What really grinds my gears

[LuWe22]

The belief that men have to pay for everything

Ladies please. You are not a baby and should have at least some money in your bank account. Don´t you have a job? Something to buy stuff with? Are you this cheap? We are in 2019 and a girl should have money and a job too.

The belief that a women always wants kids and will change her mind later in life

Not everyone is fitted to be a mum or want to go throught pregnancy and labor. It is time that we accept it and move on.

The belief that men can´t get raped or assaulted by a women

A errect penis does not mean consent people. Guys can get taken advantages on like girls too. And yes a men can get assaulted and hit by a women too. It does not mean that he is weak or less of a men. We should stop to think that way and actually listen to men.

Thank you for reading

[Anonymous]

Wow, I hear first girl saying those words...

In my opinion it is from old days when women stayed at home and never worked.

Now western culture changed and women most of times work.

I'm not saying at time when she is pregnant with my baby, it is different situation and I would act totally different.

Rape, you right there, these days there is a lot of weak men and very strong women, if we only took one aspect in to account.

[LuWe22]

Your missed the point. It is not about strengh. You could be the strongest man in the world still you could freeze up and did not know what to do if someone rapes you. It's a quite common thing if you are raped. You may be drugged, you may be confused, you may be drunk and out of your mind. Most relationship start sweet and innocent. If you argue or you did something wrong and she lightly slaps your arm. It does not hurt or did any damage. Your brush it off and then it happens again again and again. Your love her and did not mind or simple don't put much thoughts into it. It is still abuse.

[Malik00]

If nothing else it's humiliating because you know the second you try to hit back she'll call the cops on you.

[Opinion Owner]

You right about all that, except I wrote that, if I would only think about strength it would be that.

I wrote nowhere that there is not other aspects to consideration.

That one is just most common, in my opinion.

[dragoblack]

I agree on all points, but from a similar question asked yesterday, most women wouldn't bother with a second date if a guy asked to split the bill. I personally think that a woman asking to split the bill on a first date shows she is financially stable along with being financially confident, But in this society If a guy asks, it shows the opposite of him

[LuWe22]

Do you really wanna be with a Girl that has no respect and manners to split the bill?

[dragoblack]

For guys we have to deal with what we deal with, we dont have much choice when it comes to dating. We dont have the luxury to search for the perfect woman. If we did we would always be alone

[Lauren-green]

This girl once told me she uses guys for money and food. Said she was going on tinder to find a guy to take her out so he would buy her food so she could have something to eat. I was shook.

I mean, the stereotype of guys paying for dates is from back in the olden days when women couldn't get jobs and had none of their own money. Women earn their own money now bad can afford to pay for their own food.

Great MyTake

[Lauren-green]

Thanks for mho

[kay02]

Great points. For any women that read this , as someone who has gone on quite a few dates in the last two years and always intended to pay , I can safely say the girls that reached for their wallets straight away after a date or on some occasions even offered to pay for the both of us always came across as highly respectable , independant and genreally more attractive and I am still close to those specific girls till this day and i am planning on making things official with the most recent.

As for girls that came with the presumption that everything was going to be paid for , even though I still paid they generally took this for granted and things would die out very quickly.

Speaking with a couple of my female friends, there does seem to be this idea if a guy asks you out on a date he should pay since he's essentially "taking up" your time. However I think this way of thinking perfectly sums up why I never got on with those kind of girls in the long run, since a date really should be a mutual thing where you are both enjoying each others time. so both parties should generally be fine with 50/50 or not care either way. I don't personally understand why some females would go on dates with the idea a guy is taking up thier time and not really like the guys in the first place... essentially going for the idea of free food.

[CapitalDelta]

YOU... I like you. How have you got it all figured out already. I'm usually ready and expecting to pay for a meal too since "eat food and pay for it" has been engraved into my brain since forever, so seeing both people so willing to spend a few extra euros is pretty great and generally heartwarming.

I hope you and that girl make things official, she definitely should pass it up

[CapitalDelta]

Thank fuck someone else has said these things.

I enjoy working, and I feel a sense of pride when I'm able to pay for things myself now that I make decent money. Some of my closer male friends trade responsibility for who buys lunch this week, but guys on dates or men trying to buy my attention get too offended if I even offer paying for it myself.

I agree with you second point too. Children are not for me, and neither is marriage. Having a little gross mini me grow in my insides and then shoot boogers around my house for 18 years is not my cup of tea. I watched my parents raise me and my brother, I now know the horror.

