My Views On Being Different

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Dude, I LOVE being different.

I mean, I had BRIGHT red hair for a while, now my hair is Sapphire Black (so it shines blue in bright light) and everyone @ my school have regular hair colors (except maybe for like 3 people).

In my entire school, everyone's either very country-ish or preppy as fuck! Then there's the occasional metal head like me. I get glared @ whenever I wear certain band t-shirts but I don't care! The other day I dressed up in cat ears, w/ cat make up and a tail (as in my profile pic shows) and I got so many judgmental looks, it was amazing! I stared @ them until they gave up and looked away.

I live in an old farm house that's plain blue, and our house is the only one on a farm when we live on the edge of a complex FULL of super fancy houses.

I'll go to school one day dressed up to the 9's with my make up great and heels and everything, just because I want to.

Not many people would have the balls to for no reason or to do the cat thing.

I just don't care, because it makes me different.

There's so much good+bad being said about being different. Just like the saying "stuck out like a sore thumb", I don't see how that's bad. If I stick out in a crowd then great, there's the opportunity for me to make friends with people as weird as me! It also allows me to see who's judgmental and who to stay away from.

So I'm gonna rock my random days of dress up, I'm gonna go to the store with fairy wings+a wand IDGAF. It's FUN and I LOVE it.

So if anyone gives you SHIT for doing something you enjoy (as long as it doesn't hurt yourself/others) then hit them with a brick!

Don't really do that, but don't let them talk shit for you being you.

Honey, you're fabulous. You do you!

"We're all just humans telling humans to stop being human."

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Yeah good take - I was very lucky in life - Where I went to school (I am not sure of American school system but my last school was from12 to 18), it had just being built so I was in senior year all the way through and I don't think the normal crap associated with High schools happened in my school, I have since heard it has now but at the time I didn't notice but the vast majority seemed to be let do their own thing socially whether it is different or mainstream plus another big thing about 99% of Irish schools are uniform so that seemed to take the sting out of clothes differentiation.
That seemed to mean by the time I got to college and work I so used to doing my own thing I didn't know any different. At my age now I am a bit outside youth culture but as far as I can see from what I read on net I think Ireland is a lot more easy going on being different than the US as far as I can see,

[BambooforPanda]

I feel like everyone actually is different, but not many want to break out of their shell.

[YourFutureEx]

There's a difference between being different in positive was and in negative way. You have different hair, that makes you "unique". You like becoming a cat, that makes you "abnormal".

Being unique is good, being abnormal isn't.

I'm not telling you to don't do such things because it's very hard to find happiness these days and if this makes you happy, do it. But when you'll grow up, you'll feel that pressure from the society and hell lot of responsibilities.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

I think being abnormal then, is fun.

[YourFutureEx]

I missed so much fun, then.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Clearly :P

[redeyemindtricks]

"You have different hair, that makes you "unique". You like becoming a cat, that makes you "abnormal"."

^^ nope.
wrong.

I don't mean to make an example of you, but, this is pretty much the most wrongest thing I've seen on here in some time.

Basically, here's how it works:
• If you are awesome, and enough people are convinced of yr awesomeness, then ANYTHING along these lines is "unique".
• If not, then, NOTHING is, and it's ALL "weird" / "abnormal".

I mean, like, Rihanna is pretty cool right now. If RiRi decided to become a cat -- dude, becoming a cat would be the new big thing. They'd start having Cat Fridays at all the clubs, srsly.

Same thing for boys, too.
For instance, you probably think of Magic The Gathering as something that only weird / unpopular kids do. Well, NFL star Adrian Peterson plays it:
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Suddenly became cool, didn't it.

[YourFutureEx]

@redeyemindtricks first to all, COOL PEOPLE PLAY MAGIC TG!!! Understand?
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Okay, so... yeah, you're right. But there's a difference between them and us. They ARE unique and we are just one among other billion people. So, whatever they do, will be appreciated or at least hit the breaking news. Like just see those ugly dresses they wear at award ceremonies. They 'should' do such weird things to stay popular (or infamous but still) it's what feed them. But for us, we have to follow the obvious things (in better way as possible) otherwise society will ignore or even ostracize you (unless of course, you are one of those potential unique trendsetter).

[redeyemindtricks]

Nope. Wrong again.

You give way too many fucks about what random strangers think. "Don't give free fucks", as my 13-year-old likes to say.

"Society" will only ostracize you IF **YOU** walk around giving off a sense of discomfort with your own self -- in other words, if YOU are already ostracizing YOURSELF.

If not -- if you "rock it", whatever the "it" happens to be -- then, you will find that there are pretty much 0 haters in the world, at least once high school is over.
Zero haters.

