u If you decide that marriage is not important for you, then marriage is not important. . . for you. But if you decide that marriage is important for you, then marriage is important. . . for you.
For me, marriage is important. It means that I am committed to making my relationship survive for the rest of our lives. It means that I cannot, and will not, simply pack my bags and leave. It means that I am dedicated to doing whatever I reasonably can to make forever happen for us, and that the marriage is more important than me, and more important than her.
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Too easy to get out of , and hardly even a commitment , official numbers 50 % divorce , realistic numbers 75 % ( we stayed for the kids , financial , house , friends.. whatever excuse " ..
That's not a real marriage , it's a piece of paper that few treat with any respect at all.
My aim on GAG is to help you untangle love, commitment, and all the messy stuff in between 😏
Marriage isn’t magic, but it *is* a powerful social, legal, and emotional contract. Emotionally, commitment can exist without a ring. Legally though, marriage protects things like inheritance, hospital access, finances, kids.
If both partners want the same thing, no marriage is fine. Just avoid “forever” talk with someone who’s actually scared of commitment. That’s the real red flag, not the missing paper. 💍💣
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I dont know. I guess it's up to the people does the license make your marriage better does it make it work better does it make you have more love does it stop you from arguing will it save your marriage if something goes wrong
Or do you have it for safety to show you are a 50/50 partner or do you have it because in God's eyes
he wants you to have it
it's like having a driver's license
can you drive better if you have it
Or does it make you drive worse
or not even know how to drive
Or do you need it because you have a bunch of other perks that come with it
that make life easier
How about a fishing license does it make you catch more fish does it make you a better fish cooker LOL
Well all three is just another reason to keep track of you
How about the dog license can a dog Drive can the dog get married where does the dog carry it on his person can the dog fish with it.. can he cash a check the bank
It is a symbolic piece of paper, actually it is more than that because it’s recorded in all sorts of places, like it affects your taxes and who inherits things when you die, but for simplicity let’s say it’s a symbolic piece of paper, AND it is really important to people who care about it. It is okay if someone does not care about it but many do and to those people it is super important. JMO!
Marriage is just a way for government to meddle in our personal affairs.
It’s important if the both of you truly love each other and want to spend the rest of your life together , it’s only a piece of paper if the both of you do not make it and decide to no longer choose each other
For me it is much more than a symbolic piece of paper.
I had long-term, monogamous relationships with girlfriends from the time I was 16. But I had no intention of getting married at a young age and felt no compulsion to have kids.
In my early 30s, I started thinking about finding a partner to settle down with for the rest of my life.
When I was 34, I even lived with one 31 year old divorcee for almost a year. After several months of bliss, she turned into a nightmare.
I met another lady when I was 36. She was 30. We wound up living together for two years. She was my ideal and was the first partner I ever fell heart and soul in love with. She loved me, too.
I would have been happy to spend the rest of my life with her. She was amazing.
But, as it turned out, we couldn't have made it as partners for life.
We separated for reasons that are hard to explain but had nothing to do with cheating or anything mean. We still loved each other. She moved to another part of the country
I was looking for someone who I could count on to stick with me through ups and downs for the rest of our lives.
The thing is, I considered marriage to be much more than a relationship. It was a lifetime commitment. It was the most important decision I would ever make. So I was very, very careful in selecting a marriage partner who I could trust to take it as seriously as did I.
For me, marriage is a solemn vow of honor "to have and to hold, from this day forward;
for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part."
It is also a legally binding contract.
I met my future wife when I was 40 and she was 37. We fell in love. After while I felt confident that she took marriage as seriously as did I.
We got married when I was 42 and she was 39. We have been happily married now for almost 30 years, had LOTS of fun, and built a wonderful life together.
We have had ups and downs but are both totally committed to each other and the vows we made to each other. We are partners in life; for life, no matter what. We take care of each other and work to insure each other's happiness and fulfillment.
I think taking marriage seriously enough to be very, very certain before making that decision is one reason why it holds as a live-long commitment.
If is wasn't for marriage, promises are just words and the commitment isn't as solid.
I will also say that marriage has financial and legal benefits such as:
Joint Tax Filing
Estate Planning
Insurance Savings
Retirement & Government Benefits
Next of Kin Rights
Hospital Visitation
Not as important like it should be. The trouble is is that there is a thing called divorce and with that makes a marriage unstable from the get go. Each person knows they can split whenever. Also there is no marriage police. People are breaking the marriage code all the time.
Modern marriage is simply a legal business contract between two people, a contract written not by either party but by the government. Churches rarely have any significant role today and have no legal powers once the contract has been signed.
No business person would ever agree to a contract as one-sided as the modern marriage contract. Note that men's expectations and responsibilities in that contract are all enforceable by law, but the majority of women's are not. That's not an accident, and it's precisely why so many men refuse to marry today.
It's more than paper. It's a contract in view of all of society. There used to be great scandal when a marriage failed. Bear in mind that from the government's view they want you having sex and reproduceing. They want it done on the most stable home possible. They want healthy well adjusted workers, mothers, soldiers and tax payers
You breeding is power in their hands. At least that's how it was. Now the powers that be seem to want death and plenty of it. No babies born and people made as weak and sickly as possible so they die.
A passport is just a piece of paper, but it lets you cross borders. A deed is just a piece of paper, but it means you own a house. Marriage is critical to people who truly value what it represents.
