Is it bad to regift something from your ex girlfriend when you were still together?

Question

Ok so I meet a girl I like a lot and wanna give her a teddy bear. My ex girlfriend gave me 2 teddy bears when we were together and both are pretty awesome compared to the ones I've seen in stores. Seems like the best teddy bears are around Valentine's day only lol but  anyways she broke up with  me like 3 months ago and I've moved on. Do I regift the things she gave me to a new girl  or keep them in case I ever get back with her? Is it safe or do I just buy a new teddy bear for her?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

All, if not all then most, girls will say get a new bear.This is probably going to get a lot of downvotes, but seriously don't be afraid to just regift it. Just don't tell her you got the bear from your ex. Don't tell her where you got it, or anything of the sort. Just give it to her. If she knows you got it from your ex she won't want the bear. And that is completely understandable because I wouldn't want a gift from a girl that she got from her ex boyfriend.

If you want to play it safe, then yeah, buy her a new bear. Don't keep the bear just in case you might get back with her. And because you asked such a question is why I have no problem telling you to just regift it. If you're thinking that one day you might get back with your ex then you're clearly not over her. Moved on, yeah, but not over her. With you not being over her completely she can't truly feel special. She might be faked into thinking she feels special, but if she's not the only girl on your mind then she can't truly be special. Thus buying her a new bear to make her feel special is just a form of hiding the truth that she's not truly special to you. At least not yet.

If you want my God-honest opinion, I say don't regift and don't buy her a new anything. Right now it feels almost force, as in, you want to get her something to increase the chance of her liking you back at the same level you like her. Wait until you are completely over the idea of ever getting back with your ex, and are ready to give your everything to this new girl. Once this happens then you can give her a present.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Don't you feel like you'd be disrespecting your ex? Don't keep the bear just so that you'll be able to get back with your ex if the opportunity arises. Keep it in respect of the fact that your ex got it for you with kindness in her heart.

bijinbijinbijin · Accepted Answer

my ex gave me some stuffed animals and they were great but I just did not want to be reminded of the guy anymore so I gave them away to one of my friends kids.

You should not give them to your new girlfriend for your own sake. Every time she mentions the teddy bear or if you ever see it you will think "oh yeah I remember that teddy bear", When you start a new relationship you should totally get rid of things that remind you of your ex, not carry them on to your next relationship because you are already setting yourself up to not have a successful relationship.

even if you never see the teddy bear again its something that would make you feel guilty or weird. And you should want to start a relationship off fresh and honestly. Also you will just feel better knowing that you were able to give your new girlfriend a new special teddy bear. Seeing her happy face will make you happy as opposed to you feeling "uh, is this right?"

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

I really think it's a better idea to buy something completely new and give it to her. Yes you are spending more money, but think about it this way, that bear has different memories already attached to it. Your new girl would want something from the heart, most importantly from you! That bear didn't come from your heart, it came from your ex-gf's heart.

The new girl is more than likely going to brag to her friends about what you got her. Somehow she is going to find out that your ex girlfriend gave you that bear. She will feel less important because of it and might not like the fact that you regifted it so much.

I know it sounds picky, but you want to make her feel special. Give her something that if you really like her, will show how much you care and will make a special memory unique to the two of you. Don't give her something that signifies memories of another love.

Hidden_P · Answer

No! Do not give them to her!

Put it this way. Imagine your girl gave you a beautiful little gift; something really cute and meaningful. Now imagine, lets say a month, later you discovered it belonged to her ex who she had a great relationship with. Wouldn't you wonder if she gave it to you so she could see a bit of him everyday? Wouldn't you feel like she was trying to imagine you were him?

I know it's a bit over the top, but that's how she'll probably feel. Do not to it. I would be killed if someone gave me a gift an ex had given them.

And besides, the gift was intended to you, don't disrespect your ex (however much you like/dislike her) by giving it away to a new lover. Just, put it in a box :)

CatholicVirginia · Answer

NO. She wants a gift you bought for her, or made for her, or whatever. The idea being FOR HER specifically. Keep the old teddy bears, throw them away, whatever you want to do - but don't give them to the new girl. Wait until you see something that screams "This is for HER" and give it to her.

By the way, you say you're over her, but then you say "in case I ever get back with her?" That doesn't make sense.

Anonymous · Answer

I mean, it depends what it is. Make sure the bear doesn't smell like your ex (AHEM...perfume, I mean).

If you're thinking about getting back with your ex, you haven't moved on, so the question needs to be redirected.

You can always give them to a children's shelter or something...

Courtsrad09 · Answer

that is suchhhh a bad idea to give your new girl domething your ex gave you. new bear for sureee

aliciaxx · Answer

DO NOT RE-GIFT! That's a horrible idea. Don't keep them 'just in case' either, that means you aren't over your ex, and need to work on that. Fast.

carinabina820 · Answer

No. Throw the old one out, get a new one. There are no "just in cases" and it's not like diamonds it's a stuffed animal...

SeaGlass · Answer

hahaha don't regift it!  bad idea.  imagine how pissed your new girl would be if she found out you just passed on some stuff from your old girlfriend onto her.

coolat16 · Answer

Buy a new one..Neither of the girls will b happy if you give her one of those 2 teddy bears..!

Jordikinz · Answer

I'd be mad if I found out you gave me something that an ex gave to you. Buy a new one.

AllDay · Answer

don't re-gift don't buy her a gift  make her a gift  it makes it all the more special!

sweet_18 · Answer

I don't think it'd be a good idea cause what if somehow she found out that your ex had given it to you

Anonymous · Answer

Buy a new bear. If she ever for some reason found out that had been something an ex gave you you'd never live it down.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes its bad! I'd be super upset if I found out, so if you plan on the relationship going somewhere or lasting, don't do it. Buy a new bear. I'm sure there's plenty of cute stuff online.

Yeahhbro · Answer

hahahahahaha worst idea ever

Anonymous · Answer

That is a bad idea because of possible memories attached. It's better to not get a gift at all then regift.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds to me like you one of those broke mofo's

Anonymous · Answer

New bear.

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