How can I take away my aunt's hot boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Now my 43 year old aunt got her self a 27 years old. Every is like you go girl , Oh but if it was me I'm 18 every one would be calling me a gold digger. OMG my aunt's boyfriend he is super cute. He told me one time good morning , I told him he looks sexy he just got up and left. Is he playing her to get do guys play hard to get. I set next to him when we were watching TV at my aunt's house he got up and left to the kitchen. Does he want me to chase him around? He barely response back when I talk to him or. Do older adult guys like to be chased around. If only he would break up with me aunt. Now why would a 27 year old dude would want to date an old 43 year old hag. I am 18 years old , I got better chances.

[yeidk]

You DON'T. You should NEVER try to steal someone from another person, especially not family/friends. It's not a good look. He's obviously avoiding you because your actions are making him feel uncomfortable. He isn't interested. He doesn't want you to chase him. He wants you to leave him alone. He is with your aunt for a reason. It's probably that type of attitude he's trying to avoid. In some cases woman are like wine and only get better with time. There's a connection between them you can't grasp because of that shallow thinking.
Leave him alone, grown men don't want to play games with women who behave like little girls.

[Asker]

You are sounding mean , What makes you think he doesn't want me?

[yeidk]

I am giving you the honest unfiltered truth you need to hear. I just told you. He isn't picking up what you are putting down.

[anniisa]

Lol what the heck did I just read. This has to be a troll question... it's just the way its been written. You sound younger than 18 to me as well.

He isn't playing hard to get, he is avoiding you on purpose because he is uncomfortable around you. Let him be, he isn't interested in you.

[Asker]

You're such a bitch! You are just jealous that. A 27 year old would never be interested in dating you.

[anniisa]

Lol ok

[Adam1978]

First of all you don't try to take family or friends dates/partners not even if they come back on the market. They should all be more important than a guy, there is so many others to pick from.

[Asker]

But he is so hot, Now you are a guy you know this things, Why is he ignoring me? Is he playing hard to get?

[Adam1978]

He is more likely trying to avoid trouble, he doesn't want to mess up what he got with your aunt. So he ignore your attempt as much as possible. So your interest might be flattering but it's unwanted. If he date your aunt is most likely because he prefer more mature women and at 18 your not appealing to a guy with that taste.

[Asker]

I am way mature for my age

[Asker]

I'm only 18

[Adam1978]

It's the maturity of your body we are talking about, some guys prefer older maturer bodies while other prefer young like you. Besides there is other benefits dating older women, such as experience, stability and have everything settled and for some safer, ie no demand for more kids. Not much different in what some women want from guy when they date older.

[Asker]

What if he was a female and my aunt was a male then everyone would be talking shit saying oh she's a gold digger but no since he is a guy everyone her friends and my family are like wow you go girl after she's been divorce for over 3 years.

[Asker]

I say she is a couger she should date someone like you for example.

[Adam1978]

She wouldn't be a cougar if she dated me, we are almost the same age. Cougars are older women that can date younger guys because they still got a good body even after all those years. It would be gold digging if he married her, or leeched her for money and gifts and trips and such. Most men wouldn't do that but they would use their properties and stuff while in a relationship.

[Asker]

He is a petroleum engineer so he makes good money. He makes good money enough to buy me Mac make up , Micheal kors designer handbags. With his salary he could buy a Mercedes but no he drives a stupid Honda Civic cheap car.

[Asker]

Well she is a couger for dating a 27 year old dude.

[Adam1978]

Sounds like you are more a gold digger then he, especially since you care about car brands, he knows better then throwing money in a pit that would be a Mercedes. Soon that brand will be worthless and his work line is in decline, more and more people will choose electric and not petrol based. I am pretty sure he can adapt as a engineer and do other type of engineering. So he isn't in trouble if he is willing to adapt.

[Asker]

I am Not a Gold digger ! My point is why bother going to college getting a degree if he is not going to enjoy life. The car he drives is an ugly 2016 Honda civic.

[Adam1978]

Maybe he just needs to get from A to B and the honda does that for him. People choose what they spend their money. I could own a expensive car, but instead I own none because I have no need for one. Public transportation works for me. Does that mean my engineering studies was worthless or that I am not enjoying life, certainly not. I just don't enjoy cars or I would have had one.

[Asker]

Why would you decided to go to college get your degree and choose not to buy a car? If I was you I buy myself a Mercedes.

[Adam1978]

Why that means monthly payments for parking and fuel, extra insurance. It's insane. I rather keep all that money and spend it on something I enjoy. And if I would buy a car it would be a Tesla not a dirty Mercedes. That car might actually be a investment if the get the selfdriving to level 4-5 one day.

