Is marriage really just a piece of paper?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ha! Come to think of it, I haven’t seen my marriage license in years. It was created by God so that husband and wife would become one flesh. Calling marriage “a piece of paper” is like calling a house a piece of wood or another human just a chunk of skin. Money is technically just a piece of paper but, for some reason, people will risk life and limb to get more of it.

BJP21 · Accepted Answer

From my perspective, to those that call marriage "a piece of paper" you are not dating material either. I've dated a girl who had that negative outlook on a marriage, and it was a hard pass. I want the same positive outlook as the person I want to marry.

Guy13 · Answer

Marriage as greater than State Paper License:  (Genesis 2:18) Then the LORD God, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him...22 And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to the wife, and they shall become one flesh... Gen 1:28 And God blessed them. And God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heaven and over every living thing that moves on the earth. Genesis 3 and 3:16 I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to your husband but he will rule over you. And to Adam: cursed is the ground because of you; and you shall eat the plants of the field...19 By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, for of it you were taken; for you are dust and to dust you shall return. Adam called his wife Eve, because she was the mother of all living. Genesis 4: Now Adam knew Eve, his wife and she conceived.  Part 2: He answered, "Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."(Matthew 19:4-6).  Part 3: Ephesians 5: 25 Husbands, love your wives v28 in the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church because we are members of his body. 1 Peter 3: Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands... Husbands, likewise, dwell with them in understanding.

kylee2437 · Answer

Depends. I think it’s not the marriage itself that matters as the two people in the marriages attitude towards marriage. If you have a negative mind towards marriage , you probably aren’t going to end up in a good marriage and at that point yes it’s just a piece of paper

tenor55 · Answer

Marriage, to me, is much more than a piece of paper. Side note: for those who use the Bible to talk about a Biblical marriage, our western, modern idea of marriage is not found in the Bible, unless my wife is property.

That being said, I believe that a ceremony and making of vows is extremely important. It is a public declaration of commitment. I don’t think our relationship would have lasted 50 years without that promise, especially since we were 16 and 17 when we made those vows.

I think, however, that the Church part of the wedding and the State part of the wedding should be separate. If there is a divorce, you don’t go back to the church. I think in England, the couple actually leave the Sanctuary and go into a separate room to sign the legal documents, then return to the Sanctuary.

That “piece of paper” is a necessary legal document, but has nothing to do with commitment.

Qdbrown · Answer

No, it's a corporation between you, your partner and the state, and the state doesn't care about the vows.

And within that corporation partners have various rights to operate within that corporation.

For a guy it's admitting that he will take on certain traditional roles and if he fails on his part, he will be drug into a family court and will be removed from the family home, will have to make cash payments to his kids, wife and pay someone else to raise his kids.

The wife can do anything she wants. She be the greatest wife in the world (preferred) or can become a nasty person, sleep with whomever, and run up debts to force her Ex to pay one day.

Ideally, the husband is a good guy, and the wife is a good girl. They build a life together and raise a family, going through thick and thin. It's becoming rarer for that occur, but one can dream.

CubsterShura · Answer

You can make it that way if you want to. It depends entirely on what it means to you but I would practically assume it may also depend on what kind of relationships are socially acceptable and if you are religious, then obviously it is so much more than a piece of paper as your rights and duties towards a spouse isn't the same as those towards someone who is not your spouse. Relationships outside of marriage aren't accepted in my culture so marriage serves a purpose that goes beyond the couple.

If you live in a place where you don't have to be married to be together with the love of your life, marriage can be whatever it means to you.

HighValue · Answer

Legally, marriage is mostly an oppressive contract to punish men if it ends in divorce, even when the woman is the one at fault.

Religiously, marriage is supposed to bond two people together for life and they are supposed to raise a family together (no kids with others out of wedlock).

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

We're just clumps of cells, which are just fragments of stars, which are just matter in some form or another depending on circumstances. Nothing matters, nothing is holy/ sacred, and there is no purpose in life.

Or, you can believe we're more than that, and marriage is more than a piece of paper. The question is: how do you want to live your life?

lightbulb27 · Answer

haha. No the piece of paper is something you get after you make the commitment to marry and jump through some societal hoops, not the least of which is a very expensive "party"... should you decide to have one. The marriage is what you form to bring lives together and possibly make more and commit to each others well being through life. That's not always easy, I've seen that with some friends.

cth96190 · Answer

Marriage is a one-sided contract with the government that has been written to allow women and the state to destroy men.
Not every woman is a lying adulterous cuckolding whore, who will steal everything for which a man has worked, but any woman could choose to be. It she makes that choice, she will be enabled and supported by the state.
Women and government are the enemies of decent men.

