I'm sorry you're going through this, life can be hard at times.
It's hard to say for sure what the issue is just based off of what you've written and without knowing you, unfortunately.
However, I can relate. I was rejected and bullied throughout school for YEARS because I was considered a "weird dork", and was a chubby teenager who got made fun of for being fat. It did eventually turn me a bit bitter for awhile and made me lash out as well. However, the person I was hurting the most was myself in the end.
I'm guessing you lash out and are rude so that if you make people feel rejected, they don't get the chance to reject you first? Or is it an overcompensation for your insecurity about it? It could also be a sort of protective mechanism. Either way, it's good that you recognize this behavior, because that's the first step to fixing it.
Unfortunately, there will always be people who are rude for no reason (though are you sure it isn't because you've lashed out and been rude to them?), or will reject or negatively respond to you being nice to them. Those people are called assholes and they are the problem, not you, if you've truly done nothing wrong to them. Also, their behavior tends to stem from some sort of deep rooted issue, likely an insecurity of some sort. Most of the time, it has much more to do with an internal problem (like in your case with lashing out and being rude) than it does with anything personal towards you.
I know it is much easier said than done, but please don't let cruel people turn you into one of them, or cause you to hate yourself. Try to be the best person you can be, and if people don't think it's good enough, so what? Not people you'd want to be friends with anyway. Move on to people who will accept you, and trust me, if you're a good person, you will find them.
You might want to consider counseling if you think that would be of help as well.
Surround yourself with positivity and stop downgrading yourself speak life in your situation you're not a loser or lame and you have a purpose. Stop being angry at the world so try to find inner peace. If someone hurt you tell them that they hurt you. Your anger only hurt you and only you and their is no benefits in being angry and you need to let go of the past hurt and pain to find yourself. You're far more precious than you realize it will take a good treasure hunter to see your value and worth. Don't Lower you standards to please anyone.
Many of us have felt the same way before. Its something that gifted people feel as well. The people you feel that you don't fit in with may not be at your level. The things that you may think make you lame and a loser may just be ahead of its time. The facts are its people like you that make the biggest contributions to mankind because you don't think like everyone else. Treasure that about yourself they may be wrong. We wouldn't have radio electricity flight and a ton of things we are grateful for having if it wasn't for the people who may have not technically fit in. I know its hard sometimes to see it but you are here for a reason there is no doubt about that. Think of the odds. Imagine what we else we missed out on. Life is not easy and its not meant to be easy but you are already making a difference in a positive way just by having the courage to post how you feel. You have a group of people taking action to write you back generating discussions that will go beyond this post. Not lame not a loser thing to do. Powerful stuff if you think about it.
You may be suffering from mild depression and light medication could help. A family doctor can prescribe some. Also, try changing your bubble. We all set into a rigid life and rarely step out for new experiences.
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I'm sorry this is happening to you, I know the feeling I was a victim
of extreme bullying and physically abused and verbally abused by
my own Father, so I know how you feel
It's hard to get the gist of your question when your brief explanation ends with a contradiction.
You can probably turn it around if you try hard. Not everybody is gonna reject you.
Why do you feel that way?
Don't CHOOSE to be a victim. This is on you.
u That's a shame
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