[Asker]

Why do you grown ass people have to be so cheap?

[Adam1978]

As a responsible adult, you know that it's better to have money stacked away for a rainy day then waste it on something you don't need or want just to impress people who are as clueless as yourself. Because the smart people will completely ignore your attempt and be immune to your silly attempts to try to show that you are someone and falling flat on your face in the process.

[Adam1978]

The smart move is driving a old shitty car like a honda, no one will bother steal it and no one will target you for crime. And when it needs major repairs it's of to the junkyard or selling it to some poor soul.

[Asker]

Clueless? Me? How am being clueless? Because I think it is cool to own a Mercedes.

[Asker]

Why would you choose a Tesla over a Mercedes?

[Asker]

I was able I some how to check his income taxes he makes $60,000. If I was my aunt I make her m buy me a Mercedes and forget the ugly Mercedes , oh and the ugly twon house he lives in I made him buy a real house not a stupid so called home townhouse he lives in.

[Adam1978]

That makes you clueless, anyone being impressed by a person wasting resources and money in the open. Is bound to meet someone high in depts which can't handle when life throws them a curve ball and they lose everything because they never bothered securing their assets they where too busy wasting it on others and themselves. All that attract is gold diggers, criminals and other leeches. A smart person rather stay under these people radar.

[Asker]

This dude makes good cash but no he loves to live cheap. He is super hot and cute but what I don't like about him he is cheap.

[Adam1978]

That is the best way to become wealthy, it's more about reducing cost and expenses then high income. And why spend money if that doesn't give you anything you want in return. You can have a really good life living cheap because it's not about how much you spend its about freedom and peace of mind. Just knowing that your solid and that you could throw money at a problem if things took a bad turn. The option to say no to bosses and bad offers because you know you can ride out any storm.

[Asker]

Well I bet you are still in student debt,

[Asker]

Also you can pay someone to clean your place like a maid.

[Asker]

The guy he is cute sexy and hot that the pros the cons are he is cheap.

[Adam1978]

I still have student debts because I priorities to pay off the house. A maid is another running bill that simply doesn't build any value. It's better to not make a mess so you don't need to clean as often. But I rather have a cleaning service arriving once in a while then a car. That would at least give me more value.

[Asker]

What did you major in? My dream career is to one day be a model.

[Adam1978]

Master in Electrical engineering and I am also a Electrician but I have moved over to mostly do software development in the telecommunications field. Currently working with Android apps.

[Asker]

When you were 15 did you decide you wanted to be an electrical engineer?

[Adam1978]

No when I was 15 all I knew was that I was good at math and physics and that I didn't like sports, and I didn't want to sign up for study the rest of my youth. So I would be picking a Electrician education. Which after doing my military service, which gave me a breather from school ended up continuing school with a master in Electrical engineering, during which I learned that I really like programming and software engineering. So I ended up where I am, by going after what I felt was right for me there and then, which doesn't match what my 15 year old self would consider my future. You shouldn't plan your whole life as a kid, only your next phase.

[Asker]

Did you take the CET or SAT when you were in highschool?

[Adam1978]

I am not from US so that doesn't apply to me. Swedish school system is different, for example anyone with the brain for it can go for a master, your background does not matter. It's all about your dedication to study and learning as well as willingness to take on a debt.

[Asker]

I've heard some 16 years olds in Europe start college early which is very cool. I didn't score high enough on my SAT so I had no way to get into a good school , My parents wanted to kill me. I am thinking about either enroll at Penn Foster earn my bachelor's degree in business or just go to a community college.

[Adam1978]

No reason to rush education, you should have a life on the side and those who do rush useally lack on that aspect of life. And knowing how to interact with people is more important than a fancy quick degree.

[Asker]

How can you explain to me if you don't mind you are more older and wiser then me. You know better this tape of things could you explain it to me? Please Sir ,

[Adam1978]

Well first thing people need is understanding themselves, what are your strengths and weaknesses, take a path where your strengths is a advantage and where your weaknesses is irrelevant. Then start working on becoming better at what make you successful, that might mean working on your weaknesses. So if you got the body to be model that is great but being a model, isn't very useful, and your beauty will fade so you better focus on something that will last a lifetime. Sure you can utilize said body to charm your way in the world but that would only make you a gold digger and your path forward depent on other people and how much you could aquire through them. Without knowing your characteristics I can judge which path is best for you. But I have always favored a path where other people can't influence my path drastically. I feel more secured if I don't need to rely on them not just flipping my world up side down.

