Why do I always put myself down?

[Anonymous]

I have a bad habit of putting myself down constantly. For example saying to myself that I am not good enough or not lever enough etc.

[Sonorous]

These are some thoughts I've recently had on this topic:

This way of thought that has helped me dramatically because it forces me to see things from many perspectives. It's to assign people's worth relative to something else. Not their innate worth, but whatever is the focus. That way the mind won't revert to subconsciously & consciously thinking things like a person being innately better than it.

We all have our strengths and weaknesses. So by thinking of their weaknesses & your strengths. You'd be working on taking them off the pedestal while putting yourself on a more level playing field. So you definitely should make a list of your strong suits/competency & find ways where other people are lacking in them.

It sounds like a shitty thing to do, but I don't think it's bad because you wouldn't be determining anyone else's innate worth. It's only relative. So they'd be honest distinctions that could help push your perception of your innate worth up to a healthy spot.

And when it comes to your perceived weaknesses, it's best to view them accurately as well. If they're lower than others, then they're lower. But it's always relative to a goal. So those same "weaknesses" could be strengths when another valued goal is defined.

[Sonorous]

Also, if you feel those feelings of inferiority coming up regardless, another tip is that you could remind yourself that even if they were the smartest & most competent person on the planet, compared to what we know about everything in reality, there's basically just as equally infinite of an amount of ways to which they lack knowledge relative to you. So based on the complexity of the universe, we are all very similar in terms of our limitations. Which is a thought that can help us not have such strong false thoughts of innate inferiority, innate incompetency, etc.

[Sonorous]

Also, though I don't care for the content of his other videos much anymore, this video has helped me a lot! I used it as a self-affirmation video. I'd also ask myself the same questions he proposed when feelings of not being good enough started to pop up. It really helped me change my perspective by questioning my beliefs which made it easier to alter my values. It made me bring up the requirements for what I deemed as worthy enough to affect my perception of myself. Because I think the goal shouldn't be bring up the self-esteem more than it should be to think about it in terms of bringing up self-acceptance:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eEVuvBk5X0w&t=475s

[PoliteSpeaker]

Because you have a horrible attitude and have poor self image. Listen to this audio for 100 days straight. And you will gain an understanding on what attitude is and change your attitude. Buy the book psycho cybernetics too and read a little each day for the next 100 days. Your attitude will change night and day if you do this.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/XxWm0gLNPbw

[Asker]

What's that video about

[PoliteSpeaker]

Attitude.

[InferiorElegy]

People have always put me down, even people I thought were friends and family. All these people can't be lying right? So if I put myself down then I must be just telling the truth.
I don't know about your past but maybe my example might help you find your answer.

[iBeowulf]

You were raised by a single mother and are overweight?

[Asker]

Single mother yes. Overweight no.

[iBeowulf]

Anthropologically speaking, matriarchal or female led societies, are necessarily primitive. Meanwhile, due to rampant anti male legislation and women filing 80-90% of divorces; marriage, cohabitation, sex and childbirth rates are at all time lows. Only your father can fix this, but even then, you'll be hard pressed to find a man. 🦒🍆🇺🇸🎲

[Asker]

From that statement, you seem triggered by the fact that 80-90% of women initiate getting devorced.

[talhahoonme]

I had the same problem. Change your friend circle, make new friends who are doing better than you. They will be source of motivation for you to propagate in life.

[jshm2]

Because you don't know better. Stay in school and always keep progressing.

[Wise4myage]

You have very low self esteem, but you can get help for that.

[Hangry06]

Low self esteem