...too cold, and the pools are closed for the winter. Birthday rental place...is being rented out now at a higher price for holiday parties. Theme parks...it's too cold to go and they are only ever open on certain days in the winter season when everyone is unavailable to go of course. You're pretty much guaranteed to be somewhere inside someone's house last minute with something thrown together because no other place could be found to throw your party.

8. You're treated as if you're selfish

Why is it everyone else can be treated like a king/queen on their birthday, people change their whole plans to be with them or surprise them, they get gifts without being questioned, they can pick their own birthday theme, there is no getting some lame combo gift which is really just "one gift," they get to go hang out with their friends and have parties, but if you, on your own birthday during this season, ask for the same kindness and fun to be returned to you, you're treated as if you're selfish for wanting those things too or some kind of ingrate. Yes, it's a holiday or somewhere in the holiday season, but all you want is just some little teeny tiny acknowledgement that its your birthday and just a little bit of care and celebration for you, thrown your way...that's it.

[Fathoms77]

My longest relationship was with someone who's birthday was on December 26. But I guess her family always went out of their way to make sure there were separate celebrations; they'd wait a few days after Christmas Day to celebrate her birthday, for example, and no family relatives were allowed to do the "oh, this present is for both Christmas and your birthday." ;)

It was sort of a double-edged sword for me. The pros were that it was basically impossible to forget her birthday (sure, March 22 might slip from memory but December 26 certainly won't), and I basically only had to shop for her once instead of twice, as the Christmas and birthday gift-buying period was the same. The big con, of course, was that I had to shell out a fair amount of money at once because I needed several presents for each event, so-to-speak. :P

[myTake Owner]

My friends bday is on New Years, and I can't say I've ever forgotten her birthday, but she has thankfully taken to celebrating her birthday, as in a real party, on February 1 or thereabout, because she was so sick of it being about New Years, and people being too broke to party, etc. Mine is after Thanksgiving, was always during finals, everyone was always busy/broke, etc, never had outdoor parties which I really wanted as a kid. I'm glad that you guys at least tried to make your partner feel like she was special on her own day.

[Fathoms77]

Mine is in early August, which was great as a kid. I always felt bad for kids who had their birthdays during school (which was most of them, of course), and I never had to worry about homework and tests around my birthday, and there were no holidays in sight. :)

[myTake Owner]

Now you're just rubbing it in! The wounds are still fresh man! :)

[RainbowFanGirl]

My birthday is onDecember 9. I love it becuase it's close to Christmas but not SUPER close to Christmas do I usually get a present for my birthday and a couple on Christmas. 😂

[yourbestfriend0]

Most of the times I forget my birthday, because I'm too busy around Christmas. My birthday is on the 20th of December by the way. :)

[myTake Owner]

Have you ever wanted to just celebrate it at another time either earlier or later so it would be about your birthday and not the holiday or you like it that way?

[yourbestfriend0]

No, I haven't. It's good for me, because it's not about me. I hate being in the middle.

[jman46241]

Lol yep, I usually get combo presents. Just a part of having a birthday that is always exactly 3 weeks after Christmas.. I also lived in/live again in snowy, cold Indiana. Are you a capricorn as well?

[myTake Owner]

Sagittarius

[jman46241]

What month is that? Sounds like November..

[myTake Owner]

I think its a little bit of November too, but I have a December birthday

[jman46241]

Well it's not that bad.. Might as well get it all over with at the same time lol. Great Take by the way. Hope the other guy that responded promotes and features this :)

[CT_CD]

My birthday falls between November 21 through January 31

[Adigelunar]

çGood post