What should I do about my creepy perverted brother?

[Anonymous]

Hi my name is Joy, I'm 16 years old and my brother Drew, who is 16 years old (four months older than me) and will be 17 in June, is a pervert. He stole me and my sister Kat's underwear, he touched me and my younger sister Emma, who is 13, while we were sleeping in the car, he snuck into my other Kat's room in the middle of the night with night vision goggles, looking through her dirty clothes and his excuse is that he wanted to ask her something, and I caught him coming out of my room and his excuse was he was look for something that he thought I stole ( which is a lie). He sometimes stares at our butts and boobs and he says inapropriate things to us. Sometimes I want to kill him, so he won't do this to anyone else, but I know that wouldn't be the christian thing to do and I hate when he calls himself a christian and sings christian songs when he does all this crap. Can you guys please help?

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+1 y

My parents do know about this but they say its family business

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+1 y

The reason I want your opinion is because my sister who has 10 kids, 1 boy and 9 girls ( 6 of them are under 12), and her family are coming over on the end of May and I know I can't keep an eye on him all the time, but I just don't trust him around any little kids.

[datgirl]

He's needs a frigging slap to the face so hard. You girls need to stand up for yourself. I find this story extremely sad and disgusting that you girls can't even live peacefully in your own home without being harassed by your brother sexually. You need to inform your parents ASAP they may not do anything or want to do anything because this is their son they are dealing with and it hurts a parent to hear this sort of news. You can try talking to your brother if that doesn't work I would suggest slapping some sense into him and recording his behavior and what he says secretly.

[Asker]

we've had fist fights with him before, Kat through a class cup at him ( but she missed), but that doesn't stop him

[emmabee11]

Well i don't think your religion is an aspect in this situation because even if non of you ween't christian it's still non-human to do, have a long talk with your parents NOW before this gets worse, the fact he touched you is wrong and he needs some help, if you let his behavior escalate he could start doing it to other girls too, help him by getting your parents to take proper measures, for your own safety and for other girls safety in future. This is unacceptable.

[Asker]

I'll try

[emmabee11]

Let them know how it's making you worry for yourself, your sisters, your cousins and other girls too, say what if he starts doing these things to girls at school or other places when he's older, he needs definite help.

[Asker]

ok thanks

[emmabee11]

no probs :) good luck with it and update us after you've talked to them to see how it goes and if we could help further

[Asker]

I will thanks

[Asker]

Thank you everyone for your advice and I did talk to my mom about it, but like always, nothing happened.

[emmabee11]

That sucks... i guess that's what happens in religions families... sexual things aren't spoken about no matter how serious because "it's not christian like", i guess your on your own with this, i think you need to confront your brother and beg him to get help and make him realize the effect it's having on all the girls he's molesting, he must make you feel scared to do so... but don't... and if he tries anything kick him in the nutt sack.

[KyleBarrettIsKUUL]

Ok fucker let a guy answer this and not feministic girls, no offense, ok so I'm going to use psychology, remember to only continue to the next step if the last didn't work.

Step 1: ask him too stop
Step 2: if he continues ask your parents
Step 3: if he still does it ask him friends or other family members
Step 4: ask him wht he continues and comfort him
Step 5: it might be different than perversion, incest is a thing even in the bible and back than so Christianity doesn't mean shit
Step 6: JUST DUCKING IGNORE IT YOU DINGUS!

So yea that's my take on it and yea he could love you or your sister for real and not in a brotherly way just ask him to explain why he does it all. And I should explain that I am only 13 :P so it's not mansplaining ight? It's boysplaining :) :) :)

[emmabee11]

@KyleBarrettIsKUUL Shut up asshole! she's let him do this for long enough, so your soltuio is to carry on leting him do it? i don't think so... your a fake ass and if you knew anything about psycology you'd know behaviors escalate the more you allow that behavior to continue, they won't just stop... idiot...

[ButtHoleSandwich]

If your parents won't do anything tell the police! Him touching you is sexual assault. Nobody should go through that!

