Is an apology 16 years later too late? (Page 2)
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One can ever know what another person's journey has been like. You have just one thing to do after receiving her apology which is to either forgive her or continue to carry it around with the extra baggage which we all have to contend with. This opportunity has been extended to you to rid yourself and your spirit of the hurt.
An apology late is better than no apology at all as my grandmother used to say.
Just because she apologised, however, doesn't mean you have to accept it. If you write back is up to you.
It's only too late if they are passed. It's good to know you were not the problem and she realizes it now.
She had nothing to gain like you said. One should reply to any true gesture from the heart, it is a precious thing
She could be trying to be forgiven to assuage her own guilt. At that point she's being nothing but a selfish pig.
Don't be silly. The US still has not apologised for a lot of it's wars and crimes dating back decades.
As long as the apology is heartfelt and she does not gaslight or neg you after, then you should accept the apology.
I personally think that there is no such things as too late for an apology. What matters is the sincerity. I think it would be nice for you to reply. It takes a lot of guts to admit their wrongs and I think it would be nice for you to acknowledge that. But all the final decision is on you :) good luck
I wouldn't reply to it, but it seems they're seeking closure. That suggests they're remorseful.
Hopefully it brings you a sense of closure too. There's no need to reply, but don't dwell on the past.
I wouldn't necessarily reply, but I don't think it's too late. Actually to me it sounds like she really means it and that's what's important. Imagine if she had apologized immediately, maybe without really meaning it, 16 years later she wouldn't even remember what she did to you. If she does after all this time it means she feels bad and regrets it.
An apology is an apology in my opinion no matter how late it is. I'm just impressed your high school boyfriend's family figured out how to get in contact with you after 16 years serious props to them
I think it is actually quite cool that she was even thinking about it after all this time
Forgiveness is yours to give, I do not believe the idea to forgive and forget.
I only forgive people if I feel they deserve it.
i wouldn't reply, you have no reason to, she apologized and it appears you've moved on years ago, no need to sulk in the past mistakes
Only you can decide that. If a person is sincere and you're still harboring resentment, that speaks volumes about you.
Her apology is selfish she just wants guilty free consciousness for a horrible selfish act. I say let her reap what she sow
I agree with this too. Asker I don’t think you should respond. just know that you’re now in a better place. Forget about her.
apology never too late, you're only going to live 70 to 90 years, and after that, who cares?
No apology is too late. Better late than never. I always say.
she is trying to make herself feel better about things. leave it and her be. forgive her if you want but dont bother corresponding with her.
No. You can reach back out with a short acceptance and then just let the whole matter go.
If someone wronged me and they apologized for a guilty conscience it would only give me closure to that situation and i would not be angry at that person i would just never respond
No I wouldn't. Especially if she ruined my reputation because of her own insecurities. AND WHY DID IT TAKE YOU SO LONG TO APOLOGIZE? Im not gonna forgive you to assuage your own guilt! You deserve to drown in your own guilt until you die.