I have decided to write on this subject after learning its importance in a moment of pain.
Sometimes it takes us to lose the certainty of life to find a reason to live. I hope these words could touch at least one person among so many people that can't even remember how to live anymore - they just exist without realizing it.
Since we were kids, we were raised to please someone. As children, we tried to shape ourselves to please our parents, relatives and teachers. When we are teenagers, we adjust ourselves to make friends and get the attention of someone we have a crush. Finally, we grow up and give in to the pressure of society, which often dictates rules of behaviour and leads us to make choices - not always the right ones. With all this pressure to be accepted, we end up forgetting our desires and dreams.
Maybe at some age, you've wondered:
What's the point of all this?
Why are you here? What is life really about?"
Do we just get paychecks and pay bills? What's the point of studying 15 years of our lives, working nonstop and tell the next generation to do it all over again if we don't even know why we are doing this?
I believe we don't need to be in a life we don't like; in a job that makes us miserable. And yes, I also know it's hard to have things figured out and life is not always easy to choose between our passion and our needs. However I can tell for sure, we all have unique talents that can make a difference in this world.
I learned that - even if it sounds ridiculous - knowing our purpose in life and following the right path makes us fulfilled in a way that life starts to be meaningful and worth living.
- What do you love to do?
- What's easier for you?
Of course you need to work hard to develop your talents - even the mist talented musician still needs practice - but it should be natural. It comes easy for you.
For example, I love Psychology, to help people with my words and share experiences. My passions are Translation, Writing and Arts - which made me a volunteer to work with subtitles. Although I invested many years learning to master these abilities, I loved every minute of it. In other words, work is necessary - but suffering is not!
My pain came in the form of a terminal disease to slap me in the face so I could wake up. It was too late by the time I realized I had no life to lose, I did not do anything to make a difference for me or the ones I loved and the ones who could need help. I never wasted time to cry for a lost lover; I never had time to do charity the right way - only giving money and never offering my time and my heart - and I wasn't going to be able to read the end of my books or do the list of things I procrastinated for 4 years. Now, it would be a bucket list.
I had cancer. But that wasn't what was killing me. It was my life.
I didn't realize it, but I started to be happier, not so depressed. Weird, right? But instead of using my head as usual, I started to use my heart. I accomplished things I've always wanted and I had the vacation I've always dreamed - and my old life made me forget. I let myself be inspired and took steps that made me feel complete for the first time.
Much more than this, I started coming out of my comfort zone which made something shine inside me, leading me the way I needed to go. So, I stopped thinking about myself for a change and helped others - a journey that gave me way more than I did to them. Every single person I met taught me something valuable, making me want to be free of regrets and let the past go - like a balloon flying in the sky after we set it free.
Finding ourselves is not an easy or fast task. I had to live with passion, to have motivation and to think positive things when everything was lost. It was a journey that made me forget I wouldn't see a new year again.
We all have days that we feel a failure, overwhelmed and want to give up. However, nothing that's worthy and good in life can be easy. My experience wasn't only to find my purpose as a bucket list - I actually learned to live all over again in such a way that life itself came back to me.
Against all odds and with no concrete explanations, the disease was gone - leaving in its place a different person. Someone who prays every single day to say thanks for the gift of being sick. The chance of having defeated death by simply facing life.
Don't give up and start your journey to find a better life. One step at a time.
Do what you love, act the way you feel it and always see your life like a kid on Christmas day. Life will change and you will finally be the person you were born to be.
Thanks for reading.