I mean, dude, my daughter just turned 8 and doesn't much understand all this sex-difference crap yet. One day, she decided to wear glitter lips like mom (that's me), and she thought dad should try that, too.
So of course he did. (Remember, this is a former delinquent from the streets of Miami, and he still very much looks the part.) And he walked around like that all day, and gave no fucks, and... well, let's just say there were no haters. <3

Really, the only difference is whether you

[redeyemindtricks]

are comfortable in yr own skin. You CANNOT fake that... and THAT is the kind of "confidence" that women are always saying we want (not some overblown cockiness).

Really, you can't fake it. You either walk around like you own the world, or you walk around like the world owns you.
Your choice.
But, whichever way you choose, it will be absolutely evident to EVERYONE.

[YourFutureEx]

@redeyemindtricks oh god. Not this 'idgaf' debate again 😖

Listen, there's a fine line between "I don't give a fuck" & "being insane". I mean, come on, I cannot wear short skirts and chill on streets.

Personally, you don't know me and can't judge me based on my posts here. In real life, I just don't care what my family and friends think about my style (strangers are out of the question). I take risks and my family and friends don't like my clothing choice and my hairstyle. My teachers used to criticise me for my hairstyle too. But yeah, I didn't give a fuck and she (my English teacher) used to sit with me in the classroom 💘 (good old days ;_;)
But that was reasonable. It had limits. Beyond that, is a universe of insanity.

[YourFutureEx]

Here on G@G, I (usually) post what's 'morally' good. Take this example, I (perhaps, used to) sleep around too much, but would I teach my son that? No.
Same goes here. I don't think I should support her to be a cat, but I told her if that makes her happy, do it

[redeyemindtricks]

Oh, so, now people who don't sleep around are more "moral"? Well, fuck you too, then.

And, way to be ashamed of yr own (supposed) sexual past at the same time. By implying that it isn't "moral".
Really, dude?
What do you actually LIKE about yourself?

And, finally, you can't really "teach" yr son whether to fuck around or not. If he's wired that way, he's wired that way.
My father raised all of us the same way, and I have one brother who's only been with one or two girls besides his wife, one brother who's probably been with a thousand women (not exaggerated), and two brothers in between there.

[YourFutureEx]

@redeyemindtricks that was just an example. And yes, promiscuity is STILL considered an obscene act. Just ask any religion. (Religious people are in majority). So, it's not bad to conclude that.

I won't treat any of my child different from another. I was making a hypothetical situation where a kid asks his father if he should fuck that group of 10 girls or try to get committed with that one girl. And the answer is mandatory because otherwise, the whole purpose would be dead.

By doing immoral things, it doesn't mean that you don't like yourself. In fact, you initiated those acts because you actually love you and care about your feelings. So, try to feel better about yourself ;)

And finally, I won't intervene in his life (just like my dad didn't). He told me a very good thing. "Either don't do bad things or don't get caught". I'll teach the same.

[redeyemindtricks]

"And the answer is mandatory because otherwise, the whole purpose would be dead."
I have no idea what this ^^ is supposed to mean, but, I would sure as hell hope that you would NOT advise ANYONE to head into a committed relationship if she/he is not fully ready for a commitment.

If yr kid wasn't ready for a commitment, the only morally responsible answer to that question would be "Fuck around until yr ready for a commitment." Because otherwise she/he is just gna break someone's heart.

Why are you talking about random religious majorities? You make no sense, boy. Maybe someday you'll actually have yr OWN sense of what is "moral" and what isn't.

[YourFutureEx]

@redeyemindtricks "the answer is mandatory" means... you could say things like "then don't answer/ tell him to do whatever" which would spoil the significance of an example.

Excuse me? Who's forcing him for commitment? I mean seriously... are you that unsophisticated to interpret with the things like that? I've been here for 1.5 years and I never found anyone who comprehends the things that awkwardly.

He/she's likely to break someone's heart by sleeping around rather by doing the another option.

What's wrong about talking about religious stuff? They focus on "moral" matters more than anything. So, yup. Here's that. Deal with it 😎

[redeyemindtricks]

I note with the greatest amusement that you are so proud of yr "different" hair, and yr "different" clothes... but then, when it comes to REAL things -- like moral and ethical decisions -- you apparently just listen to whichever religious group is shouting the loudest where you live.

You rebel, you.

[YourFutureEx]

@redeyemindtricks nope. Religion says, don't lie. I do.
Religion says, don't sleep around, I do.
Religion says, don't eat animals, I do.
There are so many things I don't do what my religion says and I do a lot of good things what my religion says. So, here again. Nope! Wrong again. Unperceptive.

PS: don't say "the whole thing you put is a lie considering your first line 'Religion says, don't lie. I do'" because you have a good habit of firing my own words back to me lol.

