Why are virgin males given so much shit?

[Anonymous]

Like in general, seems society looks down upon em. Guys make fun of em and girls don't go for em (mostly)

[FlyOntheWall]

I think the perfect answer to this was a Tickld post I saw once. It went like this
I'm a guy and teenage guys are supposed to have a ton of sex and sleep around
But ladies are supposed to wait until marriage for their husband
So who am I supposed to have a ton of sex with?

People make fun of virgin males because to most guys their virginity is no big deal and it's just a bother to them. They want to have sex because it feels good for guys whether it's their first or 500th time. But girls have a much more painful experience their first time, their so tight that when the male penetrates them it causes a lot of pain and when the hymen is broken there can be some bleeding. So girls generally don't want to go through that pain for just anyone, they want to go through it with a guy they love. Since it's 'no big deal' to guys they should just get it over with. And that's how society sees it. Now there are plenty of males who want to wait until marriage and I think that's admirable. I'm a virgin still and I don't want to just give it away to a guy, I want to wait until it's the week of my wedding so my wedding night isn't a painful experience.

[sammy_31]

I HATE when people who get some action look down on people like us who are virgins. Like bruh it's a choice mostly for me at least and I don't feel less than, weaker, shameful, embarrassed or feel like I'm not experienced enough. Sure I'm not experienced but I don't feel bad about it, it's my choice and don't feel awful about not losing my virginity a long time ago. I ESPECIALLY hate it when little teens tell me how to feel and try to make me feel bad, I just tell them I had self control, was smart enough to wait and was just a personal choice. Just because they have sex doesn't make you cool, lol dumb it's something everyone does or most people will but it's just sex man. lol

[pedro28]

to be honest, coming from a guy who's been around the block a few times... I wish I was a virgin sooo much! i love the casanova movie with kieth ledger and he's talking to a girl and she says to him "“Give me a man who is man enough to give himself just to the woman who is worth him. If that woman were me, I would love him alone and forever” "

[KwazyBruhhh]

Major respect to you pal. I feel the same way you do.

[Keyspirits]

Baby sammy... i wanna marry u so badly Dx

[sammy_31]

@pedro28 That was very sweet and an awesome quote!

[pedro28]

hahaha Thank you guys for all the love. there's also a question asked to a hollywood celebrity who was known to be a playboy & they asked him what does it take to be a great lover? and he said: to be a great lover you gotta find that one woman who you can satisfy for the rest of her life who satisfies you for the rest of your life.

[bijinbijinbijin]

virgin girls are given shit too. I was peerpressured into losing my virginity. I did it with a guy that I wasn't that into. I only did it because i thought everyone was doing it so i just picked some random guy to get it over with.

After a while i had kind of wished that i gave my virginity to a boyfriend or at least a guy that i was in love with.

Now that im older i could care less about my past because im a totally different person from who I used to be and dwelling on the past gets you nowhere.

[Asker]

I suppose they are given shit too.

[ThatAsianFellow]

Well... I've been trying to help a friend score a girl... he's now 27 and still a virgin and never been on a date. I bought him a new set of clothes even became his wingman buy always botches it.
God knows how much money I spent trying to help him and failed..

I especially hated when he talks to me with relationship advice when he never been in one his whole life.

But that's just me and I know not all single guys are like that and I respect them for who they are. Just peeved at my friend is all and had to vent when I saw this post sorry...

[Asker]

Is he ugly or socially awkward?

[ThatAsianFellow]

He's a decent looking European fellow... but yes he's an awkward turtle :/ a verrrry awkward introverted guy and somehow gives girls the wrong vibes...

But I'm willing to stick up with him and he's got enough close friends who chill with him so guess that'll have to do =.=ll

[Asker]

Like 40 Year Old Virgin awkward or is it not that bad? Is he awkward in general or only around the opposite sex?

[ThatAsianFellow]

Hey the 40 year old virgin has a charm to it... my friend on the other hand... I little less charm

[Asker]

Is he a boring guy? lol... if so I can't blame them, to be honest

[ThatAsianFellow]

Thanks for feeling my pain trying to help this guy...:) much appreciated

[Asker]

Its cool but don't feel obligated to help. If he isn't motivated to keep trying, then its not your problem. It is nice that you are helping him out though and not being condescending towards him

[nicko2552]

dude I'm a virgin and let me tell you people don't assume you are whiny because you are a virgin but because you are fucking whiny and this question shows that you are by whining about some construct and cultural stereotype it makes you look pathetic don't take things so personally TV is a form of entertainment not a representation of society.