Lynnfriend · Answer

No it's a life changing decision concerning the lives of 2 people there families and possibly children in the future. It should not be entered into lightly. It is the combining of 2 lives into 1. I

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

All the theories and "in the eyes of god" stuff don't really mean anything at all when it comes down to it. It comes down to what you and your partner think it is. Do your best to be sure you know what your partner thinks it is.

melanieeeB · Answer

I think it is, I think a real and solid relationship doesn't need papers and I believe that marriage is not some magical thing that will somehow make a relationship better or more worth or whatever.

Anonymous · Answer

It is, or should be, more than that. But today it seems to be losing its meaning, which is bad for society (all of us). Marriage has been discounted and cheapened by the hi divorce rate and other issues that have made it very unappealing to today's men.

Itsnotperfect · Answer

I think the ceremony of marriage is for us to prove our commitment to love each other like the people we think are important in the world, we will commit to receive a marriage license in the presence of the state, we also need to hold a wedding for our family and friends to witness the confidence of our love, of course I love is the beginning of a happy family
When we declare like the world, we mean to never leave each other

Curmudgeon · Answer

No, but the value of it, especially to men, has plummeted. When something rewards less and pays off less, you get less of it.

Adaeva · Answer

A marriage license does not make a marriage. You could lose the marriage license and it would change nothing.

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

I don't understand the purpose of marriage. I am not against it but why spend so much money for it

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Yup, no video required. People who suggest otherwise either have something to sell, or they’re grossly ignorant.

Anonymous · Answer

To some it's a meaningless change to their tax filings. To others, especially those who wanted to get married but were not allowed to, because of bigotry and racism, it can be the most important thing in the world.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

On question alone: Quite the opposite. It's very serious, very attaching. You can't do it on a whim... it's a very big deal.

shanshu · Answer

The only difference with doing it legally and or just doing it without a marriage license is you both own half of each others stuff and the other is just a promise and vow that you will love each other

Paul09 · Answer

Yup. What exactly is the point of marriage and that paper lol. Does it make your love stronger magical? And then ends up with a very expensive divorce many times.

slatyb · Answer

No, it's a legal state with some important consequences.

tfan1 · Answer

Not to me. That paper is a true legal document that states my wife and I are married together and to each other. Just our two names. ❤️❤️🙂

linka_pat307 · Answer

Marriage is something beautiful because it unites two different people

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Marriage is a whole commitment on loving. Just a piece of paper can't be a commitment.

HaveNoName · Answer

If you do not believe in God and reject the limits that have been put on you, then yes, it seems like just a piece of paper.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No, it's a three party contract between the couple and the state in which the state can unilaterally alter the terms and conditions.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Always has been and always will be. It does nothing except make things legal.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Obviously there is so much value to a committed marriage beyond the legal.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

No marriage is a scared ceremony of two lives becoming one a holy Union blessed by The most high

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. Why does signing a piece of paper automatically mean I love someone more. You can love someone just as much without marrying. Marriage is a scam. Only reason to get married nowadays is because filing taxes is easier.

SakuraaaChaaan · Answer

Yeah. Why do people feel the need to trap themselves in fake intimacy with the law? Fucking weirdos.

Anonymous · Answer

When the government I'd involved yes. But in the church its a Godly union and commitment

Anonymous · Answer

Not only. This piece of paper is a contract entitling the wife to her husbands money. Effective by divorce.

msc545 · Answer

Yes, it is. So is a death certificate, a court order, and many other unpleasant things.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Legal piece of paper entitling a woman to your money. That's about it.

dillydoll · Answer

NO dear not at all... it comes with responsibilties / respect for each other

Makeushiver · Answer

Nope, it's just a bunch of zeroes and ones.

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

yep and court evidence maybe

Anonymous · Answer

It's what you make of it.

Cubus · Answer

State marriage - yes.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

it's a contract

Vikkrram · Answer

I don't think so

darkoflights · Answer

nooo

Pterodon · Answer

No it isn’t

straightmax12 · Answer

No it's not.

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