I wouldn't say arrogance itself is really the attractive trait rather than the attitude that comes with it. I personally hate super cocky and arrogant guys because it just makes it seem like they are so full of themselves. But in moderation, it gives off the vibe that the person is really conferrable and confident in himself which is a super attractive quality for a guy to have. It's kinda like a bad boy trait, and I am kinda attracted to bad boys, and I'm sure there are some girls out there that can agree. Also, it depends are what they are being arrogant about. If it's just the same stuff over and over again or just bragging about how rich and attractive he is, that stuff gets boring over time. Another point to consider is "who are they being arrogant for?". To impress females? or because it's part of their personalities? Like I said arrogance in moderation isn't always a bad thing. I don't want a guy who is super arrogant all the time but not a guy who has nothing good to say about himself and is super insecure. I am already insecure and if he's more insecure than me, we are going to have issues. Not trying to confuse confidence with arrogance, but they are related, and arrogance from first glance (in my opinion) always portrays confidence. If we really wanna go far into this conversation, we can look at the evolutionary perspectives. In the natural world, we can see that particularly male animals are loud, large, and colourful creatures. Why? To attract their mate of course. Male peacocks spread their colourful feathers and walk around. Which is basically the same as telling everyone how great you are and acting like the best guy out there. another thing is, male animals fight with other male animals of their species, and they do it the the females sometimes. So again, yes if you look at some of the points I have stated, arrogance is attractive, but only to a certain degree. And it depends on the movie behind the behaviour.
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My boyfriend is an ignorant asshole and gives no fucks about anyone's feelings except mine of course lol. I like how he treats me like a queen and the rest of the world like they are beneath us. Its like us against the world type of thing. I know it sounds messed up but I guess you have to be in a dominant submissive kind of relationship to find flatter in it. I am submissive so I like to please and cater to my man while he makes sure the world never gets in my way or in between the love we have for each other. I am the calm, kind, sweet one while he is the one who protects. I am not even explaining it in a way that is understood, its quite hard to. Dont get me wrong we aren't bad people lol but I guess its more of a pleasurable thing for us. People see him as an asshole and no one to step to, and I see him as my man, my teddy bear, my protector. No shame at all.
The term 'opposite attracts' never fails to lose its irony on some people. Arrogance is viewed negatively with cause as words such as conceited, self involved, cocky, overbearing and so forth is associated with the meaning. A person who is totally different may find that odd and question, 'How can one person be so vain?' It may be a front for some people, a way to fit with the stereotypes or simply because you can't help but be you. Females especially find it attractive when a guy is self assured and efficient in stuttering and impossible situations, when his shoulders lift or the exaggerated pep in his step that you just can't miss. Its human nature to like what you see there.
I think because arrogance displays shamelessness in a bad light. Shamelessness captivates in an area where no one takes risks of being open to judgment. Look at how people often called "arrogant;" most of the time, they do not care about what others would think about them.
Confidence, meanwhile, is what I'd call as the positive shamelessness.
People interchange confidence and arrogance, which shouldn't be the case because confidence uplifts and motivates others while arrogance does the opposite.
By my observation, this is something fairly common in younger women and teenage girls that kind of dissipates as they get older. The guys who used to get all the attention from girls when they were in high school, if they act the same when they are 30, start getting eyerolls instead.
The reason for the change could be due to any number of things or a combination of them. Arrogant guys tend to be domineering, which many younger women seem to prefer. Arrogance can also look a lot like very high levels of confidence, and our reptilian brains sometimes can't tell the difference, even if our mammalian brains can, so to speak. There's an important distinction, though:
Arrogance is born of the need to seem better than everyone else, whereas confidence is born out of being ok with not being better than everyone else. Arrogance is a sign of insecurity. A person needs to feel better than others because they don't feel that way. If you truly are ok with who you are, you don't feel a need to flaunt anything.
I think that, as women age and have experiences with arrogant guys that don't go so well, they begin to gravitate more towards genuine confidence. But that's just my hypothesis.
At least those people have self belief, even if it is exaggerated or a front. They don't allow people to put them down and they don't shy away from saying what they're good at. In all honesty, it is those who are most intimidated by arrogance who tend to hate it.
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Arrogance gets interpreted as confidence. Confidence is attractive. Even a lot of dudes like confident women, at least I do. It can get annoying when you're dating a girl and she's always/constantly doubting herself when it's clear she is fine/has potential (and I don't mean sometimes because everyone gets down on themselves sometimes, I'm talking frequently).
As for dudes, I think a lot of girls see guys who are full of themselves and are attracted because they are confident and haters/bad things aren't going to phase them/their confidence.
However, I don't think arrogance is truly confidence. To me, people who arrogant usually somewhat confident but have some insecurities and they come off so strong to try and hide them. A truly confident person would be honest with themselves to overcome it, instead of overlooking/ trying to hide truth.I'm a confident person and at the same have the capability to give replies to "sharp - witty" comments in an even sharper - wittier way, being called a smooth operator when talking to girls or "savage" when turning around mean malicious comments/remarks.
I am able to flirt with girls openly with an attitude of "I know you like me, stop pretending" but without actually saying it, just planting the idea in her head that I can tell she likes and making her wheels turn.
Plus in the end I do not really care about the mean idiots that hate me, so I couldn't care less about what they think about this.
All these things might make me look arrogant to outside people, but in the end if the girl accepts and appreciates my smart flirting and comments and my comebacks, then what do I care.Every positive attribute can be phrased in a negative way and vise-versa. Arrogance could also been seen as confidence. Putting effort into ones appearance can be seen as a sign of success, responsibility, a good sense of style, even just good hygiene; it can also be seen as being full of ones self, vain, vapid, or shallow. Being slow to show emotions can be seen as emotional maturity and strength or being distant and cold. Almost every trait has a bad and good interpretation, it's up to the individual to figure out what balance on the spectrum of each is most attractive.