[Asker]

You are coming from some angle I don't even fucking know. I never said anything about being whiny, because I don't whine. Its a question I asked because its something that I have witnessed time and again with myself and others. I attributed television to the people who do look down on virgins as being partly responsible for their mindset. I am simply asking for motives as to why people who do that would do it. So please.. please, miss me with that stupid shit

[nicko2552]

there are multiple reasons to not want to date a virgin
1 not wanting to teach them how to do it because they are awkward and inexperienced
2 they assume they are not desirable by others and therefore not something worth your time either
3 they assume they are not a challenge since they are desperate to loose their virginity
4 because biologically the man is supposed to spread his seed and prosper into the next generations the more conquests he has the more of a desirable alpha male he is by not doing so he is considered less of a successful man for not prospering into the next generation while others his own age have.

[Asker]

and now for your deep insight you get MH. Thanks dude

[nicko2552]

welcome

[Mesonfielde]

Because the assumption is made that in order to seem mature, you're supposed to be having sex. Not having sex with anyone is definite proof that you are undesirable and were "actively trying to get laid, but failed while doing so".

Of course, you can do the same as you can do with people who try to convert you to their religion (considering it works the same way). Just say, LOL I DON'T CARE and ignore them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wRXa971Xw0

[Asker]

"Definite proof"? a lot of people just never tried to put themselves out there. You think that or are you saying thats what others think?

[Mesonfielde]

Obviously that is what others think. I do not see the purpose in getting laid for the sake of getting laid, sexuality as a form of physical intimacy makes much more sense to me.

[DaddysGirl23]

I think guys that are virgins are so cute to me and society that gives them a hard time because society is insecure themselves. And it just shows that you have standards and won't sleep with anything.. if you are a virgin be proud and don't lose it to some skank that will make your views on women horrible because you will eventually find a good woman to lose it to 😄

[Asker]

How do you personally feel about the ones who aren't practicing abstinence?

[DaddysGirl23]

I don't think a virgin is better than a person who'd has sex with 50 people. but I wouldn't date a guy who had sex with 50+ .. and as for me personally I refrain from sex because I am a believer of Christ and sex is intended for marriage and you don't have to agree but staying away from sex has its ups and downss but I think stat pure made me realize that sex is really not all that wrapped up to be like movies or some people make it... and also I respect myself and body and want to wait on the right person... I mean its a girls point of view so its kinda different lol

[Asker]

Nah, its your choice and I respect it. I got a friend who is practicing abstinence and he doesn't watch p*rn at all... at least that I know of because he seems clueless when the topic is brought up

[DaddysGirl23]

And the same people that try tries to bring you down or make you feel some type of way are the same ones that will make fun or spread rumours about you God forbids if you were to catch an std.. this is why you don't live up to people expectations you make choices to make you happy and stick to it... people are going to talk regardless of any situation whether its about a girl you are dating or some shoes you bought etc... you don't need anyone to bring you up for you can do it yourself. Don't take it to heart on how others feel about you for they are insecure themselves.

[DaddysGirl23]

Aww really not that's what I call a real man lol I don't like guys that are into all the p*rn stuff.. because P*rnography gives people a false hope on what real sex is suppose to be like and it makes some men view women as property or a piece of meat.. but I pray that you guys continue your journey of staying pure. . gosh I wish there were guys like y'all here lol

[Asker]

Well personally I'm not practicing abstinence. I do respect those that do though. I do watch p*rn but I am quite aware that its all entertainment and that those girls on camera are just sluts.

[DaddysGirl23]

Lmbo exactly but at the end of the day its still your choice

[BigPhil24]

Virgins are just generally awkward around girls, which some girls will find endearing and some will find unattractive and give up.

If you are a virgin, don't be afraid to be around girls! Their not going to suddenly jump on you (well... unlikely) ;)

Lad code dictates that alpha males should sleep around, but you don't want to be a lad. I hate those guys and ultimately they will end up sad and alone. Your young years should be spent finding someone you love, in my opinion.

[Asker]

I can understand why some guys would be more nervous around females. They are usually quicker to become judgmental.

[front2back]

I don't know. I hate it, all I've done in life is get crap from everyone about it. My male "friends" and now my roomates always make fun of me for it. My female friends and waitresses I work with made fun of me for it. Everyone always says I'm a pu$$y because I only practice monogamy. Everyone always say future relationships will fail because she'll want an experienced guy and I won't be able to satisfy her. I could go on.

This is part of the reason I hate other people.

[Asker]

Uggh sorry man. It especially hurts if a female is the one laughing. I don't think they understand that its harder for a guy to lose their virginity as opposed to a girl but whatevs man. Stick to your guns man, don't let them bring you down.