Yes, I'm a rebel ;)

[redeyemindtricks]

Then what exactly is the basis of the "morally good" crap you were spitting just a few posts ago?

Why are you telling me "Just ask any religion", then?

You are literally contradicting yourself almost every other post. It's like you are actually 3 different people, fighting over this stuff.

[YourFutureEx]

@redeyemindtricks didn't I clarify why I don't recommend the things to other people what I actually do in my life?

It's not a fight. If it feels like that, then sorry. I don't have any time for this. Please leave ASAP. I'm a busy person. I like to "debate" with you because you give a good challenge. It's good to have criticism in life. And you're not like other sad souls of G@G who block people in the middle of nowhere just because of disagreement.

I'm not contradicting. First, you're are making false opinions about my life and then ignoring some things I write and then taking one line of one reply and adjoining it with the another line of another reply.

3 people? Maybe I'm just too permissive and enlightened to fit inside just one body? Well, depends upon your perception.

[redeyemindtricks]

"didn't I clarify why I don't recommend the things to other people what I actually do in my life?"
... No.

There's no fight here, I'm just confused, because you don't seem to really stand for... well, anything.
I mean, look at this comment thread.

First, you basically erased yr own value, by saying that you aren't one of "them" who can get away with flouting the norms (like celebrities can -- as though there were somethnig organically different about celebrities, lol).
Basically, right there, you admitted that you just don't own the situation, as much as some other people do. Instead, you let the situation own YOU (hence "I'd be ostracized", etc).

Then, you scoff at "this IDGAF thing", even though "this IDGAF thing" is THE ENTIRE ESSENCE of what is being talked about here.
If you have that, you can pull off the whole "different" thing. If you don't, you can't. Yet you are blowing that off as though it's unimportant. Why are you blowing it off? I can't

[redeyemindtricks]

tell, but, it seems you're blowing that off because you have no real response to it.

Then, out of nowhere, you suddenly started bringing up the issue of "morality", even though morality had NOTHING AT ALL to do with ANYTHING under discussion, up to that point. It was completely irrelevant to anything.
I mean, I'm still trying to figure out what the connection was there. Not getting it.

Look, you are an interesting person... you really are. But, you have this way of making arguments that totally aren't arguments at all. Like, once you get annoyed or whatever... literally everything you post is a non-sequitur, and you try to distract the conversation with crap that has nothing to do with it. That might work with some people, but... nahhh. Sometime you should try actually staying on topic. LOL

[YourFutureEx]

@redeyemindtricks celebs are different. Admit that. World gives fucks about her (Rihanna), but not about you, no matter what you are or think you are. You are not that important as much as she is. If you want to be like her, do the struggle (or other weird shortcuts you'd think about).

I didn't erase my value. Just because I don't want to be a cat and pretend that I'm cool, it doesn't deride my values. Everyone has one's own guilty pleasures.
And you are judging my life that how much fucks I give about strangers and then concluding that I feel like 3 persons in one is an futile attempt to make a point. We are strangers, you don't know what I do nor do I, about you.

[YourFutureEx]

Look at yourself. What are you doing? What are your ambitions. The topic was "I think only celebs can do that while you think regular peeps can do that too" & see what it's turned into, unnecessarily.

So going to the main topic. You say normal people can do these things without criticism? Sure. I call them "insane".

[ThisDudeHere]

Not to ruin the fun but I will say again that no one is special. Not you, not me, not anyone.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

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[ThisDudeHere]

I'm probably gonna get blocked at some point but oh well, your takes appear on my feed and I like to comment on them. But I still none the less give honest opinions which tend to be blunt. So it's a matter of time now.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Nah I understand and I'm not gonna block you hun.
You're a dick with how you word things sometimes but you're honest and you usually provide something to back up your opinion with. So i dont mind much

[ThisDudeHere]

I'm gonna quote that lol

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

I did say I dont mind much.
I'm not gonna block you anytime soon unless ALL you do is be a dick to me or start creeping on me and I think the first one is the more likely one

[ThisDudeHere]

I have no reason to be a dick. If my posts come off as offensive then that's because they're blunt and objective.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Being blunt is ok but not all the time, then it gets too much (especially for someone like me, I'm sensitive and sometimes enough is too much)

[ThisDudeHere]

"but not all the time"
-Sorry but either all the time or never. If I start making exceptions then sooner or later I will find myself walking on egg shells.
And I don't intend to do that. If I have something to say, I feel mentally obligated to say it.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

I understand, I wasn't telling you to change your ways or anything.

[joeb73]

i wish i had your self confidence

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

I fake my self confidence hun

[orphan]

handle it.