[Ped1981]

He needs a good kicking and told afterwards why he got it. None of you have boyfriends to set on him? The church background thing makes me think your parents are more interested in their wholesome image in the community than giving up on him. That's bad news. Tell him you'll tell everybody in town that he's a creepy bastard and raids your underwear drawers. Name and shame the fucker into stopping. Boys that age get mortified if they get caught doing indecent things like watching p*rn

[Asker]

He was caught, but that didn't stop him. My parents found pics of his penis and pic of naked women on his phone.

[Ped1981]

He's at that age he's got a big interest in girls. It's natural. What's not natural is what he's doing. There must be someone who he'd be ahamed of letting know what he does. His friends or something. Film him doing it and put it on facebook. There's more ways than one to skin a cat. Think about what would hurt or shame him most and use that against him or threaten to

[Asker]

thank you

[ShutUpAndSuckMe]

@QA, ''I'm 16 years old and my brother Drew, who is 16 years old (FOUR MONTHS older than me) and will be 17 in June, is a pervert.''..

So a woman can give birth to another baby in just as little as four months AFTER the previous baby's birth? :S
https://i.imgur.com/ACfzy16.jpg

k den...

[Asker]

No we are adopted

[Asker]

They are good parents but they don't being sent back to Haiti

[Asker]

Him*

[ShutUpAndSuckMe]

They aren't good parents. They care more about his well being than that of yours & ur younger sister's. They are horrible people.

[Asker]

they said next year he'll move out

[Ryosanada]

Your parents are in denial about it. He needs help. If they won't get it fir him, time to move away from them and him.

[Asker]

I'm only 16 and my parents aren't bad parents

[Ryosanada]

Didn't say they were. Just said they're in denial. Its hard to say what's right, but a lock on your doors is a start, and your brother needs some sort of help, or he can get worse. More than groping. He may take it further.

[Asker]

My parents put locks on our doors

[Ryosanada]

Then they understand he's doing stuff, but he needs to stop, or he'll become a sex offender, and life will be hell, and if he gets help now, it'll be easier.

[gabemichales]

im scared of my brother asswell he's always talking about girls in completely graphic terms but not as bad as this im a boy by the way but im really sensitive about how some guys talk about girls in such graphic terms

[skullly]

This is so fake!

ANYWAY~ at 16 I was able to kick someone's ass of my same age.. c'mon~ use your brain!! If you were 6 that would be different. This is so lame.

[Asker]

Your comment makes me so upset, maybe you may think it's so fucking simple but its not. I don't want to try fighting with him because when I do he does some perverted shit, he fucking stands behind me and tries to wrap his arm around my boobs, he will try to pull me down to sit on his lap, and he will stand behind me and try to bend me over and even when we call him a pervert he smiles and say he loves it and it makes him happy.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

The only thing you can do is get him counseling
talk someone from the church who can maybe
get you help with him. His behavior is abnormal
which does need immediate attention.

[Jxpxtxr]

Am I the only one that noticed her brother is only 4 months older than her?
Maybe he's an alien 👽✌🏻️

[nfigure]

OMG so creepy! xDDD That's actually the creepiest detail from the whole post, now that you mention it, hahaha. :P

[Jxpxtxr]

@nfigure Lol ikr I was reading a few comments and I was like "why did no one else notice?"

[nfigure]

Aw I just noticed that she explained in one of the comments that her brother is adopted -- so no alien activity this time. xD Dang it! I hate it when there's a reasonable explanation. :P

[Jxpxtxr]

@nfigure that's too bad.. I already thought I might have found another one 😢

[Anonymous]

Maybe talk to a close adult friend or a teacher because something needs to change and it sounds like your parents are not taking control of the situation

[Asker]

I don't know what will happen if I tell someone.

[Anonymous]

How can there be only 4 months difference between 2 siblings? Smells like BS to me, unless he's adopter or a step brother.