[FlyOntheWall]

If it's any consolation, I think that the whole idea of women only wanting an experienced guy is stupid. A woman is going to want someone who will love and cherish her, if you can give her that, if you can give her the intimacy she wants, and if she's a virgin, if you can give her the comfort that everything will be fine and that if it hurts too much you'll stop and all she needs to do is say the word and you'll stop then your relationships won't fail. Honestly I don't think I'd want an experienced guy my first time because the awkwardness and the fumbling and the not really knowing is part of losing your virginity. Just take care of the girl and she will take care of you.

[Asker]

@FlyOntheWall

Does that generalization hold true for most women or no? Do experienced gals only want experienced guys or do they not care?

[FlyOntheWall]

It depends, a slut will want an experienced guy because well she's a slut. Some girls don't want a virgin mainly because they're scared that the lack of experience may lead to more pain. Some girls like virgin guys because then they can teach them.

[Asker]

lol you would think a slut would want to screw anyone that is attractive, regardless of experience. I guess they are afraid that the guy will get clingy, which rarely happens. Usually they are just happy it happened

[shessoheavy]

It is because in this society masculinity is tied to "sexual success". As an asexual who is also a virgin this has given me grief throughout my life. The funny thing about it to me is that the same does not apply to femininity; a girl does not a man’s touch to be a feminine woman by society's standards. But a man needs a woman’s, how is that masculine?

[CasaNorba]

that is a really good question. i really dont know how being inside a vagina changes anything. i know i was once one of those guys and after i lost it people stopped looking down on me and all but till this day i still feel the same as i did when i was a virgin. i still dont feel any sense of accomplishment, victory, etc.

as a matter a fact sex didn't felt to me as fun and exciting as people say it is

[Asker]

Think most guys like feeling superior and dominant. Whether it be in the bedroom or trying to be the alpha male/main man in a group. Perhaps putting fellow dudes down is a way of putting them in their place. Sorry, I'm highly cynical towards people lol and believe that most people are motivated by primal instinct and self preservation

[CasaNorba]

i know how you feel. but look at the bright side, they are the real losers. they gotta put down others for a reason. lets not forget that dudes like this are always the ones to have problems with child support, have to deal with emotional baggage, got feud with every daughters's fathers, and with their illegitimate kids. and the list goes on and on

[Nsinger]

I don't really see where you are coming from. I am a virgin and don't get any shit about my virginity... Maybe the people around you are just stupid.

[atomique]

Word up

[Asker]

Its not even just the people but you see it on tv... they make being a virgin as a guy sound so horrible

[Nsinger]

Yeah, The TV can show you some pretty stupid stuff too, can't it? :P

[atomique]

@Asker Watch less TV

[Asker]

... You aren't getting me. I should have elaborated lol. My point was that TV seems to demonize male virginity (especially when they aren't practicing abstinence) and in turn that makes people feel like men should not be virgins after a certain age.

[nicko2552]

Bingo

[Asker]

@nicko2552

Aimed at me or original commenter?

[nicko2552]

original comment

[justbanANNAz]

because some idiots just can't accept differences.
somehow, whether ur a virgin or not is equated to ur manhood. I don't know where they got that pile of bs from, but in my books, i respect a virgin much more.

[been_waiting]

Girls don't care about a guys virginity typically.

Its just that guys who are virgins above the age of 20 tend to be socially awkward and bad with girls.

Guys give guys shit about it. Girls Don't

[Bluemax]

"Guys give guys shit about it."
Indeed.

"Girls Don't"
Not so. Most girls don't, but I've heard some with my own ears give a man grief about it.

[been_waiting]

@Bluemax I'm sure some do, generally though most girls won't

[KwazyBruhhh]

I'm socially awkward and shit with girls and that's why I'm Virgin. I agree, but then most women from personal experience have been manipulative and deceptive asshats that mistreated me and screwed me over (not literally) and therefore I have a natural distrust towards women.

A man will stab you through the chest a woman will stick the knife into your back.

[Asker]

Gotta drop that mindset if you want to get anywhere. I'm pretty weird myself but you gotta play it off and make it charming. When you're weird and know it and don't act timidly about it, they don't care. Also have to be a bit of an asshole unfortunately... I hate doing it but lol it works

[been_waiting]

@KwazyBruhhh ok you came here just to tell me how much you hate women? And? The fuck?

[KwazyBruhhh]

Nowhere did I say I hated women...

[been_waiting]

@KwazyBruhhh nahhhh you just said they're deceptive asshats and back stabbers that you don't trust ok

[KwazyBruhhh]

I can only talk about my personal experience with women and just because I coined those phrases doesn't mean I hate women. That's just how you've interpreted what has been typed and submitted.

[been_waiting]

@KwazyBruhhh okay maybe hate was a strong word but I'm really at a loss as to why you just decided to comment and list negatives about girls

[KwazyBruhhh]

I was given you the reason I am a 26 year old virgin.

