Personally, whenever it strikes, I tend to sleep or eat a lot. Reading and watching movies helps me to escape the reality of being lonely too. How do you deal with it?
How do you cope with loneliness? How effective is the method you use?
This is your reminder that whatever darkness you are facing will eventually become light. That whatever knots are tied around you will one day be released. That every storm cloud will finally break to a baby blue sky. That you should not feel invalidated, or think what you’re experiencing somehow doesn’t matter (because it does), but that everything in this world is temporary. And this too shall pass.
This is your reminder that sometimes the hardest moments of our lives shape us. That sometimes the deepest heartache changes us for the better. That the relationships we lose teach us what to value when the next person comes along. That the loved ones we watch go to heavenwill give us lessons and blessings that shape the way we live from this moment on. That the unanswered prayers might be what we really needed. That every awful thing we experience makes us who we are.
This is your reminder that you won’t always feel the way you do right now. That in time, you will wake without thinking of the person who walked away, or the mistake you made. That with distance, you will heal from abuse and find your wings. That with space, you will begin to find yourself again, in ways that you never imagined you could.
You don’t just accept you find ways around it and go out look for things to occupy your time. Find a hobby or devote yourself to something really want to do or do in the future. I still don’t hang out much with people I am usually too busy to be concerned about loneliness. If you fill your life with joy and add value people will come to you. If you sit around moping about your lot in life you just repulse people and continue making yourself miserable.
If you want people in your live be an active planner and the organizer of fun activities. Most people are followers not leaders they wait around for others to do things. If you want to meet people to have in your especially good ones you got give them something they want to be part of. No one want to hang about with a loser or dwells his or her shitty circumstances. If you’re unhappy then your ass of to change it otherwise it will consume you.
I organize activities every few months or weeks for my group of friends but most of the times, they cancel everything at the last minute. I'm still not brave enough yet to join clubs or other group activities. Probably because of the rejections I've faced.
Sounds like you need new friends. Why not try making friends online in your city, town or state. Some dating sites do have options to look for friends/penpal sort things. Okcupid is a good one just put in your bio you interested in making friend. After that just be cautious who you meet and use common sense such as confirming who they are as well. You can take it as slow as you like online and might find more suitable and compatible friends.
Truth be told; your never lonely. Walk outside and your around people. Dalai Lama, a buddhist monk even says so, that the best way to think about loneliness is to think about the amount of people in the world, here with you. To some degree; everyone is lonely, with this in mind I don't think anyone would reject someone for small talk, even just a minute. Unless they have a mental illness like social anxiety or anti-personality disorder or perhaps their introverted. Either way; its best to think of the world as one massive pool of social people, your home is your boundary away from people. Once you step outside; everyone is here with you :)
Loneliness is different things to different people. Some think it is about being alone, others can be in a room full of people they are not close to and feel worse than if alone, because they are with strangers. It also depends on how emotionally intelligent and mature you are. Eating a lot is not sensible. Watching movies for hours might seem like a quick fix but eventually you turn into a very unfit, unhealthy couch potato who would not want to date you. So look to the future when you have your fixes.
I never thought I would say this, because I honestly hate doing it, but the best way for me is by cleaning, or exercising. It doesn't require much thought, but wears me out physically. Been swimming a lot since the neighborhood pool opened up for the summer because I only see my boyfriend twice a week due to work. It helps, and my house has never been cleaner!
As someone with no friends, I can relate. They tell me to go out more often, to go do stuff. But whatever I do, something always has to happen that fucks up the process. Causing everything to fall apart. Anyway, to avoid most of it, I mostly stay at home, watch a lot of videos while eating myself to sleep, loads of chocolate, once I a while a Bob Ross video on how to paint happy little clouds. I know that a permanent fix to loneliness would be getting into a relationship, but I never got that far. It would fix the loneliness issue, but bring new, unknown issues along with it.
I just have to be doing something... watching Netflix, eating... being at work... but when I'm at work I'm constantly seeing couples shop (I work in retail) and they look cute and happy and everything and I'm just like damn... I question if I ever will find someone... and I'm only 20 years old... right now in my life I'm better off being alone though I'd rather be alone than talk to someone who's wasting my time and not helping get where I want to be. But yeah... I may answer questions on here... and do stuff to keep my mind occupied. I build up worlds of magic.