[Asker]

we are adopted from Haiti

[Opinion Owner]

Or that... In any case, there's no blood relation so thats why i think he thinks it's okay.
Definitely tell your parents.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I just read the other comments.."They do know, but they says its family business and we are adopted so he could get sent back to Haiti"
Well ask them what do they prefer? Their son being sent to haiti or keeping a pervert under their roof? At this pace, soon-to-be rapist.

[Anonymous]

Your brother is a molester and your parents are wrong to dismiss this issue so easily. You need to sit them down and explain to them the seriousness of the situation, and if they don't listen I would suggest talking to a school counselor.

[ComDom]

He probably needs to see a therapist. I would talk with your family about that.

[JackKerouac77]

Buy a knife and learn how to use it. Be careful with that axe, Eugene.

[BobbyBrown23]

Hope you're trolling, if not you better call the cops.

[Kshppatel]

You need get to the root of the problem and why he does it. There has to be a reason

[Omar5881]

What the hell, u should tell ur parents or the police

[sizedoesnotmatter]

whenever he do this kik his nutts and you will thank me later

[unforgiven90]

you must teach him wrong way what he do and teach him that interested in another girl and he must learn your sisterhood of him

[Genie23]

Wth... Are you serious?

[Genie23]

If you are then you better tell the police. It's sad that your parents said "it's family business"
That's so messed up.

[Asker]

I know, but there really good parents

[Genie23]

But they aren't supporting you. They are taking his side. I mean it's so creepy... How could he do that?
Seriously, you should tell the cops. You don't want him to touch you or take your personal stuff right? :-/

[Genie23]

This should be stopped.

[Asker]

Telling the cops will get him sent back to Haiti

[ShutUpAndSuckMe]

@Asker, ''Telling the cops will get him sent back to Haiti''.. GOOD!

[Genie23]

Asker.. So, be it. Apparently, he doesn't thinks of you/treats you as a sister... Trust me, he'll dare to do more perveted things if you didn't take an action.
Think about your little sister... Do it for her.

[Asker]

I'm afraid it will split our family up

[Genie23]

I know it' might be difficult for you. But what really concern me is thar your parents aren't trying to stop him from doing such shameful act. It's like they are encouraging him.
What is the responsibility of parents? To take care of their children. To protect them. Clearly, your parents have failed in this. I think it's better to tell someone who would help you rather than tolerating this. I'm scared for your little sis. What if he tries to touch her inappropriately again? There is nothing worse than mental scars

[Asker]

ok thanks

[Genie23]

Anytime...

[bubble_tea]

Tell the police if your parents won't listen.

[Anonymous]

Is he your step-brother or half brother?

[Asker]

adopted brother

[Opinion Owner]

Send his ass back to the orphanage

[Mistrustful]

Wtf is wrong with you , summary of question?

[iAmNotSkilled1]

what do u mean by its family business?

[Asker]

I don't think they want him to end up back in Haiti

[iAmNotSkilled1]

why dont they just tell him to fuck off? its ur freedom , and he should know that this is wrong !

[apexalpha]

talk to a school counselor

[Asker]

I'm homeschooled

[apexalpha]

an adult you can trust like a friends parent

[Asker]

I would but I don't want something to happen to my family

[apexalpha]

you need to deal with the issue no harm will come to you

[Asker]

Maybe nothing will happen to me, but won't the police split up my family?

[apexalpha]

no they will take your brother to another home probably

[Asker]

but I thought they would send my parent to jail, because they knew and but didn't do anything it, and put us in different families

[apexalpha]

no nothing will happen to your family just your adopted brother so go tell an adult

[Anonymous]

ever tild your parents about it?

[ArabianPwincess197]

Tell your parents

[Asker]

My parents know, but they say its family business

[ArabianPwincess197]

Well tell him if he does it again, you're gonna get him arrested for harassment.

[Entrieton]

TELL YOUR PARENTS.

[Asker]

They do know, but they says its family business and we are adopted so he could get sent back to Haiti

[Entrieton]

@SimplyJoy No offense but you have some shitty parents, and they are not going to do anything...

[KiaTate]

Tell your parents.

[goretcki]

Tell your parents.