What I've read and listened too in the past I say it's a psychological response. As humans are super complex we have a desire to attain things we cannot have. With that arrogance actually makes us feel another un-obtainable. This in turn causes us to make up excuses to ignore the arrogance (or rude behaviour) to inturn obtain what we don't have. This is done and shown in higher class clothing stores with sales clerks methods of sales. Some places may come across as snobby or arrogant to make the sale. And that is why they do it. or maybe why you find it attractive when others in a social scenario portray it towards you. Obtain the un-obtainable. 😊
Arrogance is a virtue I'm very proud to have.
Well.. Sometimes, anyway. It has its place =]
Some people are attracted to cockiness and arrogance. Maybe it's because it shows that a person is capable of being a decision maker. Someone who doesn't have the self confidence to be able to make a decision by themselves is usually pretty unattractive.
But it could also be a sign that the person is incredibly full of shit and/or very stupid. So I guess it's a case-by-case thing where it could be attractive or unattractive, ya?I didn't know arrogance was ever considered an attractive trait. In one sense I could see it if it's in the sense of how certain arrogant people behave. Many are confident in their decisions even if they're wrong. Many aren't willing to put up with people who try to put them down (at least in their eyes, though many times it's people trying to correct them). I'm personally not a fan of arrogance, and I'm not sure that I could really understand why it, in and of itself would be seen as attractive. Even so, It's interesting to hear that there are those who do find it attractive.
Chasing that carrot, the arrogant person puts themselves above you and you try to jump and reach them.
Other that that, people mistake confidence for arrogance. Arrogant people put people around them down, while confident people inspire confidence.It depends if they have a reason to be.
I give credits, if someone is really smart or talented well I 'll give him that, he earned it.
So for those people you wanna get their attention I think. Makes you feel more worthy if someone with his value has a soft spot for you. The fact that he doesn't give 2 fucks for others but cares about you makes you feel special. So it s like a challenge where a person eleviates your self worth where it should be you doing it yourself.
So people who actually like arrogant people have a lower self esteem and consider said person of a higher league and out of his reach.Well arrogant people feel too much superiority as for people around them, which isn't right for someone who is confident. The thing that attract you maybe on them is the fact that they reject mostly everyone like a sign of strong personality which is not right at all. Plus bonding to this kind of people might create internal issues, sometimes serious, which you can't see as a distant admirer.
I am quiet but extremly confident and secure in myself but because i have a resting asshole face people call me always arrogant jerk and other arrogant +*insult*. This makes me really sad because i can't find friends this way because i am know in the school as an big arrogant asshole who looks down on others and treats them bad.
Especially girls dont like it... they avoid me. Some people say that just because i look good (and i really look good cause i worked really hard for it) i conside myself above them.
Its annoying...it's because arrogance is misinterpreted as , confidence. guiltlessness, shamelessness and fearlessness... yet if you have all three same traits you can recognize it... and you will also recognize that you want someone who is what you want to become, balanced.. in guiltlessness, fearness, shamelessness, and with these three balanced you becoming loving, both self loving and people/outer-loving
Even if you are a genius, there is no call for arrogance. There is always a lesson to be learnt, and humility is always the best way to learn it. You rarely, if ever find a really clever, and learned person who is arrogant, and if you did, then you have to wonder what their knowledge lacks. Arrogance should never be mistaken for confidence.
Two reasons:
The arrogance is mistaken as confidence
Submissive people presume an arrogant person to be their dominant counterpartArrogance is a front for all the insecurities and fear the little boy has in his heart. A man with a black belt in martial arts is taught to be humble with quiet confidence.
Why girls are attractted to arrogant guys is because of there protective motherly instincts to nuture the little boy within the tough guy persona.
Women fall for the bad boy because they think they can save them and change them with their love, its like adopting a cute little abandoned puppy.Some people consider me arrogant which is unusual in a woman. I am not arrogant just very confident and self-assured. I've been told all my life this was a bad quality by everyone I have ever worked for. Until now. My confidence draws people to me and my positivity inspires people. This is considered a masculine trait, which I am happy to portray as a woman. The days of an insecure woman needs to go.
i think it's because humans usually like confident people, and arrogance is a common treat shared by confident people (and/or) people who know they look good
I know that when I'm fantasizing, it can be a turn-on to imagine being with a girl who's a selfish jackass/straight-up terrible person. Because scary/bad scenarios can feel exciting.
Doesn't mean I'd ever want it to happen in real life, of course. I always try to draw clear lines between the two.I have to say. The only time when I've seen Arrogance as a good quality. Is when It comes to Leadership. Making decissions that affect life or death of people. And the arrogant leader Had Better Know His or Her Shi* Inside out fowards and backwards. plus know now to control pekple. otherwise they'll be holding the bag and responsibility for the deaths or injuries of all people involved. All other time. arrogance is the worst quality to have
I have no idea. I absolutely can't stand arrogance. It's a huge turn-off for me. I do like it when a guy is confident with who he is etc or just accepting, but arrogance is a no.
My sister also likes arrogance in guys and I don't get it. The chances of being attracted to a fuckboy will rise to the roof with this attraction.Ya know I'm really not sure on this one either... but it's gotten me laid and in relationships Pleeenty of times. But then again, everyone hates a know it all right ;) and yes not giving a fuck about judgmental people shows confidence and confidence is a sign of a big dick... which is what hot sluts crave :P
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