However, some people are simply not marriage-worthy. That doesn't make them bad people, just not the kind you would want to spend the rest of your life with.
m Symbols are of the utmost importance for people and societies.
But there are so many symbols to look at, hold dear or reject in this intricate society we live in. I'm someone seeing a better looking symbol in relationships that don't rely on marriage
Depends what you own. I wouldn't marry with real estate and assets separation. My stuff is mine his stuff remains his stuff in case of a divorce.
Of course those girly dreams about marriage ceremony etc. but somehow I've been never focused on that.
We girls control who we sleep with, men control who they marry. If you don't care their leverage becomes less effective.
To me, marriage is a commitment. Without it people will split the first time there is a big fight. Marriage takes work, commitment and understanding. Just living together takes none of that. If you are willing to live together for life why not get that piece of paper? Why are couples afraid of it if it means nothing to you?
Marriage is more than symbolic piece of paper. It is a highly unfair contract.
It is like signing a contract with a builder to build your home but he never has to even turn a sod of soil for the footings but you still have to pay him the full contract amount.
Four Weddings is out of date as the gov't has involved itself is non-married relationships as well and converted them to common law marriage.
@najekim I'm in Australia where marriage falls under our Federal gov't. It claims common law marriage doesn't exist.
However, if you are with a girl for 2 years plus 1 second then after walking out, she can take you to the same court that does divorces. So it is bullshit that common law marriage doesn't exist when she can go after your assets.
Quite a lot of commonwealth countries have similar situations and it was all done very quietly. I found about it when I decided to dump girlfriend
Yes. It is a really important symbolic piece of paper.
Symbols matter. Crosses and Crescents. Red Sox, White Sox. Stars and stripes. Dollars and euro.
They give us a notion of meaning without the blood, sweat, toil and tears of building meaning ourselves.
It's a tool to stabilize the ones with weaknesses in personal orientation.
This tool often enough is misused for manipulation, extortion, vanity and more.
Marriage is not useless. But it needs a modernization/update in thinking and in administration.
Therefore, I opt against it for myself.
marriage means that you will weather through good times and bad times with the same person for the rest of your life.
Merely dating someone means that you will only stick through the good times but not the hard times.
Marriage is the integration of that person's everything into your life.
Dating means enjoying the relationship for the benefits while it lasts. There is no integration.
I’m kind of torn on this issue. What do you think?
To me, as an Anglican Christian, it's very important, if I ever live with a partner, that we're married.
That’s wonderful. Do you believe in premarital sex?
Not really, but it hasn’t stopped me from having it.
I feel the same way
It is a legal entity that is recognized by the government and the church. I guess the fact that it takes some work and hardship to dissolve it makes people stay in the marriage instead of just walking away.
I think it's very important. It's a life project you're sharing with someone else. It's much, much more than just a formality or a signed document.
Important to those who cherish and honor it for what it's supposed to be. Not as important to those who believe they are just as happy as they are without needing some writing on paper.
It’s extremely important people that refuse to get married are not serious they don’t want to get married because they don’t k believe in love that’s’ all not the kind of people I want int Life
To some marriage is really important & to others it’s just a symbolic piece of paper. Divorce Lawyers that symbolic piece of paper.
Marriage is a legally binding contract as far as financials go. As far as the commitment part, that is meaningless especially in no-fault states where the cheater still gets half plus potentially lifetime alimony.
It's nothing more than a legal contract that favors your gender. Love doesn't require signatures, it thirsts upon communication and compromise. Of course money is going to get in the way but it shouldn't have to lead to a courtroom.
Depends where you live, here defacto partners have the same rights as married couples legally.
So its just symbolic
Is way more than a piece of paper. If it was just a 'piece of paper' more people would get married.
Important for me. I don’t want to be girlfriend at 40
I think it's meant to be really important but people treat it as if it's symbolic
Yes its important what people dont understand is if your going to buy property together. Marriage gives you rights. It covers you in the eyes of the law. I'm not giving anyone a life time without them marrying me
It's a legal condition with advantages and disadvantages.
"Legal Marriage" should be illegal. It is presently used for nothing other than allowing women to rob men of 50% or more of their life's income.
Any man who gets married in today's legal system is an idiot.
I think it's more important to women than men. They have a lot more to gain from marriage than men do.
Depends. In some places, there's serious tax cuts associated with that piece of paper. But I guess that's not the same everywhere.
Its not just a piece of paper. Its a union before the Most High.
I think marriage is very important but it takes the right people to get married to each other.
Personally both my husband and I consider it extremely important.
It doesn't make me anything other people's choices and feelings have no effect on my life. What other people eat, doesn't make me shit.
Marriage is just a legal way for women and courts to steal from and abuse men. Any woman that insists on marriage is a thief.
It’s extremely important thats the ultimate commitment to a couple
It’s really important because you have to pay to divorce someone you can’t get out of a marriage for free.
If all it is is paper then you shouldn’t have any problem getting one
It is very very very important to me
Marriage is a snare and a delsuion.
Yes, it is really important.
That's for the individual to decide based on their values. Stop having the world think for you or you will continue to be as ignorant as you are.
I suggest you find something better to do than troll my posts. You're starting to really get on my nerves.
From me honestly it's a worthless paper.
100% important.
It is important to me.
I think it's important.
Only idiots and women get married with these laws
100% important.
pile of shite
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