The Realest People Don't Have A Lot Of Friends? Thoughts?

[Pac-Man]

Do you believe that this is true? If yes, do you believe that the people who have a lot of friends are fake? In my opinion there's some truth to it because it takes a lot work and time to build a friendship and to keep it alive. I think that most people who have a ton of friends are half-assing it and their friends are actually acquaintances. I am curious to see your thoughts.

This is true and the people who have a lot of friends are fake

This is true and the people who have a lot of friends are not fake

This isn't true

[KaiserWilliam]

This might be true, but I think it would be more accurate to say "people that put effort into connecting with another have more friend." I have many friends, some better than others. I don't search for friends but in general I try to connect and understand everyone I talk to. Which in the end makes people want to talk to me more, they ask questions, I offer opinions, and they search me out. Effectively friendships are made.

[Cosytoasty]

Hmm, its true, although i wouldn't say fake - Some people just have a persona about them that pulls people in. It's the people that flock to them who see it as a friendship - the actual person see's them as acquaintances, so you can't really blame the popular guy for it.

I will say though I can count at most 10 true friends out of 50 or so i interact with constantly.

[Cccgala]

I agree. People who are transparent in showing their true self don't have a lot of immediate people to confide with.

The most outgoing people and popular people are less realer to their acquaintances than to the people they really consider 'friends'. You're right about most of their friends being mere 'acquaintances'.

[Shorty1991]

I would say that in my experience this is true, I used to be more popular and have a group of friends. They all turned out to be bed eggs and users. So I severed all ties with them. Now I only have one best friend, who I can actually trust. Quality is better than quantity.

[Pac-Man]

Well said :)

[Shorty1991]

That was meant to read bad eggs. Lol

[MrCryptic]

The word "friend" gets thrown around way too loosely and often to where it almost has no meaning anymore.

A friend is someone who will be true to you, help you better yourself, offer advice on something they may know about better than you and generally someone you can confide in on a personal level built on trust and mutual benefit to each other. The quote from Tupac is spot on in the sense that the people who are really true to themselves and others will often be hated because of their honesty. Real friends will point out when you do stupid shit because they TRULY care about you and are not just there to stroke your ego and give you validation, they want to see you be the best version of yourself that you can be but most people are too prideful and weak to let other people tell them they might be doing something wrong.

An acquaintance is someone who most people call a friend in that they are someone you talk to on a positive level at work, school, club, etc you may have some commonalities but outside of the circle you usually converse you rarely if ever talk.

Fake friends are the ones you hang out with and do stuff with and you just laugh and have a good time together but when shtf they are nowhere to be seen and will leave you because you're not "fun" anymore. This makes up the vast majority of relationships/"friendships".

To me it's better to have 1 friend than 10 fake friends.

[Harbor]

Your poll selections are terrible. Being real with little to no friends doesn't mean that the friends one use to have were fake they just weren't compatible with the individual's personality and thus results in them parting ways.

Imagine something you don't like the most that you've come across in your life.
Would you hang out with this person? No and so won't other people but that person will have people that will because they like him/her for the way that person is and that's why they choose to stick around.

[ElissaDido]

I don't think it's true every single time... I have a lot of friends but I don't think I'm fake, I'm diplomatic.
It means that I know what to talk about and not to talk about with certain people, doesn't mean I am lying because I never do, but I try to avoid touchy subjects! :)

[Oram52]

Not necessarily. It could be true or not true, depending on the individual. Having a lot of acquaintances also requires good social skills, doesn't necessarily mean they are fake. These people tend to be extroverts, ie have strong Interpersonal Intelligence.

[meatballs21]

I'm an introvert and have only a small number of very intense friendships. When I was at university, I was more of a socialite (in comparison) and could spend the whole night just wandering around the club talking to my friends... but I didn't really know any of them as well as I know my current friends.

[akadatank44]

Nope not entirely true. I think as people age the find their true friends and realize their fake ones. I have 2 close friends. I have a shit ton of other friends that I'll party with or see and buy them a drink or something. But I'm not telling them everything ya know?

[LaFemmeFatale]

There's a grain of the truth in those words. I've thought about it. So called friends are sometimes just good acquaintances.

[Mustachekitteh]

I honestly think this is true because it means they're not a people pleaser and will tell the hold hard truth. Which A LOT of people can't handle that kind of thing at all.

[chintita]

there's a difference between having a lot of friends and having a lot of acquaintances u like interacting with.

[MysteriousDarkness]

I believe it is better to have a few close friends than a lot of friends. After so many of which I am not sure of how many it would be they start to become an acquaintance.

[archiz]

nah man. there is a sort of savoir vivre here: being pleasant, sociable, helpful, respectful etc...
why make of someone an enemy, it just doesn t make sense.
P. R is a form of power.

[archiz]

yea in the end your close friends can be counted but that doesn t mean you shouldn t be friendly with everyone as long as you are correct in your actions and decisions.

[Waffles731]

I'm real,
I assume other people are real
How is one person more 'real' than anyone else

[Pac-Man]

I guess you can be "unreal" by acting out of character just to be liked

[x4v13r]

this is true, but only because of the culture. people have collectively decided to ignore and distract themselves from reality instead of confronting problems and dealing with them. there are a million different ways people do this, including focusing attention on insignificant and irrelevant problems.

[ThisDudeHere]

I practically don't have any friends and I don't feel 'real'.

[ThisDudeHere]

In fact I actually feel fake because I have to pretend I'm someone else when speaking to strangers since no one would want to be friends woth a guy who has none.

[MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah]

What are you on about?

[ThisDudeHere]

@MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah what I wrote.

[MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah]

You're as real as it gets!! XD
Time to fuck your mum

[sixnineanon]

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[Anonymous]

of course, can't you see how a lot of people here try sooooo hard to be politically correct all the time instead of actually having an opinion?
attention seeking lol

[BusinessBasketball]

Realest people are always in other people business, so it's hard to make friends if you're always putting your nose in someone else business.

[HelloEveryone123456]

I wouldn't take Tupac too seriously...

Plus, I believe he had a lot of friends called the "Outlaws,"...

[CasaNorba]

this is more than 100% true. I found out about this in high school and Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and all those other social media tools have pretty much confirmed this

[Wammu]

If you are "real" , don't complain when people shy away from you.