Do you ever feel pressured , to change who you are to please others?

[aqua0101]

I have learned , that you have to love yourself unconditionally, . When that happens, you won't have that need, to change , for others.

[Finchie40]

Not at all, if someone doesn’t like you for the way you are then they shouldn’t mean anything to you , people that are worth keeping by your side are people that accept you for you , you should never change who you are to be accepted by others , if you do that then it’s fake and it still doesn’t mean anything., Being accepted for image is pathetic unless you are making money from it , The only way you can change yourself is for yourself , but don’t do it for someone else, Most people in this world are brainwashed from what they see on tv or on the internet thinking they need to look a certain way , dress a certain way , be a certain weight etc. To be accepted , when It’s all false reality. It’s sad that this world is brainwashed that way , while these companies are laughing their way to the bank People are so brainwashed to believe image is more important then the heart, People that think that way are dealing with their own insecurities , I am not saying don’t exercise and just let yourself go but you do what makes you happy , not do what others want you to do , if someone tells you you need to lose weight or you need to dress better , tell them to go fuck themselves and tell them to look in the mirror , people that can criticize others to make themselves feel better about themselves are worthless pieces of shit and they are probably the most insecure person you will ever meet. People like that , just remove them from your life cuz they mean nothing , There time will come when they realize they were a total piece of shit for judging people that way , If this world was smart , we should all put are phones down and look at the world around us , 99 percent of the shit we see on the internet is bullshit , it’s a money making scam , I went to an amusement park yesterday and 99 percent of the people there didn’t look like anything that I see on the internet , cuz it’s all bullshit , put your phones down and look at the world around you , it’s a much better place then the social media false world

[Diablopawn]

I am who i am, if people don't like it, well fine. I am a Lone Wolf anyways.

[Cherry234]

I felt like at times I have been pressured to change for others. There are people who told me I need to "get out of my shell" or that I'm too quiet. I'm naturally introverted so I don't see anything wrong with not being naturally outgoing. I think it's better than talking too much and not being able to shut my mouth. If I really like someone or if there's a topic I'm passionate about then I can talk with that person or talk about that topic for hours. I have the ability to hold a conversation with someone even though I'm not really outgoing

[muscularbumblebee]

Occasionally yes but do it less nowadays and as I grow older.


For career: Tattoos and bodybuilding isn’t the usual for someone in the legal industry but if I cover them up with modest clothing I don’t see why it’s anyone’s business. On the other hand I still have to look professional and adhere to these lawyer standards if I was in a typical office


For men: not only having a muscular body and being tall for a woman but also dressing rather gothic and occasionally in men’s clothing as it’s more comfortable. Sometimes I get jealous of more ‘feminine woman’ but at least I’m myself.. mind you when I went on dates in the past there were times a few years back I would wear a tight dress to impress. Now I don’t do that for men but wearing makeup sometimes still (for other women too)

[ohshee]

Yeah I don't you kind of giggle when that happens everybody wants you to be somebody else so they can get what they want when somebody wants you to change there's a reason for it don't let anybody push you to do anything because to be honest you're the only person that compression yourself because you're trying to please somebody else forget that please yourself that others like you for you Who You Are and if they don't they can just keep walking if they truly like you as a human as a person as a friend they will be back you're the only person that could control yourself you're the only person in this world that can make yourself happy or sad nobody else somebody else those feelings come from the outside yourself that comes from the inside and the inside is where it's all at nobody can make you feel anything from the outside only you can do it from the inside it's your choice so smile if you want to change something about you that's your choice in only your choice

[caring__1]

This is very true. It's amazing, though, how many people who say this expect others to change for them. Connect with aspects of yourself that you appreciate and with others you appreciate as they already are... not for the potential they can become. If everyone is nurtured to be unique rather than conform, we'd have a much more productive and positive society.

[Moimaris]

Yes I’m struggling with it a lot. I think I have a small midlife crisis. I’m turning 30 and I feel lonely. I’m trying to act en dress to attract people but I’m not happy inside. I’m also an introvert and I’m always trying to please others. I’m going to try from this week on to change this. I need to be happy with myself.

