Well, hello everyone.
It's me again.
Bullying, it's a really sensitive issues for many.
Most of us at some point of our lives have dealt with it, experienced it wither they've seen someone going through it. Either way, everyone at some point in one way or another they've seen bullying happening.
Of course every case is different, that's why there isn't a specific manual on how to solve your problems. This MyTake is general, and that's the whole point of it.
(If you want personal help, then you can message me and maybe I can give you a more specific advice)
This Is How To REALLY Deal With Bullying.
1.Tell Someone.
No, this isn't the classic advice 'Talk to your parents or teachers so they can help you.'
In my opinion and from my personal experience teachers and parents do not understand neither know how they should act in these cases, and of course it's not their fault for it. You have to realize that the only one that can really help you the way you want is yourself and yourself only.
That however does not mean that you should or have to keep the problems to yourself.
Someone should know what you are going through, you'll feel instantly psychologically 'lighter' confessing your problems and plus if you choose the right person you'll have someone that will support your decisions, if that is skipping school or doing something that is not exactly 'right'.
2. Fight Back.
*I don't mean physically.*
When you just accept what these people say and just look down, you show weakness and that's exactly what they want. Don't just sit there and let these people lower you, fight back with every cost, show confidence. Even if you don't always feel it, try your best to do it. Though if you do that I have to warn you that it doesn't mean that they will stop instantly, quite the opposite actually. At first they will 'attack' you and discriminate you even more to try to get the desired reaction from you. But you must stay strong and not break.
Only then they will understand that you are not someone that will give them the satisfaction of letting them get into you. And because their inner problems can't wait, they'll move on to the next victim.
3. Become Stronger Emotionally.
Don't let this affect every aspect of your life. Do things you like and give you the chance to reward yourself it will help you become stronger. When you do things you like and you are good at it it instantly makes you feel better and the most important is that it makes you see the 'light in the tunnel',when your life isn't only about your bullying you'll see that this dark part of your life it will start becoming everyday less of a less of a priority. Without understanding it, naturally, you'll start caring less about these people that are trying to make your life hell. You'll become emotionally stronger.
4. Understand And Accept Who You Are.
One huge characteristic of bullying is that bullies find your flaws, insecurities and in general things you are sensitive about and they point it out in an offensive way. The best thing to do is discover yourself and accept all the flaws and sensitivities you may have, it's a part of you after all. It's hard, I know, everyone that been through it does. But if you accept and embrace even the worst thing about yourself, no one can unman you without your permission and you give the power to yourself to determine who you are.
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