Would you prefer to have people be brutally honest to you, or lie/sugarcoat things to potentially spare your feelings?

[IAmRedThunder]

Personally I like it when a person is real with me and keeps it brutally honest.

Brutally honest.

Lie/sugarcoat.

[iwannalicku]

I would rather have someone tell me the brutal honest truth because if they cheer code it to make you feel better or save your feelings that you ever then they are lying to you and frankly I don't like a liar I'd rather you told me the truth straight up so that I know where I stand and I wouldn't return to the same for you why would I lie to you instead of tell you the truth if you were to be my friend there's true friendship is in truth I've told some of my friends things that I'm sure hurt their feelings pretty bad but they are still my friends and we are much closer group at least we can be honest with each other no matter what,

[iwannalicku]

it's just my opinion but the brutal honesty is better than being lied to any time

[Schlindner]

Why only two options? The best people are those that are honest without being brutal. The truth does not have to be hurtful, people can just communicate their perspectives and you can reflect on that. At least that's what I search for in my friend, no idea if that applies for everyone tho

[IAmRedThunder]

Cuz it's a question of which out of the two would you prefer.

[Schlindner]

Sure i get that but people are more complex than that. But yeah I would always prefer someone that tells me what they really think instead of lie to my face

[Nodachi]

Brutal honesty. I think sugarcoating thing is impractical and will not be effective to listen to and help me become a better person. I just find it very insincere.

If I think it's unjustified, I will simply hold my own position and aim to explain my own position until we come to an amicable solution.

[Hityahardman]

depend on the situation. if im not close enough with this person then id rather lie a bit. but if he/she is my bestfriend, i would be honest to the core...

[Nel0301]

Honesty! But you can find a way to be honest without purposely been cruel or hurtful

[ak666]

I prefer to try to be tactful and diplomatic without actually lying. The dichotomy doesn't have to be between brutal honesty and white lies. There are ways to just use a more sensitive tone without any form of deception involved. Mostly I try to tailor what I say to the person and what I think they're feeling and what I think they could personally benefit most from hearing without actually lying at all.

[ak666]

As a simple example, if I see a boy trip and scrape his knee and start crying, my unfiltered thought is that he's being weak. However, I generally don't find it productive to tell him that he's being weak. Instead I might offer him a firm hand, lift him up, and tell him to be strong and stand proud and wipe away those tears. None of this involves lying but I'm tailoring and filtering my words based on what I think most benefits him.

[ak666]

The difference at times might be the difference between constructive criticism and just complaints. The former doesn't require lying or sugarcoating. All it requires is some sensitivity and a recognition that the point of what we say is to motivate the person to improve.

[Shadow44]

Being brutally honest for me. Being honest could help a lot. Especially if you're not good at something, or here are places where you could improve. If people lied to you to make you feel better when you couldn't see things clearly and objectively yourself the it's harder for self improvement. Lying also holds you back. Though there are ways to be honest and nice about it.

[SaramadHill]

Sugar coat: There's no point in lying to someone to make them feel better, it'll only hurt them when they are faced with the truth of their situation eventually, whatever it might be.

Brutal honesty: I will say that being brutally honest is good if you can word it "nicely," which is what I usually aim to do. :) So I guess I'm just "honest" not "brutally honest."

[IEat70sBush]

Honesty. Lying doesn't help the thing I'm asking an opinion about. I'm not 5, honesty isn't gonna make me cry in my ice cream. If I wanted to hear lies (white or any other color) I'd just listen to politicians.

[IdkSomethingRandom]

I'm the ugliest, dumbest n most detestable human most people I've met will ever come across. Them trying to say otherwise just annoys me.

I hear them talk about me behind my back. The fact that they can't be honest with me just annoys me.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

I like honest people who speak truth to me.
I don't like people who sugarcoat.

But sometimes if it is honest and genuine but as it is positive so get confused that it is lie or truth.

[jazmiine]

The truth may hurt or not. Honesty is always the best. There will come a time when everything will be unveiled.

[AlexBlack007]

I'm open-minded and I can understand that a person has his reasons for whatever he does so if he's brutally honest, I understand and I respect that. :)

[zombiebabe]

i don't wanna be lied to.. i'd rather have someone to be brutally honest even tho i know it might hurt sometimes

[skylimetoon]

I can't really read people and the things I come up with in my head are always magnified by my imagination so it'd be better if I didn't have to read between the lines

[Krodaxun]

Life is short. Quit beating around the bush and be honest.

[ASEXY]

I expect people to be brutally honest with me because I'm brutally honest with everyone. I hate it when people sugarcoat shit.

[Halucinator]

it depends
Complete lies deserve hate but sometimes brutal truth kills us down so I can't really decide

[NightOwl8801]

I like honesty , its the best policy but sugar coating helps some things but I like honesty

[jesusnicolas97]

I'd rather they be brutally honest then lie to my face

[Razal]

Very much depends on situation to situation. Sometimes being brutally honest gets the opinion across, and sometimes sugar coating does !!

[Anonymous]

I appreaciate when people are honest. I see no point in sugarcoating or lying.

[Pizzalover101]

A mixture of both tell if my garlic bread made my breath smell bad

[Kumar0067]

Brutally honest omg you are so beautiful <3 Send me PM.

[Anonymous]

i prefer people to be honest with me. i see sugar coating as an insult.