[Asker]

So if when you were 15 you didn't had plans on becoming an engineer , When did you realize you wanted to become an engineer?

[Adam1978]

I don't know, I guess it just came naturally, it wasn't a day I just decided that I wanted to be engineer unless you count they day I applied for university, I kept picking math and tech classes during school because I enjoyed them. I like to work both with my mind and my body. So after military service it was time to decide, try to find a apprentice position as electrician or go back to school. I chose the later because it had better prospects, what I really wanted to do was game design but I judged that the job market was to bad for it and decided to make that a hobby and go for something that was easier to get a well payed job in. Computer engineering, which is electrical engineering by the way. And I have made games in the past, I don't have much time for it any longer, that hobby was only feasible during my studies and unemployment. When you work full time in front of a screen you don't feel like to go home and do the same thing again the rest of the day.

[Asker]

Did you got a job right away once you graduated from college?

[Adam1978]

No I had to do some small job in between, before I could land my first engineering job. That first job is the hardest to get, and I don't think that has changed. But I also think that is very culture based, sweden is a moment 22 country, no one wants to hire someone without experience and you can't get real experience without getting hired. I managed to convince a company that shown interest that I could code C++. And went down for a interview and code test and got hired. From there it got easier for each job.

[Asker]

So the academic school system and internships are different then the U. S. ?

[Asker]

You are from Europe right?

[Adam1978]

Yes school is basically free, food and rent is not so you still build a dept by taking a student loan from the state. So if you still live at your parents or have a work on the side you could manage without taking a loan.

[Asker]

Is it true that true Sir , That when you are in a University you get difficult mean processors?

[Adam1978]

Professors right? Computer processors is just tools used in some hardware labs. And the question doesn't make sense. I didn't have any mean professors but I had several crappy ones that was unsuited to teach and they only did it because they had too, they rather do their research then teach in the subject.

[Asker]

Oh I apologized about my question ,

[Gedaria]

He may like older women. Me I love younger ones. We are all different. But I would try to approach him like a older brother. He could see different and give you a chance to talk to him...

[Darcia]

He is into cougars woman like that. Some men go for younger lady and are bashed for it but if that’s what your aunt likes why you gotta knock her off her grind. Girl just find you a older guy there are plenty looking for younger or older women. Don’t go for your aunt man. You’ll start a cycle you’ll find hard to get out of. Just find yourself your own boyfriend. There are plenty apps, go out and meet someone.

[AngelLily]

It's pretty creepy that she's dating someone who is old enough to be her child but do you really have to call her a hag also if he is trying to get with you secretly that means he's a cheater?

[Asker]

He always ignores me , He is cute but everyone I talk to him he never responded back. Which makes me feel bad

[AngelLily]

Since he's ignoring you i think it would just be better that you move on from him he's not worth it.

[Asker]

He hurt my feeling last night I confess to him. This were his 😪 Him: Listen little you what part you don't get that I don't like , Live me the fuck alone you are fucking annoying. I don't feel like changing a little girls diapers.

[AngelLily]

You should stop having anything to do with him if he treated you like that also is he dumb arnt y'all both in y'all's 20s?

[Asker]

I'm actually 19 years old , I hit the wrong age range by excited I was to late to fix it.

[AngelLily]

How old is he?

[Asker]

He just turn 27 last month.

[AngelLily]

He's a idot for saying that because that was mean and he's kinda close to your age.

[TacocaT6969]

Why would you want to hurt your aunt like that?

Shame on you.

[Asker]

I. Young and better then her

[TacocaT6969]

That’s a toxic mindset.

[R4vedave]

Or you could choose not to be a little asshole and mind your own damn business.

[winterfox10]

He knows that you want him, but he doesn't want you. He's trying to create distance from you, out of his respect for your Aunt.

[Anonymous]

Don’t be a hoe, find your own man instead of being trashy.

[Asker]

But my aunt is way to old for him. How am I being a hoe , I haven't slept with the guy he's being ignoring me. Could it be that he is playing hard to get?

[Opinion Owner]

Stop trolling

[dkotuh]

Or just find another dude and dont hang yourself up over one fucking person.

[worldscolide]

How bout you don't be a home wrecker..

[Asker]

Shut the fuck up ,

[worldscolide]

Lol no

[worldscolide]

You're either a troll, or a thot, or a genuinely bad person if you want to hurt your aunt like that.. So sad...

[SecretGardenBlood65]

What!!

[Asker]

He is super hot. This super cute 27 year old guy. I mean his puff arms his adorable face. OMG girl I am so not kidding you

[SecretGardenBlood65]

I think you are bad girl

[Asker]

How am I being bad he isn't married to her.