Ironically, my current crush I've been dreaming of since I left the city when the pandemic began. It's also ironic because she 100% didn't intend for it to be harsh and probably doesn't even remember saying it to me. But it's a massive part of the impetus for all of my self-improvement and massive change in the last two years. Proving her wrong and returning to her a different and better man to prove that I was always a good and quality person even back when I was a teenager, I just, had changed into someone worse when I had first met her. So, yeah. It's changed me. I also actually understand what she was TRYING to say to me at the time, she just didn't quite find the exact proper wording and I understand that. But unfortunately it came out how it did and I know that I have to prove that it's not true.
Do you trust me? -then being cheated on the next day, And I'm dissapointed in you -by my loving dad who has always given all of himself for me.
And yeah trust issues, self esteem issues, and a crippling fear of dissapointment. It's very hard to make any commitments or try new things because there's always a fear of failing, not being good enough, dissapointing myself or someone else.
My mother once told me that I looked like a monkey. She called me a bitch and a whore, when I literally haven't even had my first kiss yet. That was the rudest thing anyone has ever said to me. She is not toxic, she's undergoing chemo, so that's taking a toll on her. She's my mother, so it's fine, I guess. A guy whom I thought was very cool once said to me "stop being a suck-up, and don't give a shit about what people think of you. You're beautiful and the most wonderful girl ever. Fuck everyone who says otherwise" That was not rude at all, but sure helped me see myself in a new perspective and be a better version of myself.
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Telling me I deserved being raped. So, I never came to my family for help again.
I’m very sorry that happened to you and that your family treated you this way afterward. I hope you know now that none of it was your fault, even your family’s treatment toward you.
When I was young like 8 or 9 my friend (now not anymore) told me that I was sucking at english-my favourite subject... Now I am 13 and can quote most of the author's work... Got 5 1st prizes in creative writing and people online often mistake me to for an American... Another on was... Said that since I was a bit fat-ish when I was 11 I won't be able to wear fancy dress and won't be able to walk in heels I am slim with curves and can literally run on heels...
A thing I cannot seem to forget.. also I don’t remember what happened after or before but these words are just melted into my memory: "I'm embarrassed to walk with you in public when you're so short"
Came from my best friend, my childhood friend. We were about 13-14 or something...
I don't know if it's the worst thing, but thinking back on it, it really hurt. Especially because it came from someone I loved and trusted.
Oh I have had some hilarious things said to me. Let me see.
"I wish a truck would drive into you and reverse back and forth over you until you were dead. " I responded with does it have to kill me? What if it was to just break both my legs, would that be sufficient? I got a slap in the face as she ran out.
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Being called ugly when I didn't say anything about a boy's appearance really shocked and hurt me. I wasn't particularly crazy about him but I saw him as a friend. I reminded him immediately that he is ugly. It affected my self-esteem as he said it in front of the whole class and many much uglier girls were overjoyed to hear that. Now I know he was suffering from low self-esteem and rejection sensitivity as earlier he tried to get closer to me. Also the hottest guy in my class was always nice to me and another fairly handsome guy called me beautiful so now I don't cry over it. He ruined my image though as I insulted him back instead of listening to his nonsense.
Honestly that I intentionally and willfully disobeyed my employer and therefore do not qualify for unemployment. It is simply not true. Hurt my wallet big time.
As a kid, I did something really stupid that required a good sized amount of money to repair. My mom was a single mom, so we had not money for things like this.
After the repairs were completed and my mother wrote the check, see turned to me and said, "That was money that we needed. I'm very disappointed in you."
Those words cut into me like a knife. I've never heard anything that has made me feel worse about myself.
Well just being bullied or running into a-holes, changed my way of thinking of people. Hard for me to trust many people. I just see selfish, evil humans everywhere. It's so sad. I dont know how much faith I have in humans. We are the one's that cause all these useless problems of the world. I do wish I was proved wrong.
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She regretted later I saw her wants to apologize but she couldn't she knew I wouldn't accept it. It was my ex girlfriend she had insane trust issues I did show her she deserves better and I was good to her as any relationship there was up n down Im the one who always tried to fix it until one day she did make fun of me because I was depressed that moment everything shattered and I asked her final favour I told her to excuse me and I have to break my promise to her because she pushed me to the limit she finally felt I'm done and she never answerd me. I changed I met her 4 months later she became fat and looking bad while I was at the gym and I upgraded myself physically and mentally that changed me. But I forgave her later. At the end she knew Im genuine and not easy to find someone who will invest his resources just because he loves you and wants to show you better things. I saw her eyes want to say things but it was late I wish someone learn from this.
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My parents seem to have said lots about my love life.
First they were thinking I was gay as I never had a girlfriend and never said I was interested in anyone to them. Then after they accepted that I wasn't gay which took a few years. For them to mostly drop the comments about being gay is okay and all thay. They have sinced moved onto its okay to be alone.. some never meet anyone and that's okay and they are happy.
The saying of these isn't suppotive or anything. They contribute to my anxietyz depression, self-esteem issues, self worth issues. And the fact I struggle. to believe I'll find someone who loves me. Of if even I am lovable.
Where do I start 1. My father told me my sister and I where the worst thing to happen to him. 2. Was told by my father he would spend every dollar he had to make sure my ex got full custody of my son 3. Ex wife told me I didn't know how close I was to dieing in my sleep 4.(Can't blame my son he didn't understand but it still hurt) Mommy doesn't love you anymore neather do I
Just some shit in the past about how nobody would come to my funeral when I die of CF. It doesn't really bother me anymore because I've accepted that regardless of how well I'm doing now, eventually I'll die.
I was hanging out with people I thought were my friends when one of them introduced me to a person I did not know. They did it by saying, "This is <real name>. He is our resident dolt." They moved on before I could respond.
I think that some of the worst came from a 'friend' I had last year. It was a hell of a long list, but being told 'I hate you' was the worst thing she'd ever said to me.
When you've been verbally abused ad much as I have you don't remember anymore. Us guys have an amazing ability to shut our brains biff the second we get annoyed. I suspect it's because of some aggressive females during their time of the month. 😂
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