My boyfriend (of nearly two years) and I broke up a couple days ago and we left it rather open ended. We're definitely broken up, not on a break, and we agreed to not contact each other for a while. "a long time".
The break up was probably the most sane and mutual way it could have happened. We hugged and kissed and said goodbye. We both said how much we like and love the other person but that it isn't working. He feels too much pressure and I feel like a burden and it's just hurting us.
We decided to stay away for a while and then when we can to try being friends. I know everyone says that but it felt really real, not like some line we were saying to make the other person feel better about breaking up. Basically the way we left it is that hopefully someday we can be friends because we don't want to lose each other, and if that works maybe we can be more than friends again sometime. Not now, we both need time to grow up a little and figure out what we need and what went wrong. If we just got back together now it would be a repeat of when he broke up with me in the middle of last year for two days and then nothing changed.
I love him very much and I miss him. I want to do good for myself and grow as a person but I really hope we can be together again someday. What I want to know is how soon is too soon? If we can't be lovers I really do want to be his friend. His birthday is at the end of next month, do I send him a card? Nothing crazy, but just saying happy birthday and that I hope he's well?
How long should we wait? Is that too soon? And we are broken up, so there are no strings, he could meet someone and I could meet someone. I just don't know quite what to do. I need to work on me and so does he (of himself), but I wish we didn't have to lose each other in the process.
Please give me any advice you can.
The break up was probably the most sane and mutual way it could have happened. We hugged and kissed and said goodbye. We both said how much we like and love the other person but that it isn't working. He feels too much pressure and I feel like a burden and it's just hurting us.
We decided to stay away for a while and then when we can to try being friends. I know everyone says that but it felt really real, not like some line we were saying to make the other person feel better about breaking up. Basically the way we left it is that hopefully someday we can be friends because we don't want to lose each other, and if that works maybe we can be more than friends again sometime. Not now, we both need time to grow up a little and figure out what we need and what went wrong. If we just got back together now it would be a repeat of when he broke up with me in the middle of last year for two days and then nothing changed.
I love him very much and I miss him. I want to do good for myself and grow as a person but I really hope we can be together again someday. What I want to know is how soon is too soon? If we can't be lovers I really do want to be his friend. His birthday is at the end of next month, do I send him a card? Nothing crazy, but just saying happy birthday and that I hope he's well?
How long should we wait? Is that too soon? And we are broken up, so there are no strings, he could meet someone and I could meet someone. I just don't know quite what to do. I need to work on me and so does he (of himself), but I wish we didn't have to lose each other in the process.
Please give me any advice you can.
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