What's one Reality Check that Has Hit you?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Age. LOL. Getting older is a funny thing.

When you're a kid, you can't wait to get older.

When you're in you late teens, you think you are the shit.
You are immortal, and you think you know everything. You think anyone over 30 is old.
In my late teens and 20s, I was in with the surf crowd. I surfed, skateboarded, played intense sports and Frizbee, did lead guitar and vocals in rock bands, went to hundreds of concerts, partied like a Viking, went on adventures and explored, backpacked, drove fast cars, constantly had a girlfriend, ...

30s:
In my 30s, I was making really good money and benefits. I started accumulating assets. I was working hard but also doing some super fun stuff.

When I was 37, I lived with one particular woman for over a year. That year with her was a peak experience of my entire life. The sex was indescribable, but she was a wonderful person so many other ways. I will always be grateful for that experience. She was a gift from the gods. I'll always love her and will never forget her.

40s:
I finally started dating my future wife when I was 40 and married her when I was 42. We had a great time and did some really fun things together for nine years until we moved from southern California to Northern California. Two years after that move, we found the home we have been living in ever since. Actually we bought 30 acres of bare land and put the house, well, sceptic system, grid-tied solar, small orchard (including citrus), raised beds and gardens.
My wife built a business in the nearby town. We became part of the community in that town, became fairly well known, and made lots of friends.
I celebrated my 50th birthday in that town with friends.
50? WTF? How did that happen? But I was having the time of my life.

Time continued to pass. My wife and I did fun things all the time. I started up a new band. We took cool vacations.

I retired from my job after 30 years at age 56 and started receive a pension. I got some other jobs to supplement our income and finally went on Social Security and officially retired at 62. I got Medicare at age 65. Social Security and Medicare rock. But I can't believe that I'm in the AARP demographic. And senior discounts? LOL

It's great being retired. It's what I worked for. But it's so weird not being young and bitchen and feeling immortal. I still remember every part of my life from the time I was a little kid. I'm still the 8, 11, 17, 25, 37, 42, 50 year old - optimistic, ambitious, energetic, seizing life.

Both my wife and I sometimes see someone and say "Look at that those old people." And then we realize that we are about the same age. LOL

Anyway, the progression of time is interesting. It's impossible to imagine until you experience it. I know that I never imagined getting old.

My wife and I have been happily married for almost 25 years now. 25 years? That's insane! How did that happen? But we LOVE the life we have built for ourselves and are having fun. We're looking forward to more fun and adventure.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

People who were "the best of friends" and "inseparable" in their youth eventually go separate ways and never again see each other. . . with rare exceptions. I have a best friend who has known me for 50 years.

JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

When you see someone freak out over something, or have a bad day over something so minor. A reminder that you don't have to be like them, care less, life gets less stressful.

Another one is that you're only human, you're not perfect, you make mistakes. Even people you look up to make mistakes.

Another one bit sad is that as you grow older, your friends will, just like me, die eventually. I lost a childhood friend back in highschool, gives me that slap in the face, nothing lasts forever, so be grateful for the now

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

You cannot make everyone happy. Stop trying to be a "people pleaser," or care about what others think about you.
Just be you, and let the right people appreciate you~

... on a sidenote, I need to follow my own advice 😐

Jaminabelle070 · Answer

if u wait for love long enough u could end up alone and miss out on years of sex and one day when you are finally fed up with waiting you will have sex with a man that doesn’t care about you because you still haven’t found one that does and you will learn to dominate him even though you are submissive so you feel like you are in control and it’s for you

Hans222 · Answer

That nothing is certain in life!
Things happen which you would have considered impossible.
An example is the horrendous flooding in Belgium and some neighboring countries of last week. I've been in a are with less rain but the East has been devastated.
I thought this only existed in disaster movies 😟

docster · Answer

When I was between third and fourth grade America reached it's 200th birthday. In five years it will be it's 250th! I'm almost beginning to think I'm getting old.

llorando · Answer

The DNC only want's my vote during the general election. During the primary, their like f*ck off we don't want you vote than come the general election, viciously attack if I don't vote democrat.

Curmudgeon · Answer

My aging. I'm not a kid anymore, and many things for which I thought I could put off, well now, I'm too old for, like starting a family.

boggboss · Answer

That fairness is not a tangible concept its somthing we try to achieve but is completely reliant on the people in question caring for it

Agape93 · Answer

Just because someone seems great, doesn’t mean they have a heart at all. The brightest smiles hide the darkest shadows.

scooogy · Answer

I had told my father a dozen times back then to take care of the fish pond in the backyard in that cold winter, until one day I decided to go look after them. The first thing I saw under the ice was the biggest fish of all already dead.

rcljr · Answer

America is going to be failing like Venezuela within 2 years.

zoe2187 · Answer

Losing my mom. Life is what we make of it. I want to be happy in the end.

Wiredone · Answer

When I realized that I can't do all the things that I used to do when I was younger. It really sucks getting old

Anonymous · Answer

I feel guys or men need to be told or have this programmed in our brains more than women do in our teens, formative years, but life and society is meant to be unfair and an injustice

llcanon · Answer

here is reality check. i am 65 and finally realized that being alone in life as i am now is a far safer way to live ones life is alone. It is the reality that the human race from the first bite of the apple has man has not changed at all and when i say Man this includes women. We are still doing the most evil things we have always done to each other even up to the current time.

menina · Answer

When I realize that my mother never loved me or cared about me. I was living a fantasy and it was a rude awakening.

Alyssa11 · Answer

You are your own best friend.

exitseven · Answer

I am going to get old and eventually die.

CubaPirate · Answer

People are accepting social controls like sheep

allaboutyou2 · Answer

1, People are so easily controlled by government. 2, Government seems to want more control over everyone's life, they don't respect freedom they actually despise those that want to be free.

Likes2drive · Answer

Keep getting older and nothing is getting better

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Thats I can't rely on anybody but me

Dazedx0 · Answer

nothings lasts

jimmy2 · Answer

Damn that blood pressure how high

Willoughby23 · Answer

Im never going to have a fulfilling sex life

Anonymous · Answer

My parents will probably die before me

eagle1951 · Answer

life sucks

Supernormal · Answer

I guess i didn't check yet.

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