I think both are bad and the actions of a selfish person because in both those scenarios, they're only thinking of themselves and not the feelings of the person they're ghosting or leading on...
That being said, of the two being led on I'd think is far worse because they're actually playing with that person and their emotions. So even when that person realizes they're being led on feelings may have already developed making it harder for that person to just move on. Not to mention the time they wasted on someone that wasn't really into them. Time is something we don't get back. If people want to waste their time it's one thing, but they shouldn't waste other people's time. That and ghosting is cowardly, leading someone on is more deceitful.
Its a tricky one. Being lead on usually tends to lead to some kind of closure eventually once its communicated. Being ghosted is far worse in my opinion, just because you could been dating someone for 6 months, meeting their friends the day before and then being ghosted later the same day. At least, thats my ghosted experience. Still to this day I will never know why they dated me for so long, shared so much with me, too feel that they had to cut things off in such a tragic way. I mean, really, how hard is it to simply state its over and maybe a reason being so then i can either work on myself or get over it. I think ghosting is for people who can't be arsed to have a conversation and want an easy way to leave. I think its cowardly tbh. Where as I would have more understanding for someone who leads me on to later tell me actually nah I was never after a relationship, eventually they get to the point they have to explain
In my experience, being led on leads to being ghosted. Iāll one example, two years ago around this time, this girl on Zoosk and had my profile and sent me a message. I liked hers back and we start messaging that same night. I sent her a message and she didnāt respond, and later that night I sent her another message and she didnāt respond to that one, either. After ghosting me, she kept viewing my profile for at a few days, if not a week. I was hurt because by liking my profile, I felt she was interested in me, and I have no idea why she just didnāt come out and tell me she wasnāt interested.
Both really suck, but being led on is much worse. There's always a really demeaning insult to your intelligence that being led on has, where ghosting is more of an indictment about the person doing the ghosting.
Leading someone on says "you're stupid."
Ghosting says "I'm a shit head."
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Being led on. At least if they ghost you, you KNOW that means they're not interested in you, and while it hurts, you can block and ignore them.
If someone leads you on, they're implying they had feelings for you, or was at least a little interested. Imagine someone making you feel like you're special to them, only to learn they were using you, or liked someone else instead 😑
That's low.
I find being lead on to be worse, because there's usually much more time to develop feelings, because leading on usually takes a lot more time than ghosting someone. Leading someone on usually also comes with taking advantage of the person, and that's they are lead on. By ghosting that person is just using the easy way out to get rid of you. Which of course hurts as well.
Being ghosted for me would be worst. The feeling without closure is the worst feeling. If you were lead on at least that means there a sense of reason. To be ghosted it's the pain of what if and what happened.
By far - being led on is worse - it hurts you much much more especially since that you've had certain expectations and emotions at this point - trashiest thing to do and arguably the worst thing that happened to me when it came to relationships - to this day - fuck that French whore.. I already hated the French now I just hate them more
I said being ghosted. Being lead on sucks, but if they have an adult conversation with you in the end and explain or apologize, closure is easier. Being ghosted just leaves you feeling wtf? ? The worst though is being lead on AND THEN ghosted!
Being ghosted, feels terrible, but being led on feels terrible, and Iām left feeling stupid, and betrayed! So led on!
Both together is the worst! But being lead on, I don't think this is on purpose with most people, it's usually from feelings. Ghosting on the other hand is intentional and selfish, immature and disrespectful, so I tend to go for ghosting.
i have the horrible opportunity of being lead on then ghosted in the last year by someone, to the extent he would also check up on me after he ghosted me, it's crushing and has me very confused, mind games are a low for anyone to do. while in the end everyone says its a goodthing, no one ever deserves that and I hope what goes around comes around. I know everyone says move on and such I don't know I think human nature is to want answers. I just try to remind myself good people are out there and maybe one day we will cross paths and that person will be stuck in the same cycle for the rest of their lives.
Being lead on 100%
You don't want to talk to me - fine. I don't need an explanation I'm cool with it - you weren't into me, I get it.
Being lead on though is such a waste of my time, effort, charm, manners and good make-up.
For me, I would rather be lead on. The reason being is because I can still ask questions and get answers. If she ghosted me there is no communication. No questions and no answers.
Being lead on. I dont like being ghosted but it allows me to be on to the next 😍💃 Being lead on pisses me off cause the mf wasted my time
I feel like being led on is worse because that ends up being a huge waste of time, especially if it goes on for awhile.
Tough to choose between the two morally wrong things but given the options I will say being ghosted is worse.
They both are painful. It shows how immature and underdeveloped people can be. But honestly, lead on is worse. I say that with confidence because they suck you into nothingness and hurt.
Most women seem to only offer those two choices, even after I've been with them a long time.
I think it would be better to know that somebody doesn't want to go out with me anymore than to drag it out.
Needs more context. Lead on by talking only? Or lead on as in talking, sex and relationship talk. Because THAT sucks most. Same with ghosting. Ghosted after just talking, whateves. Ghosting after having being physical, not so much whateves.
I to have experienced both. For myself I would sooner a guy just ghosted me & disappeared from my life then to be lead on thinking the relationship is going some where.
Hard one for me to answer because like usual I see another angle. Typically you tend to get ghosted by those that were leading you on. So they actually go hand in hand with each other in my opinion
being lead on cause it wastes your time, being ghosted just ends it like that and youd move on from it eventually being lead on is doing so much for nothing
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