There is nothing wrong about being lonely. tbh 'i have many friends but i don't have any 'is my case. But thats fine i do something productive, i paint i write, i get on my bike switch off my phone and dissappear, escape for a while into an adventure wanderlust, make someone laugh, you laugh your hearts out. And life its very happening there is always something to do. It is impossible to get bored or feel lonely. 😉Keep smiling be happy. And if you want to talk you surly can with me if you like. Dm me any time
In the past 2 years of staying in another country away form my family and staying alone. I've read about at the minimum. A hundred books and watched like all the tv series while in my tub. And spent like. More then a thousand on bath bombs and making them my self. I enjoy these small things
To be honest you never get used to being lonely and the worst thing is you start to believe you are a better person alone.
I used to have the worst communication skills so i slowly became more alone, at first i was shy about eating alone at restaurants then i stopped caring about what people think about me to the point i became stupid emotionally
Don’t cope with loneliness, deal with it, life is too short to spend it on Netflix and food
Maybe it's because I'm already a quiet loner that I don't usually feel lonely, but yeah, sometimes I feel like sharing my happiness or sadness with someone and I don't have anybody for that. There are only 1 or 2 people who come close to being my friends. Usually when I feel like I'm lonely, I play videogames or watch YouTube videos about whatever my interests are. It's similar to what you do, like distracting myself from that feeling.
The obvious solution to loneliness is companionship. Either through romance or friendship. You can find distractions but they’re only distractions. Temporary fixes.
Loneliness isn’t something one can cure alone. You have to venture outward and meet people who share your ideals and goals. And fortunately for you there’s over 7 billion people out there to choose from. Get out there and make some friends 👏👏
I generally become really sad if I'm lonely, and hence I write or read something or maybe watch funny series or movies. If I listen to songs, I tend to get sadder since I generally listen to sad songs. And if I have energy to do something I cook something. Cooking always makes me feel good. Nothing is better than food.
Well, I used to feel lonely because I didn't have friends that I could have hung out with or speak to. Things have changed for me, but I guess I just learned to be okay with not having company a lot. And I know not everyone is like me, but for me, what also helped me personally was having God in my life.
I feel like this most of the time to be honest, I work keeping to myself, and live alone too, rarely ever go out,
Mhhm, I suppose mostly I'll just like, sit in the dark and just drink, have thought with myself and such, I can't imagine that being s very mentally healthy thing to do but it works for me I guess
This app helps a little, taking my mind off it and occupying it with questions I can think hard about and give fairly long and comprehensive answers to most.
Otherwise, I I've been immersing myself in what little family I have and videogames in the meantime. I'm between semesters so I have a lot of free time, and I'm contemplating getting a job for the summer. I had a wife for a little while, but now I'm back to being lonely.
Personally I keep faith somewhere, whether it is by affirmations or by visualisation.
I introspect in a quiet place asking myself why I feel lonely. I write everything in the journal, so i can see where I am lacking. Loneliness often mean lack of attention to oneself.
I also got into spirituality and the universe. Understanding these laws helped me realise i am never truly lonely
Well, I’m not necessarily used to but I try my best not to rely on it too much.
I usually keep my mind active or I stay busy between school and work, my schedule is always complicated so I tend to hang whenever I get the opportunity but I pick up new hobbies or challenges
I'm working, almost every single day ajother country. These days I'm in crisis because I actually don't have time for serious relationships and when I open the door of my apartment, no one's waiting for me. It sounds weird but that's why I kinda chose this job, because when something serious is happening I'm kinda scared and I tend to run away.
I watch movies & TV, read, play video games, or sometimes I write. Anything that provides a sort of escape. Staying active is also good anytime you're feeling down. I took up cycling a while back, it keeps me healthy and feeling good, I'll also listen to an audiobook while I'm riding, just to keep my mind engaged as well as my body.
Well, technically I'm not alone I am wit my fam, but when I'm out and about I don't think about it too much, or just think a lot about things that interest my soul.. Sometimes I wouldn't mind a Girlfriend, or even a friend.. But like I said I don't think about too much.. I'm so used to it now..
I just try and socialize. Usually message anybody and everyone or go to a bar and try to make friends. Usually make a drunken fool of myself, however, also make the odd friend and am remembered so next time I go to the same bar, people I don't remember will invite me to join them. Rinse and repeat until you've got a group of friends you like
"I grew a flower that can't be bloomed in a dream that can't come true"
That means, by process of elimination, the flower can only grow in a dream that can only come true... loneliness isn't something you need to cope with, use it to better yourself and gain deeper knowledge of yourself.
I go for books, listening to music that makes me feel like I'm in a film or going out for a long walk through woodland/trees. Sometimes being lonely only acts as a driving force for creativity.
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