I could never see myself bullied especially by the people who bullied me. I was bullied for several months in my high school by the people I considered to be brothers (lol). Guess we just don't see somethings coming.
It was the last year of my middle school when I started getting along with the bullies. Initial meeting with one of them wasn't so cool but I chose to hold my grounds and low key revolted to the slightest bullying I faced.
One of them really liked my stubbornness and wanted to befriend me. Time passed so soon and I came really close to them and started having a control over the clique and did my best to not let them bully others. A few months in the group and I could see them dissing each other. Some of them had started backstabbing others and said negative and mean things about each other to me.
It was me who kept them together, didn't tell them about what they were saying about each other and sorted them out (I wish I hadn't). The most toxic one of them had dissed me once but a small physical fight took place and he had started keeping his mouth shut.
The rest was going all good and one day I returned to the school after my chicken pox was done with. I got into a fight with their friend (a bully I wasn't friends with). I had a high fever that day but my ego was too big to make me give up lol. He pushed me in a wall and he was about 5 inches taller than me. I somehow managed to pull him down and thrash him. My stubbornness had made my eye swollen but I was satisfied that I made him cry bad. This fight having taken place in front of my 'friends' proved out to be a really important incident afterwards.
How the bullying got started
Rumours spread that I have been dissing every one of them (wth!?). Proved out that the most toxic one couldn't say something on my face and had started filling others up against me. What he said against about others to me now became the things I said to him against all of them.
I thought they would enquire me about it at least but they chose to keep it a secret and blindly believed what he said.. *eyeroll*.
I was like 'Really?' he's saying that on my back and all of yous just believe what he says. I didn't think of explaining myself to them earlier as I thought they had some brains to figure out that he has been talking behind my back for a reason and only saying these things to them now because him and I aren't on good terms recently. Yeah well, people can be really that stupid.. how stupid of me to not see that coming.
It was after a while when I thought about it that for some of them, him being against me was a good start for them to start a fight (prior incidents of their jealousy and hate that I didn't pay much attention to).
It hurt me a lot (oh come on it was my first time, spare me 😂) but I decided to distance myself from them. They came up with accusations against me that they're leaving me for being a rat and they don't wanna talk to me.
After a while they had started with their bullying. They used to call me by hilarious yet mean/hurtful names and chased me everywhere I went. The transition from being the centre of the clique to being an absolute loner, I admit, wasn't so good for once. It all happened in like 5 days or less. The bullying got severe and severe and I could hear them say to each other, 'You hit him first, we will join.'
I ignored it all for a long time just for old time's sake but they didn't mend their ways. I started looking at them directly with the glare and they had started keeping their mouth shut. It was smooth going for a while until suddenly one day, the one who is closest to me comes up to me and asks for a fistfight. It really broke me to hear him say that and I refused to fight and I was labelled a coward since then and they made fun of me for a few more months. I kept quiet and went through the days.
No more bullying
After several months of going through this suffering and drama, I started to work upon getting back to reality and I didn't feel the same for them anymore. I wanted to put an end to all this so this time, I went right into their group asking that hulk to fight me now. They were all surprised and fixed a fight in the parking area of the school. It was decided that it will be a one-on-one fight but when I got there, almost every bully from every grade was there and I was being laughed at. Even the ones who didn't know me in person were there to create a show. I realized that it isn't gonna be a mano a mano and I'm gonna be hospitalized in no time. But I swore to myself to make everyone of them have at least a bad one from me and regret their decision of coming here (early teen hormones 😂). My adrenaline never rushed so furiously. I asked them 'Who is it gonna be?' and they pushed him in the middle. I grabbed his collar to start the fight but guess what? The dude was as shy as a newly wed bride.
I asked him about what was stopping him and he replied 'I can't hit you, I have always considered you my best friend but the betrayal you gave to us, I don't think hitting you will solve that.'
He spoilt all my mood.
I had to take two minutes to laugh and get myself together before having that anger back and charging at him again. He still didn't talk to me.. sad.. how unworthy I was.
I then looked at others and the ones who were saying that they will snap me like a twig were the ones who were ignoring me hard. I stared at everyone with challenging eyes but no one.. litreally no one stepped up. I then told them that I won't stop myself from hitting if I happen to hear anything mean directed towards me and one of them agreed on behalf of all.
The impact lasted for quite an impressive time. I realized it when after a year, one of them pushed the one I had fought earlier on me and I blew my elbow in his stomach. He asked me if I wanted to start again and I replied saying 'sure'. He then pointed at the one who pushed him towards me and he was laughing hard there. I grabbed his collar, placed him against a wall and gave him a blow on his stomach. His friends were there... watching. None of them made a move while their friend was looking at them with such a hope.
He kept saying and saying things until I aimed my punch at him and the moment I was about to hit him, around 8 guys nearby stopped me 😕. He ran off to his classroom and my friend told me that they were all looking for me. I went straight into their classroom and all his friends swaggered out of the room leaving him behind. He then started with his crap saying 'You are my brother from another mother, how can you fight with me like that?'...wtf!?..like dude, at least have some self respect and know how to treat your enemy.
That really disgusted me.
Though we didn't end on good terms (lol of course not), we never looked at each other again. One of them begged me for forgiveness for around 1.5 years saying sorry again and again with cry baby emojis 😂. How nice of me to forgive him 😇 and if you must know, he was the one who challenged me for the fight. I still keep my limits though.
1. Your friends are eventually gonna leave you if they don't like you whatever their reason maybe. If you fail to find a reason, be sure that it is their jealously, hate or envy behind their actions just give it a thought.
2. No one is coming for help. You might think that your friends would help you.. if they do, you're a lucky one. When you have no one with you and the enemies are your ex friends who are bullies and everyone fears them, you gotta rely on your own.
3. Ignoring doesn't help. Thanks to the internet for letting bullies know that their victims try to ignore them so that they discontinue doing that. Ignoring them will only give them more power over you.
4. Fight on your own. You can only rely on yourself when it comes to defending you. Don't want no relying on some other person and celebrating the glory with them. It really feels good to fight it out on your own.
5. Don't be scared to make a move. That doesn't mean you won't get hurt. Prepare yourself for anything that may come. You want to put an end to this, be determined.
If you aren't up for taking the hurt, embrace getting bullied.
6. Be determined to hurt. If they are given a chance, they won't stop themselves from hurting you when it comes to blows.. just saying.
7. Bullies can be the real cowards. Pretty much explained in my story above.
Don't let that comfort you too soon though. They will still make you feel like a coward unless you try and succeed in winning against them.
That's all peeps.
Thank you for reading it.
Special thanks to my mother for keeping my mind in place ❤️.
Hope you enjoyed it.