Is it right for your boyfriend to slam the door in your face?

[Anonymous]

Basically we woke up in a bad mood and he throws little digs at me, sometimes I let them slide and sometimes I make a point that it gets to me! He always says he's joking, but I believe behind every lie there's a bit of truth. Anyways after him being weird with me this morning, he was like see ya later and walked out of his room not even saying goodbye to me before he went to work, so I went downstairs got my bike from the back garden and was about to leave he was like what's up with you? I said you're being horrible, he was like whaat? Everything you say to me.. (Not all that much compared to him) I was like whaat? are you serious, he then copies my whaaat obviously to take the piss and slams the door in my face and walks off. Leaving me in his back garden .. is that acceptable

[toulouse]

You left out all details that could contribute to forming an actual picture. I can only deduce

you must be ashamed of how he treats you.,

from the few details you gave, he sounds like a complete idiot. with absolutely no respect for either of you.

i see no reason to stay with someone who tries to get in your way of making a living and has nothing supportive to say and can not find it within himself to be kind.

what purpose is a relationship if all it offers is bile.

you can do much better on your own without someone getting in your face just for the sake of it.

idk how you act with him. I don't know if youve really pissed him off. I don't know if he has a reason to be pissed off.

but I so know what he's done is worthy of an immediate termination of the relationship.

hes never attempted to respectfully discuss anything with you.

and is trying to push it over like its all ok.

nope hell keep doing this until you stop it. the responsibility falls on our shoulders to stop it. he's proven himself incompetent.

[HandsomeRaj]

Honestly, no! NOT ACCEPTABLE

Everyone must treat the other with some respect which is evidently not the case here.

That 'joking' is trying to cover up part. People who don't know how to deal with or be strong with their views brashly say such things.

Such people are generally people who restrict themselves from saying or doing things owing to various factors like keeping a clean name, dependency etc.

My 'best friend' does that to his wife all the time and I've never missed an opportunity to point it out to him :D This chap is a guy who likes people to think he is a great guy and people do! He is not a very confident person and gets whacked in many places professionally and he takes it lying down - I know I've been his boss's boss once upon a time. I realized that this chap takes it all out on people who depend on him especially the wife in various ways.

This guy's situation may be different, he may just need to be sensitized by talking openly about this habit on his face.

[Asker]

Well yeah that's true, I always said behind every joke there is a bit of truth! Only last week we had a disagreement and honestly it was over something silly but I was laughing and I don't know why but he went so strange and kept telling me to get out of his house and finally I had to leave, I thought it was a joke, but it wasn't he didn't stop me and then said it was over so I went back to collect my stuff and he was like "I'm only joking, it was a joke" That isn't funny..

[HandsomeRaj]

This happens between many couples and is a common factor. One jokes without meaning to hurt but the other person's ego is hurt who in turn says something in that bit of moment that the first person now is hurt and takes seriously to which the other person now says it was a joke - just a way of getting back.

Such things are normally sorted out if both of you are willing not only to sit and talk to each other about these but also be honest and open

[Jager66]

if you want a grown up real relationship this sort of stuff is part of it from time to time, its how you guys deal with and work at your issues in the long run that's going to matter. Sounds like you could start by learning how to properly communicate with each other.

[Tripz]

he is an ass hole

find a boyfriend that will care for you and show you love, not show you hate

[prophecy]

i doubt he's behaving this way for no reason.

tell us what you've done. don't lie.

[Moloch]

that's what I'm saying, there has to be something.

[Asker]

Okay want to know what I'm doing, I'm there being fine we get on, he then takes the piss out of things I do.. Like last night I couldn't hear what he said so I ask him about 3 times to repeat himself saying pardon (he mumbles) He then goes I've told you 5 times now what to put on the telly! The tone of voice he used was just ridiculous, no need for it when I was being polite, he takes the piss because I am looking for a job and belittles me saying I don't know what its like to work. When I've ha

[Asker]

Had plenty of jobs before, honestly he even said he's not like this with most of his girlfriends just me! Ahhh I know exactly what he's like it all built up and I got upset and then he said I shouldn't cry over something so little, well when your boyfriend is supposed to be caring and understanding. You can't say half the sh*t he does and just take it cause I did. I know he feels bad he's just text me now pretending we're okay like 'Moody :)'

[toulouse]

There is NO reason for a person to be an a**hole, just because they are upset. if something was bothering him, nothing is preventing him from discussing it rationally--unless of course he's irrational.

sounds like ihes extremely irrational. to be angry because he has a girlfriend, and is required to not act retarded.

QA if you're 'taking' sh*t hell keep dishing it out.

in any case he's belittling you for looking for work. why are you WITH him. there's no respect here.

[prophecy]

well, let's get straight here - you both are at fault;

- you're a little drama queen (maybe not in this particular case but in general and that is exhausting and irritating)

- he's an immature prick

and this is the perfect recipe for this amazing relationship.

so my advice: cut him loose, and stop being so irritating.

[Moloch]

I feel like I'm getting half the story here. Very rarely do men just do things for no reason, women are most often at fault for instigating.

[Asker]

Seriously we bicker like most couples, but he always throws digs about and I'm not being dramatic even my friends agree and usually they think I'm just being a drama queen. But it is not right surely whether or not we did argue to shut the door in someones face. I agree I may have given it back but I'm not having him make me feel like sh*t.

[toulouse]

She said he teases her for no reason. people who do that do it with absolutely no provocation.

Additionally. an adult discusses a probe. they don't go pulling hair figuratively speaking.

Would you tease your girlfriend, if you were upset? Rather than having a rational discusion?

If so you should remain single until you mature.

A what did he actually SAY. in the morning what do you mean by 'digs'.

[Moloch]

I personally wouldn't do that. I was mostly talking about the door in her face, not the teasing part.

[martyfellow]

Ah well, a lovers' quarrel, nothing to make a bgi issue about since you were already at each other over..something? What was the 'something?'

[Anonymous]

Depends on how much of a **** you were being. I'm sure you'll never accept any accountability for acting a certain way like most girls. All perfect little angels.

[toulouse]

A person who chronically refuses to have a rational discussion, is acting completely irrationally of their own volition. this is entirely different, than REACTING to someone else being an a**hole.

why is it so important to I to blame the situation on genitals? if you defending idiocy by virtue of the sex (that sex being eternally superior regardless in your opinion), how can anyone take you seriously?

[Opinion Owner]

I genuinely hope you don't take me seriously. If you do, my opinions have been warped and are now sh*tty.

[Anonymous]

Do not put up with that

[enimsajcitystars]

NO!