To whoever was bullied, watch this!

[YHL6965]

Remember these things, you matter, there will always be people to love you, you will always be good at something, you deserve happiness, your pain will ease, things will get better, when people bully you, the problem is not you, it's inside of their head. You have the power inside of yourself to change things, I believe in you. If you need help or you need to talk, feel free to message me, I will do my best to help you because I am one of you, I got through this too.

[Starchic]

I was bullied so much in school.. I was the weird little four eyes freak in the back of the class... the kid who talked to much... who didn't where the right clothes... who wasn't cool enough to hang out with... no friends... and when someone did want to be my friend I'd get so excited that I'd unintentionally push the other person away... if I did make a friend it didn't take long for them to turn on me like hungry wolves... my so called friends would become my new bulies... I'd get called names, get pushed around and even threatened... I came to the dumb conclusion that if I just kept to myself, kept quiet and did whatever I was told... whatever they said then maybe they'd leave me alone and everything would be ok... I learned to smile and laugh on the outside make my self look happy and alive... while all I wanted to do was break down and cry... I was broken and dead on the inside... I had "friends" who would push me around because they knew I'd take it... because whenever I actually tried to stand up for myself I would get in trouble... I'd be the one to be punished... it's kinda funny... they reprimand bullying but every time I ever tried to stand up for myself or do anything to get my bullies to leave me be I was the one who got in trouble... not my bullies... maybe that's why I'm so shy and timid... because from a young age I was taught that it's not ok to be a bully but if I ever tried to stop others from bullying me then I'd get in trouble for it... I'm a people pleaser I always want others to be happy... I'll even sacrifice my own happiness for another person... even a complete stranger... I guess that's from years of doing what my bullies said in the hope that they'd leave me alone... it wasn't all bad my parents eventually started home schooling me to help me... I wish they hadn't... once I hit middle school yeah the bullying got worse... but I started to grow a back bone... yeah I'd get in trouble for standing up to my bullies and making my voice heard... but I was also making it known that I wasn't going to be a human doormat anymore... but they put me in home school... didn't help me grow a backbone... didn't help me become more assertive... I just went deeper into my shell of timid shyness... and it didn't stop the bullying... I was bullied by my brother... he'd bully me into lying for him... covering for him... he'd bully me into letting him barrow my stuff... and he's never give my things back... he'd use lines like "oh well if you really care about me you'll do this for me", " if you tell mom and dad I did this I'll get in trouble and you wouldn't want that", "come on just lie to them for me please, isn't that what siblings are for"... my parents had no idea... they pulled me out of public school to protect me from my bullies... but at least those bullies I only had to deal with at school... I had to deal with my brother all the time... they didn't find out until years later... and by that time my brother had moved out... he also wasn't the person he used to be... and they only found out because I told them... they never guessed themselves... I've always been good at hiding what I'm actually feeling... which is just another thing I learned from being bullied... I learned to never let them see me for what I really am or how they make me feel... that only gives them satisfaction in knowing they hurt me... I learned to hide and bottle up everything... otherwise I'm seen as weak and an easy target... unhealthy I know... has lead to many bouts of depression... but it's the only way I ever learned to deal with things... besides I hate being a burden to anyone I care about... it may be unhealthy... but dealing with things on my own is better then making the people around me deal with it too.

[YHL6965]

You know, I lived a very similar style, except I was not home schooled and both my parents and my sister played the roles of the bullies at home. Me too I have had these "friends" who just end up using you a easy targets. However, I did have genuine friends but it did not compensate for the rest.

All of this damaged me a lot until I reached a breaking point and therapy saved me there. Therapy made me realize the extent of the damage all of these people had done, including my parents. If you feel depressed, hopeless or constantly down in general, don't be afraid to reach for help, try therapy or you can PM me if you want advice or help. I really hope the best for you, you deserve it after what you have gone through.

[Starchic]

Thank you... I actually have a light in my life... my boyfriend... he is very loving and knows about my past experience with bullies as well as depression... he also knows that at one point I harmed myself... I never went as far as suicide tho... which I'm thankful for... I got myself out of that dark and dangerous place in my mind... and although I do get depressed sometimes still I promised myself that I'll never let things get that bad again... he's always open to listen to me when I need it and unlike my family he doesn't judge me for it... or worse make jokes about it ( my dad does that)... he is actually supportive and tries his best to understand and help me where he can... but if I need to I will talk to you, thank you :-)

[YHL6965]

That's awesome! I'm glad you are not alone in this and that you have someone to support you and help you. Just remember, it's okay to reach out for help, staying alone against these problems or bottling everything up can turn really dark really quickly.

[Starchic]

You are quite right, and thank you for the advice :-)

[YHL6965]

No problem!

[Starchic]

Thank you for the MHO... you know I've actually seen this video several times and you know what sucks... after all the years from our great grandparents generation and farther back to now... bullying is still a huge problem... all the advancements in human history and we still can't eradicate something that causes so much pain and suffering... what does that say about us as humans? supposedly the smartest and most advanced species on the planet and we still can't put an end to the torment of innocent people by the hands and words of others... really makes you think... what are we doing as a species? sure maybe some might see it as unimportant compared to other things but getting rid of bullying is just as important as a great scientific advancement or discovery... just wish the people in this world who could do something to make a bigger change in the fight against bullying would pitch in more to assist... instead it's left to the little people those who can make a change but have to put more effort and make their voices louder to do so... making this seemingly endless crusade last longer than it should.