[KwazyBruhhh]

I was responding to "Its just that guys who are virgins above the age of 20 tend to be socially awkward and bad with girls."

[been_waiting]

@KwazyBruhhh it was irrelevant. I'm sorry you've had bad experiences though.

[KwazyBruhhh]

I felt it was relevant but I understand your view point and don't be sorry, I'm hardly the first guy or girl to have bad experiences, I am just disappointed that I sound like a misogynist when I actually support women's rights and equal opportunities for women.

[been_waiting]

@KwazyBruhhh that doesn't mean that you don't have a bitterness for women.
Most girls won't backstab you and manipulate you. You are ending up with the wrong ones.
When a girls continously end up with shitty guys, you know what they say?

[KwazyBruhhh]

There is no bitterness on my end.

[Wh1teRabb1t]

I have no idea! So you want to save yourself for someone special, so what? I'm 22 and I'm still a virgin (and proud of it too!) If anything I would PREFER to date a guy who is still a virgin.

[Asker]

Its not even just the ones who save themselves (that's awesome they can do that btw) but the ones who just can't seem to get a gf or get laid. Why do people feel the need to bring them down? Why can't guys build them up and help them and girls give them a chance? Just in general, I question why people feel the need to be superior to anybody, I just don't give a damn

[KwazyBruhhh]

Nobody knows I'm a Virgin and it's none of their business.

[Klaatu51]

because they're virgins by their choice. some of them can't find a gf and they don't want to go with a prostitute because they're so f*cking stubborn

[Asker]

That would do nothing to build their confidence up. Infact that would just make them feel pathetic that they have to pay for something that others don't have to. Imagine everyone getting free stuff and then when you come by the seller says 10.99 for this stuff.

[Klaatu51]

you're wrong. some people must face the fact that they canot have a gf and i'm one of them. that's why i pay for sex and i don't feel pathetic. don't be stubborn

[Asker]

Why quit so early? Your age says 18-24, what makes you unattractive to females?

[Klaatu51]

first of all I DON'T WANT TO have a gf. it's annoying having someone above my head all the time. and i'm too lazy to search for girls to just have sex without being in a relationship. so prostitutes are the best solution for me

[Asker]

ehhh fair enough lol

[JackKerouac77]

'Cause society's fucked up and people don't have enough important shit to worry over so they gotta find people to rag on.

Stupid. Who cares how people are living their personal lives?

[Splintercell]

I am a virgin but I have never been mocked. I don't care either if I was. Truthfully young ladies are surprised and congratulate me for waiting. I am proud to be a virgin. So what if I don't have experience.

[AliceDetest]

Because they can carry it, they have the free hands to.

[Asker]

Joke was hella weak lol

[AliceDetest]

Not as weak as male virgins.

[Asker]

Wow, you on that bitch shit

[Acroatic]

Way I see it. Society mocks anything that is the norm.. I say do what you want. When you want how you want..

[bubbletrouble]

Because women don't like virgins. I couldn't care less if a dude is a virgin. Not sure why guys give other virgin guys flack but that's just how it is.

[KwazyBruhhh]

Why do women dislike Virgin men is it because we'll squirt in 2 nano seconds and have no idea what is going on?

[Asker]

I assume the ones that do think that they are beta and will be bad in the sac (which may be true initially) but everybody starts somewhere and they were once virgins themselves. I don't know, I can't speak for em but my assumption is that many of them play the submissive role in the bedroom and want somebody who can take charge, probably find it annoying to teach... which I think is dumb, someone had to teach them but its whatevs

[bubbletrouble]

Lack of experience, fear that he will be terrible in bed.

[bubbletrouble]

@KwazyBruhhh

[Asker]

Thats what I don't get... weren't those people once virgins themselves. Why do so many girls have such an aversion to the idea?

[bubbletrouble]

Why do guys like virgin girls so much? Men and women are ying and yang.

[KwazyBruhhh]

Cool story...

[Asker]

Guys aren't really as obsessed with the idea of having a virgin as opposed to a girl having someone with experience but I guess you are right

[beastman88]

because we live in a crazy society obsessed with sex

[Bluemax]

The majority of grief about a male being a virgin comes from other males.

[Anonymous]

Its funny because women will say a guy isn't entitled to sex, but in the same breath they will turn around and assume if a guy is a virgin then he's "whiny" "bitter" and mostly likely a loser.

[Asker]

I've seen it happen to many times. Girl is sooo interested in a guy but as soon as she gets word or hears from his own mouth he is a virgin, interest just drops. I have however seen very few girls who don't care about that shit as well, so to each their own I suppose.