[Dannymadness]

I hope you find the right outlook that you need! Your post made me sad because I used to feel the exact same way at 30

[aqua0101]

I'm sorry that you feel lonely. I'm an introvert too. I'm been through the same struggles.
Get to know who you are ; the great qualities about you. Introverts have a lot of good qualities. There is great website that you can go to , it's all about introverts. The website has great life stories , that might encourage you. The website is. Introvert , Dear. It's a great website. It's a community that discusses different topics. If you want to talk more , you can private message me.

[Moimaris]

@Dannymadness thank you. I guess I’m not the only one. Especially during summer time I feel lonely because I haven’t got a drink during this hole summer at a bar or restaurant. Sinds 2020 I had no visitors. But I guess I can handle anything else because being lonely is a terrible feeling

[Moimaris]

Thank you. Sometimes I wish I was more extravert. I just need some people who take me with them to join things. But I haven’t got friends. What is the name of this website?

[aqua0101]

Introvert , Dear

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I used to, yes. I was raised by a narcissist to be a people pleaser.

As I've grown older, I've realized my life is just so much better being true to myself and not adjusting my core to others.

I have "flex", but I have hard limits and boundaries I will enforce fiercely. I'll be polite or compassionate, but won't to out of my way to bring comfort to asshole strangers.

[JackSmy]

YEAH!! LIKE EVERY FCKING DAY!! Don't you?
People want ones that are like them, and ASS-KISSERS, as Bosses, and can't handle FREE THINKERS!!
I AM, WHO I AM, but every day, I have to suppress that, at work, because those IDIOTS cannot handle the TRUTH that I KNOW, and would speak, as to how they are FAILING, and it is SOOOOOO EASY to fix!! It's Painful, sometimes, watching them just screw up, and muzzle me, when I could help!!

[serious]

No, I don't. Yes I can change but that will be for the right reasons and not to please others. If people don't like me or don't accept me then so be it. I don't care.

I have always done what I thought was correct and I will continue to do so irrespective of the consequences.

[nobody4E]

Yes, almost 24/7. I have a stacking amount of selfhatred, so i always think i should remove myslef from a situation cause i won't be able to please those around me, i feel like a problem. And dislike me so i feel pressured by myslef yes. And it doesn't matter how kind people are or how much confirmation they give, it's almost like a tattoo in my brain. Like I'm wired to feel the need to be something different than myself.

[ChiTown33]

I am a member of the human race aren't I? To be human is to be expected to conform. I've learned over the years some things you just have to do lest you get shunned by society.
That's the great thing about getting older. When you reach a certain age you can go outside with out pants. You can give little kids the finger. etc. and people chalk it up to senility

[TommyMountainFigure]

It was something I learned to adjust from as I got older. Not now no. People take me as they find me.

[haooy]

This is where I get into problem with self love and self help, you should love yourself, but you should be also be a kind to people and treat them the way you want to be treated. In the name of self-love I have seen people complete a-hole and treating people like shit. I mean there is self-love but it ain't the only thing.

[Coulis]

Never happen. I don't know how to be anyone but me. That isn't to say that you don't adjust to fit the social context or situation. But to change me to please others? No no no that's just not at all how I do things.

[TacosRAwesome]

Not to please others but to get what I want out of life.

[nolabels]

There was a time in my life when I felt that sort of pressure, but I never succumbed to it.
I'm glad I didn't, and I no longer experience that sort of pressure.

[ConfusedMarried]

You should not put yourself in a environment where you can't be your self. Engage with people who like you for who you are without changing. I don't feel pressured to change who I am.

[Mgpretty23]

Only all the time. I have anxiety and this is the reason why I get anxious, I just feel like such a burden on others even though I’m not doing anything wrong.

[aqua0101]

You're not a burden.

[AndrewMG]

Maybe when I was younger... but I think that's part of growing up. Ironically moving away from home and living independently was the first time I felt comfortable with myself (despite that being the chance to reinvent myself lol).

[Lillie_xo]

all the time- haha - (っ- ‸ – ς)
I avoid doing it though ! My friends like me as I am so I dont see a point in changing ! (● ‿ ● )

[MCheetah]

I used to. Then I realized people suck and most of them are liars and phonies. I wish I could change the way I look, but that's mostly for me.