[YHL6965]

Yes, I agree with you that it's really unfortunate. Bullying is indirectly responsible for a lot of problems : suicides, mass shooting, radicalism, unhealthy relationships... Even if all of these problems seem isolated and punctual, in the grand scheme of things, if you add them together, it really show how "not that good" our society is. Unfortunately, because fighting bullying does not bring money in, most people don't care about it and let the problem be, let the wounds get infected and then they act all surprised once that "infected wound" leads to a tragedy like a mass shooting, a wife being beaten to death, a serial killer...

[JakeReeves]

I was bullied through my whole life in high-school by 35% of my class students, i mean 35% of 65 student, because i was the top of my class and i was and still a nerd and they couldn't compete me, so they tried to destroy me from the inside. I really hated those days and wanted to kill these bullies, but i am actually a good person and i help people, so i couldn't hurt them. They punched me, kicked me, destroyed my belongings. Every time i played basketball with my friends in the recess at high-achool, they stole my basketball and use it as a football, and i tried and tried to get it back with my friends, then when i finally managed to get the ball back, it would be the time when they destroyed it and stopped playing with it. They destroyed three of my own basketballs that way.
The principal was useless, so he didn't help me to solve my problems and i couldn't solve it myself. So day after day, i got bullied and hurt, but i continued to study and do my best, because that was the only thing i could do to tease them. Finally, i finished my high-school and was the top of my class in the 10th and the 11st grades, and i got 98.125% on the 12th grade, but wasn't the best one in the class, and 89.53% in the medical acceptance exam in the college and i am now studying medecine on my 2nd year, and i have a better rank than them, because some failed in their university acceptance exam and got to a worse university, and some of them got some bad marks, so they couldn't reach what i am in the university. SO WHO'S LAUGHING NOW, BULLIES?

Sometimes, i see these bullies around in the university and greet them, as that thing that made them bully me at school stopped, so they don't hate me anymore, they now have (+2/10) on my friendship scale but they were (-100/10) back in high-school.

Just be yourself and don't care about bullies, because you are the one who will win in the end.
Study hard, and be a good person, and everybody will realise who is better.

[YHL6965]

Kudos to you my sir, you are an inspiration! Keep up the good work!

[JakeReeves]

I am just a normal person, nothing more than this, and nothing less than this.

[JakeReeves]

But thank you!

[YHL6965]

You managed to pull through this hell and keep good grades, that's a great achievement.

[JakeReeves]

Thanks for the MHO

[KillerFreddie]

I'll do you one better

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJw_RINI_IA

[englisc]

I hate this stuff. I don't think it helps at all. It's too filled with negative emotion and self-pity, and this is what encourages this softness in young people that leads to bullying affecting them in such a negative way in my opinion. This is the reason young people need to ban words and need safe spaces and all of that stuff, because they take words too seriously. This is encouraging them to allow words to hurt them. "Words hurt, life will always be a balancing act that has less to do with pain and more to do with beauty" - what the fuck does that even mean? How does that help at all?

I was a short kid, still am. I was quiet. I moved schools quite a bit, and I was never the popular kid. I also had goofy teeth. And I was kind of a nerd. Of course I was seen as an easy target for bullies. But I was never really bullied although some people tried. You can only get bullied if you allow people to intimidate you and push you around.

My Dad pretty much taught me the "sticks and stones" stuff, and that if things got physical just to fight back. And that's all I did. People could call me something and I'd either ignore it or I've give them some shit back, then if it went further I'd smack them in the mouth, and that would be it. I never came home crying about any of this, I didn't give a shit.

Maybe you'll say "well others can't do that" - but like I said I was a short kid, quiet, not popular, kind of a nerd - they were always bigger, more popular, more socially confident than I was. It's all about your mentality and what you're taught as a kid. Whether you're taught to stand up for yourself, not take idiots seriously, not to be intimidated - or whether you're taught to be afraid which is what I think this video is encouraging, as is most anti-bullying stuff these days.

[YHL6965]

I think you missed the point of this video. I think it's more about compassion, showing people that they are not alone and it's okay to feel hurt after all of that. What you are doing though is shaming these people for the pain they feel which not only does not help, but also make things even worse. And no, this is not the kind of people who create things like safe spaces and ban words, don't mistake bully victims for attention whores, most are the opposite of that.

[englisc]

It is what causes it, because this is what gives people the victim mentality. Kids with this mentality are the ones who are the most likely to be victimised and to be traumatised by it.

I'm not missing the point. The reason I have no trauma from this is because I was taught from an early age not to let words hurt me and to defend myself physically, despite being the smallest guy in my year group. That's how my Dad prevented me from being bullied. The opposite of what's being taught here.

[YHL6965]

I deeply disagree with you on that. I was bullied from age 2 to 17 yet I hate all of these safe space and victim mentality things that is used politically. Correlation does not imply causation. And it's not that easy to "not let words hurt you", not everyone can do that, especially if they were not taught how to do so.

[englisc]

That's my point, teaching them not to is better than teaching them to take it seriously.

[YHL6965]

Yeah but, once the damage is done, it's almost useless.

[Lynx122]

I was bullied from 12 to 14 and last week my psychiatrist told me: "You're an injured child and you expect nothing good from people."I don't think it's quite that bad though. I think a lot of my problems come from not understanding people and social interactions very well. So I just started reading books about this. If I can understand better what's going on I will be a lot more relaxed and know what to do.

[Lemia]

Bullies are typically people who get pick on aswell they hid the vunreability by picking on thise they deem infriorr

[UI_Vegeta01]

I will cut the neck of someone who even thinks of bullying me

[JakeReeves]

Use your ultra instinct power and help everyone who is bullied in this world. 🤩💪🏻

[UI_Vegeta01]

Help me using your theory of relativity as well

[JakeReeves]

OK, i will travel back in time to kill every bully when they were children.

[JakeReeves]

Babies*

[namelessyoungold]

This doesn't change shit, thank you.