I don't even know what to say about the last point. The fact people think men can't get raped is somehow true is disgusting. Humans, no matter the gender, are equally capable of unreasonably shitty things and some act on those impulses. Some people are scum, not just men and not just women.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

I like to do it as a gesture of manners, which is as much for me being a gentleman, as it i for her. But I won't do it if she ungratefully expects me to every time.

[LuWe22]

I always split the bill because I earn good money and don't wanna give the impression that I take advantage of him. Guess that is my idea of good manners.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I agree on all your points.
Those things are products of a shallow and fundamentally sexist society that covers itself with a patin of "wokeness".
Yet it encourages hate, prejudice and discrimination.
Excellent myTake.

[Anonymous]

A-fucking-men. You are spot on.

To expand on that theme, what grinds my gears is how so many women today are all about equality... except when it doesn't benefit them.

And the victim mindset that is sooooo common among women today. Look, you're either a grown up who can fend for yourself like an adult, or you're somehow inferior. Which is it?

[Passinggas]

All of this bs has become so convoluted; no wonder the hangout culture has emerged. Life, people, and dates are too dynamic to apply a set of rigid rules to every couple. Simply proceed and see where it goes. One can usually determine the best approach during the date by the conversations.

[MackToday]

Bear in mind that men and women evolved to fulfill the roles that they do for a reason. It's a well adapted survival strategy. Nature doesn't care if it's 2019 or not.

[LuWe22]

Maybe we realize now that we are more than nature

[MackToday]

No, we are nature and it is us, there can not be any more. If you ignore it's rules you will die out, that's what happens.

[LuWe22]

Yep. I don't want kids so I die out

[MackToday]

Exactly and your idology will die out with you. Even now leftists are being replaced by much faster breeding right wing groups like the Amish and Mormons. This is happening across the west.

[LuWe22]

Yup. I'm dead so I don't care. They can debatte with religion is better or battle it out. Like they always wanted to. Which obscure view of the world is better. At least they are more ego friendly maybe they can save our dying world.

[theCAP]

If a man pays for the first date and there isn't a second then what? He keeps dating and every first date he pays. That adds up. Men are not rich. Women were rocking with Destiny's Child Independent Women. Keep on rocking with it.

[Rando-Man]

True, y'all are self sufficient now. I will say that one of my 'love languages' (different ways i express affection) is gifts. Sooo i really like buying things and meals for my lady. I make sure to let her pay when she wants to, but i do enjoy paying for her. (We tease each othet often about who's buying the food.)

[cheekylad]

Well done you two go far

[normalice]

This seems like it was written by a mgtow/incel but posted with a pink account for some reason.

Anyway, it's only conservative women who act like this. And conservative men are usually happy to be providers for conservative women.

[desperatelyhungry]

I'm a conservative woman but I'm somewhat old fashioned so I believe the first three dates or so the man should pay, but that's just because I still (want to) believe in chivalry. After that though, and when things get serious I think it should be 50/50.

[cheekylad]

That's sounds fair

[zaffy69]

My boyfriend insists on paying for every date but I insist that we make it equal in which he doesn't like but ehh we make it work

[spacePirate]

I think women are big lumbering baboons that have to be stopped

[spacePirate]

Love that someone took that seriously

[derek2017]

wow! I never agreed more with a Mytake! Thank you for sharing!!

[Anonymous]

Look yeah men don’t have to pay for everything I think that’s whack but come on at least the first date 🤷‍♀️

[LuWe22]

What about splitting the bill. Show some manners

[backdoorman]

Men should at least pay for the first date? Why is that? Why is it the man's responsibility to pay for the first date rather than splitting the bill? Aren't you both there to enjoy each other's company and get to know each other? Saying he should pay suggests some form of entitlement or that he is paying for your company, which sounds suspiciously like something else.

[barrelpack]

I do t think it's necessary or a Hippocratic oath for guys to pay for the bill every time I feel it's so, let disrespectful for a guy to assume the female in the relationship doesn't want to contribute

[cheekylad]

This is ture not saying u should pay for everything some women would take advantage of a lot of men me I've always paid for drinks food then aging most of the women I been with have brought me to

[FýrdracaDócincel]

If this is all that really grinds your gears, you need to get out more.

[A-man-22]

Yes I agree with all of these.
I couldn't have said it better.

[Roam956]

We do bro then why you asking her out for one then wtf

[LuWe22]

To spend time together. Do you really wanna buy her time and affection? 🤔

[Davodinkum1987]

It would be great if there ☆mystery$ and it was always paying